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Originally Posted by sockgirl77  I'm taking your side in this thread because I've heard enough about this twerp. But, in all fairness, my mother runs everything by me first. She also sees us enough that she knows how I like things. She wouldn't dare go against my wishes. I am their mother and that supercedes all. Now, my ex's mom is another story. She'll sugar my son all up and he'll stay up all night for her. But, other than that, she knows my rules.  |
I agree with everything you say regarding your mom. IF
at the time, I had known it would be an issue, yes, I would've called her. And yes, I know better now (not that it matters since we don't get to see him much) (and it's not that I don't ask to see or have him for the day)
[quote=StrawberryGal;2851760][quote=kris31280;2851744]When you, at the age of 20 with a what, 5 month old baby, sit there and bash all the other advice you've received from all the other forum mothers in here... it gives me full reason to tell you to STFU.
I was 25 when I had my son... I didn't know everything then and I still don't know everything now... I'll never know EVERYTHING about raising my son, I'll only know what I've tried and what has worked for me.
I can also tell you that if I listened solely to what the doctor's told me about my son and how to keep him healthy, he'd not be as healthy as he is today.
My son has had difficulty with his bowel movements the entire 2 1/2 years of his life. Putting him on cereal too early (he was on it at 2 months, I'd mix cereal with formula and a fruit baby food and give him a feeder bottle, which he loved) didn't make him gain tons of weight and it didn't make his bowels any more or less difficult... what it did do was limit the amount of spitting up he did. They told me to try dark karo syrup, and it kind of worked... but not enough. They told to use miralax, and it kind of worked, but not enough. I heard from another mom to try using Good Start as his formula instead of Enfamil, and it was a little better. In the end, what has finally worked was something I tried myself... soy milk.
Not that everyone wanted to hear about my son's bowels... but the point is that the doctor's don't know everything... women have been having babies for thousands of years without the benefit of a doctor telling them what to do every step of the way... the only thing I was saying was that you had absolutely no right to insult every other mother on this board simply because you have a bone to pick with your future MIL.
And to agree with everyone else... keep your personal family drama off the board...
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AGREED! However, some of the PM have been taken out into the  , which is very uncalled for and immature.
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I haven't seen any PM'S posted....
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Originally Posted by chemommy25 If i insulted any other mother on here i apologize. I am very protective and havnt been away from my child not one full day since he's been born. and i like to know everything that goes on with him. thats all. I was just upset. But in the future i always want to know what is going on with him. He is my whole world, im sure every other mother in here would agree, they feel the same way about thier children. |
All you had to do was ask Richard what went on. But then he would've lied to you, and blamed it on me anyway. Which is why I'm made out to be the bad 'MIL' here. Can you not see the pattern here or what????
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Originally Posted by crabcake She didn't have to because I communicated with her about DQ's "do's and don'ts". You and your grandchild's mother apparently don't do that.
Now, how 'bout you answer my question? Why trust the word of your son when it comes to his own child's wellbeing when he's shown a complete disregard for everyone/thing else in his life?
And FYI, I'm not siding with your STB-DIL. I just think it's a viable question that you didn't answer in the middle of your love-fest with Che. |
It's hard to communicate with someone that has berated and cussed at you for off the wall BS. Yet they want to be a "part of your family".
But to answer your question: Why would I trust the word of my son etc...
He loves Che to the bottom of his being. He has been the primary care giver of his son since he was a month old. He would let nothing happen to him. And both my son's survived my 'old school' way of doing things. I would never do anything to intentionally hurt my grand children. Someone give me a little credit here....
As for his disregard for myself, his father and our home. All I can say is that when he is in a rage about what ever has him upset and he is in my home, no door, wall, vanity, ceiling is safe. He just thinks he can do what ever to my house. I was talking to someone earlier tonight and we came to the conclusion there were too many threats to beat his ass growing up, and not enough action taken. And I don't mean 'beat his ass' anymore then I mean 'teaching him right from wrong with a strong hand'. So in short, tough love has kicked in. The end of the free ride from 'repairs' (he's never paid a penny towards his damage). If you can't have access to do so it just won't happen any more.