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Originally Posted by tshowusa  It's been almost a year now and I can't get over this one guy. We dated for about two years. We connected emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Things were great and then I started getting cold feet about it all ~ I had been married before and was scared to get that involved again.
I wasn't even looking for someone when we met and he was different from anyone else I had ever dated. He was the 'father' type from the beginning and I knew it, I could just feel it. I knew he would be a great dad. He was such a caring man. Well....long story short. I miss him so much even still. It's so hard for me to date. I've tried...I compare them to him, I call them his name. It's the strangest thing. I don't think I ever loved the way I did with him. I just broke up with another boyfriend because I'm just not ready to totally move on. It's not fair to the men I'm dating. It's so difficult because I look back and see where I could have done things differently but more than anything....I want to be able to move on with my life. Does that require moving out of the area or what? any advice ?
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A lot of people have regrets for things they did or should have done differently but you can't keep dwelling on it because in the end it's only going to keep causing problems in any relationship you have. Even though now you think this guy was great, something did stop you from wanting more with him.
It doesn't sound like either of you chose to keep any contact w/each other or have made contact w/each other so could be a sign he has moved on w/his life, while you keep obsessing over him.
But I think the only way you are going to solve your own problems is to contact him and see where he stands. It can either have a positive or negative outcome. If negative then you need to put closure on the past and move on w/your life. I think when a relationship ends in many ways it ended for a reason - so maybe it was just meant to be.