Pete
Repete
I am sitting at work minding my own business and the phone rings at 3:40. It is my beloved little boy who I took to enjoy Easter with his mother this weekend. He is sobbing and snorting and begging me to stay another day. I remind him that he has school tomorrow. He doesn’t care, he wants to “just be absent” because he doesn’t get to see him mom enough. I tell him to calm down so we can talk but he is now sobbing harder. I tell him that he got to see his mom last weekend and this weekend too and even got an extra day. The sobbing continues. He puts his mother on the phone and I ask WTF is going on? She starts with the “I am innocent, that he wouldn’t even talk to me for the last hour, he won’t change out of his swim suit, he wont get dressed, he wont get his things together.” I say it is dirty pool for you to have him call me sobbing and begging so I CAN BE THE BAD GUY AND SAY NO. She changes the subject and says “Why doesn’t he have a week off for Easter? They have the week off here.” I remind her that I am only a resident of the county and state and that I do not make the schedule, I merely follow it. Then she says why not let him miss a day of school and let him stay? I respond #1. It only lets boy know that school is not that important and he can skip it when something fun comes up. #2. By letting him get his way now that he has thrown a fit he will learn that fits work. So then boy gets back on the phone, begging more. I tell him that I am not going to and I cannot discuss anything with him while he is sobbing and carrying on. I told him to calm down, go blow his nose and I would call him back in 10 minutes and we would TALK about it. She gets back on the phone and asks what is up? I say I will call back in 10 minutes and talk to boy about it when he is calm. She starts ranting about not wanting to be on the road until 10PM because they have to leave NOW so to call back in 5 minutes. I walk around the hall and call back. Her daughter (21 year old welfare queen with an illegitimate kid) answers and says they already left to come here. (3 hour trip on a good day) I said I told them I was calling back in 5 minutes to talk to boy about it. She retorts “Well you already said no”.
Points:
1. I am soooo pizzed that she allowed boy to call me begging and crying so I could be the bad guy and say no. She needs to BE A FREAKING PARENT and not his pal. Exercise some GD parental control and make him do what you say!
2. If she thought for a minute I would say yes, she should have had the OVARIES to call and discuss it with me and then let the boy know what WE decided together. I should have NEVER had that discussion with him like that.
3. WTF is she doing waiting until 4PM to leave to drive 3+ hours in the rain. And how the eff is it my problem now that she will be driving late tonight. We discussed it before I left her place on Friday and told her to TRY NOT to get here before 4 but if she did call me and I would come home from work. She said NO PROBLEM I will have him home about 5.
4. There was a 70% chance I would have let him come home tomorrow and miss a day at school, if she had hung around for 5 minutes like I said.
5. Boy NEVER throws fits.
6. So now I get to sit here for 3 hours, worried about then driving in rush hour through Wilmington and Baltimore in the rain. He will get here at about 8, tired, upset and hungry and I will have to fix it and be grumped at and the target of his anger because I AM THE BAD MAN WHO WONT LET HIM STAY.
7. On top of everything else the wench is $ 3, 354.89 behind in child support. Has not paid a dime since 5/1/2003 when she quit her job to stop garnishment, and has NEVER paid voluntarily. $55.76 a week is just too much for her yet she can pay for a health club membership, go out every Thursday night, and I have never been to her house when dropping off the boy when there were not at least 3 QVC boxes on the table.
Points:
1. I am soooo pizzed that she allowed boy to call me begging and crying so I could be the bad guy and say no. She needs to BE A FREAKING PARENT and not his pal. Exercise some GD parental control and make him do what you say!
2. If she thought for a minute I would say yes, she should have had the OVARIES to call and discuss it with me and then let the boy know what WE decided together. I should have NEVER had that discussion with him like that.
3. WTF is she doing waiting until 4PM to leave to drive 3+ hours in the rain. And how the eff is it my problem now that she will be driving late tonight. We discussed it before I left her place on Friday and told her to TRY NOT to get here before 4 but if she did call me and I would come home from work. She said NO PROBLEM I will have him home about 5.
4. There was a 70% chance I would have let him come home tomorrow and miss a day at school, if she had hung around for 5 minutes like I said.
5. Boy NEVER throws fits.
6. So now I get to sit here for 3 hours, worried about then driving in rush hour through Wilmington and Baltimore in the rain. He will get here at about 8, tired, upset and hungry and I will have to fix it and be grumped at and the target of his anger because I AM THE BAD MAN WHO WONT LET HIM STAY.
7. On top of everything else the wench is $ 3, 354.89 behind in child support. Has not paid a dime since 5/1/2003 when she quit her job to stop garnishment, and has NEVER paid voluntarily. $55.76 a week is just too much for her yet she can pay for a health club membership, go out every Thursday night, and I have never been to her house when dropping off the boy when there were not at least 3 QVC boxes on the table.
Pete ... I soooo feel your pain buddy. 
It sux being made the bad guy/gal with your kids b/c the other bio-parent is a smacked azz. You have my sympathies. 
This strikes me as dirty game play and that that she really hadn't left yet, she made you out to be the fall guy already so her mission was accomplished. 
