| Well I'm just as new at this as you are, but everything everyone tells me is to do most of what you're doing already. Just keep doing it and don't quit or let up. It's frustrating, because it seems like you're not getting results, but you are, it just takes a while.
So far with our guy, about the only punishment that has any effect is timeout - *usually*. I'm amazed this works at all - the only thing keeping him in one place is his desire for my approval and recognition of my authority. And it only works at all so long as I make sure there's no way he can enjoy being there and that he absolutely does not move, not even his hands.
Unfortunately, it doesn't mean he won't do what he did to get there again in about five minutes. I sometimes sigh loudly to myself and mutter to myself "the DOGS aren't this hard to train, and presumably you're smarter than them". (Sometimes this is true - it took the dogs exactly ONE try with the invisible fence. After a year, I still have to make him sit down in the bathtub repeatedly).
But what I read and hear is that kids absolutely do remember and learn from this, and it's amazing how much of this they'll keep later in life. |