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Originally Posted by camily  I thought it was great insight. Do you have appointments available? |
I'd make a great psychologist if it wasn't for two things:
1. I'm stubborn and don't always want to believe when I'm wrong. It's compounded by the fact that I have a hard time trusting people.
2. I'm not the most compassionate.
But you're welcome to PM me if you want to talk.
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Originally Posted by Larry Gude ...to me that it was a matter of environment. Older sis and me knew a time when it was mom and dad and kids and that's what life was. Every day. I was in 6th grade before I knew anyone else whose folks were split. It was just unheard of for kids in my town in the early/mid 70's.
The younger two grew up without that 'stability'. They were so young that the the only thing they knew as they became aware was individuals that were stable and individuals that were not and who was and was not their friend. They were NEVER in search of something that never existed for them. They were never taught that moms and dads go together and that's the way it is.
So, I think you got it. |
That would be the long answer of what I usually see from divorced families. The younger kids tend to come out better, faster.
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Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666 I'm sure your parents were capable, you seem to have come out of childhood with your head attached. I was making a remark on what your sibling had said.
Do you think that, because some parents tend to be more lax with their children as they are born, that your younger sibs are less affected because they didn't have the attention or nurturing you and your other older sib?
They may not care because your folks had relaxed by the time they were born and they don't share that bond or that connection 
Birth order and the number of children in the family can affect the individual child as much as the parents can. IMO My experience is the flip side of yours.
I am the oldest and was a very independent child and not at all in to hugs pr personal contact. My brother was the mama's boy type as a child and clung to my mom. Now we are the opposite, I am very close to my mom and my brother is estranged from her. Perhaps because of the way my mom parented or the interaction between the three of us, we were molded in to our adult selves. I am now the clingy one in spite of how I was a child.
Perhaps my kids will be the same way when they are grown because my kids mirror the way my brother and I were as kids. My oldest is far removed from the relationship I have with my "baby boy" and I never quite understood why |
I'm sure you'd love to know why, but I wouldn't concern myself with it too much. Everybody and hence every relationship, though there are a number of similarities, tend to be different. It's just the way it is.