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Originally Posted by Speedy70  It was horrible for both of us.
He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.
I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.
We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.  |
I have four kids...their reaction to bedtime was different with each of them. We established a routine. I would read two or three books, even as little guys, put on lullabyes and nurse them. Generally they were asleep when I laid them down until they were at least 10 months...and then I'd lay them down and leave. If they cried, I'd let them cry for 5 to 10 minutes and go in and turn the tape over. Lay them back down and leave. If I was certain they were tired and not sick, I'd just keep going in, reassuring them and leave. It did not take long for the routine to establish itself.
But, babies don't mature on a time line. Their idea of permanence isn't all that put together at 4 months. If your baby isn't catching on, he may not yet understand that when he can't see you, that you are still there. Maybe you should give a bit longer and try again to let him cry it out. I'd rather error on the side of caution, if it were me.