[This_person]

Originally Posted by Wenchy

I knew a girl in college who went to NY to get a third trimester abortion. I could never look at her again. It wasn't a health issue, but sheer laziness on her part. I have no problem with a first trimester abortion and none at all if the parent(s) find out in the second trimester that the fetus has a genetic abnormality. Partial birth abortions sicken me.

I'm not trying to argue with you, I'm honestly looking to understand your point of view - from the point of view of the life of the child, what's the difference between the first, second, and third trimester for abortion in your opinion?

As far as killing a born child: Unfortunately, it happens frequently. That child would have been better off either never happening or being aborted once conceived. There are plenty of unfit parents out there.

There are plenty more good parents out there. Some cannot create children on their own. In my opinion, I couldn't say that another person would be better off having never been born when they were never born to find out who they are, what would have happened to them, etc. It's just as conceivable (no pun intended) that the child would help make the mother and father's lives that much better, or been the one that could cure cancer, or as many other options as you can think of and more. Taking that child's life, for the convinience of the parents, is (to me) just not right.

Until you are a woman, and find yourself feeling hopeless, you will never understand the choice some have made.

That's not true. A father is as much a parent as a mother. And, I'm a human, so I have an innate desire to not kill other humans - that's a stake in this argument as well.

I support Planned Parenthood completely because they provide birth control so the alternative doesn't even have to be an issue.

On that note of choices and options.

My daughter is coming home for the summer before a year abroad. She has an appt. with Planned Parenthood in July. They are providing her with 9 months of birth control (she pays for it) since she will not be around for her regular appt's (she has to go in every 3 months...pretty good, isn't it?)

If something happened to go wrong she would have four options.

Have an abortion.

Have the child and slow down/stop her college education (this is what I chose to do when I found out I was expecting her)

I could take over the upbringing of her child while she finishes her studies (I am lucky I can offer this option)

She could give the baby up for adoption.

*Thank goodness for birth control and Planned Parenthood for being there to provide it*

...because the above options make me cringe just typing them.

I agree those are not good options "if something goes wrong". But, realize she has more options than that:

Don't have sex with someone you don't want to raise children with.

Be prepared for all options other than killing your child if you choose to have sex.

You say the options make you cringe; which option would be worse for you to think of, your grandchild killed, or you helping your daughter raise your grandchild until she's fully ready? I don't want to do either of those with my children, but I know if there was a choice between those two, there would really be no choice.