PmoneyandTT
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We all wonder, Will I be loved when I am not needed? If you are the parent(s) of adult children you may harbor this fear. The truth of the matter is the need is still there, but the areas of need have changed. Although your children will always need you, what they need from you will change. The once needed to be nurtured at your warm breast; they now need to feast on the bounty of your spirit. A parent(s) needs faith enough to quit yearning for yesterday and fearing tomorrow. You can develop a fresh relationship with your daughter or even your son.
Avoid the temptation to attack the people who are a part of your children's adult lives. Many parent(s) make the mistake of trading the role of mother/father for the role of judge. They become critical of people who have influence with their grown children. Jealousy or even genuine disapproval of your children's relationships will not help. Prayer is a better choice than bickering and nagging! Remember Naomi, who stood by Ruth, her daughter-in-law. Her wisdom and gentle encouragement gave strength and grace to the young girl she influenced. Ruth and Naomi shared life, love, and intimate secrets without Naomi's judgement, criticims, or domination of Ruth. Ultimately Ruth became committed to naomi's God. The greatest witness we can have is the presence of grace. Be gracious and you will see God move in your life. You are entitled to your opinion, but once you have offered it, release your children to make their own decisions. Respect their choices and support them as best you can. Do not allow the enemy to rob you of the riches of your investment in your children. It would be foolish to lose all you have deposited in them over someone or something you cannot control.. Mary, Jesus' mother, didn't understand her Son. His decisons led to His death. Yet she supported Him to the end. You must be wise. If not, you will create a cold war that will leave you alone with bitterness and sad memories. Hostility will cause you to be left with Thanksgiving turkeys to eat by yourself. It is not worth it. The fragrance of love is sweet. With wisdom and grace and prayer, you can enjoy it all the days of your life.
Avoid the temptation to attack the people who are a part of your children's adult lives. Many parent(s) make the mistake of trading the role of mother/father for the role of judge. They become critical of people who have influence with their grown children. Jealousy or even genuine disapproval of your children's relationships will not help. Prayer is a better choice than bickering and nagging! Remember Naomi, who stood by Ruth, her daughter-in-law. Her wisdom and gentle encouragement gave strength and grace to the young girl she influenced. Ruth and Naomi shared life, love, and intimate secrets without Naomi's judgement, criticims, or domination of Ruth. Ultimately Ruth became committed to naomi's God. The greatest witness we can have is the presence of grace. Be gracious and you will see God move in your life. You are entitled to your opinion, but once you have offered it, release your children to make their own decisions. Respect their choices and support them as best you can. Do not allow the enemy to rob you of the riches of your investment in your children. It would be foolish to lose all you have deposited in them over someone or something you cannot control.. Mary, Jesus' mother, didn't understand her Son. His decisons led to His death. Yet she supported Him to the end. You must be wise. If not, you will create a cold war that will leave you alone with bitterness and sad memories. Hostility will cause you to be left with Thanksgiving turkeys to eat by yourself. It is not worth it. The fragrance of love is sweet. With wisdom and grace and prayer, you can enjoy it all the days of your life.