There's this kid that lives two houses down from me. She's my middle daughter's age (13) and in fact the two girls were best pals until they got to be about 11 and the girl started taking a "different direction".
Here's the story:
Her Mom was a crackhead bad-news type. She already had the kid when she married T, who is not the girl's father and is another bad-news type. When they divorced, the Mom didn't want the girl and was going to abandon her so T adopted her and kept her with him.
T ended up marrying our neighbor gal, who has a very nice home and three very nice children. Why did she marry him? Good question - we're thinking self-esteem issues.
The girl has emotional problems, as you might imagine. Now she's tossed into this new environment and starts acting out - BIG TIME! Stealing, lying, running around, etc. This takes it's toll on K, who now is regretting that she agreed to take this kid on (not to mention the father). She has her own three kids to worry about and the girl's jealousies and problems are just too much for her. K has started drinking a good bit - I assume because she's unhappy. But she still won't dump the chump.
K's three children have a father who they see frequently (he just lives down the road) and they are great kids. The girl, on the other hand, has nobody except her street pals. She doesn't hang out with any of the "nice" kids because they won't have anything to do with her because of the lying, stealing, etc.
Recently the girl was busted for having cocaine at school. COCAINE! IN MIDDLE SCHOOL! So K and T's solution to the problem is to ship her off to live with her bio-Mom - who has had nothing to do with the child for years.
I'm upset about this. I know there's nothing I can do about it, but I just don't think disrupting the kid AGAIN is the answer to the problem. She needs love, stability and discipline, something she's not getting at home and certainly won't get with her bio-Mom. Larry won't let me adopt her because he's mean
. But I understand his point, too. I just wish there was something I could do because I hate to see this kid fall through the cracks because nobody wants her.
So that's it - I just wanted to spew about this situation because I'm so upset by it. There's a part of me that's glad this kid is going because she's such a bad egg. But I still feel sorry for her and wish there was something I could do.
Here's the story:
Her Mom was a crackhead bad-news type. She already had the kid when she married T, who is not the girl's father and is another bad-news type. When they divorced, the Mom didn't want the girl and was going to abandon her so T adopted her and kept her with him.
T ended up marrying our neighbor gal, who has a very nice home and three very nice children. Why did she marry him? Good question - we're thinking self-esteem issues.
The girl has emotional problems, as you might imagine. Now she's tossed into this new environment and starts acting out - BIG TIME! Stealing, lying, running around, etc. This takes it's toll on K, who now is regretting that she agreed to take this kid on (not to mention the father). She has her own three kids to worry about and the girl's jealousies and problems are just too much for her. K has started drinking a good bit - I assume because she's unhappy. But she still won't dump the chump.
K's three children have a father who they see frequently (he just lives down the road) and they are great kids. The girl, on the other hand, has nobody except her street pals. She doesn't hang out with any of the "nice" kids because they won't have anything to do with her because of the lying, stealing, etc.
Recently the girl was busted for having cocaine at school. COCAINE! IN MIDDLE SCHOOL! So K and T's solution to the problem is to ship her off to live with her bio-Mom - who has had nothing to do with the child for years.
I'm upset about this. I know there's nothing I can do about it, but I just don't think disrupting the kid AGAIN is the answer to the problem. She needs love, stability and discipline, something she's not getting at home and certainly won't get with her bio-Mom. Larry won't let me adopt her because he's mean
. But I understand his point, too. I just wish there was something I could do because I hate to see this kid fall through the cracks because nobody wants her.So that's it - I just wanted to spew about this situation because I'm so upset by it. There's a part of me that's glad this kid is going because she's such a bad egg. But I still feel sorry for her and wish there was something I could do.
