redneck_woman
Starting Over
Just wanted to get some help and suggestions with my 5 year old that fights and talks back. I am currently going through a divorce & have been separated for over a year. My ex moved to another state way down south with a new family and wants nothing to do with his son. So that leaves me raising him on my own.
My 5 year old is to young to understand what is going on and has a big anger issue. I have put him in counseling and that helped for a short time. When I ask him to do something he will look me in the eye and say no.
For example yesterday when we got home from church I told him to go upstairs and take his shoes off and put them in his closest and to change his clothes. He told me NO! I gave him a warning and he still said NO so he sat in his room for a while. I told him when he put his shoes away and changed his clothes that he could come down. Well after about 15mins he came down and said he was sorry. So I had a talk with him about his behavior and explained why it wasn't nice to talk to mommy like that. Well wouldn't you know about an hr later he was back at it again. Asked him to do something and it was the samething. So I put him in his room again. Sometimes when things get really heated and he is so angry he will grab me by my throat and squeeze with all his might. (Not that it hurts me but I can't let things continue like this.)
I DO NOT talk bad about his father in front of him. I try not to talk about it at all because he just doesn't understand. But when I do I still don't talk bad about what he did. And I also tell him that it is not his fault for what has happen.
He yurns for a males attention so much. My guy friend that I have been dating for about 3 months, when my youngest sees him its, "M you know what or M this or M that." My friend handles him very well and understands what he is going through. I understand to but it is just putting a strain on me because my patients are wearing thin.
I have done just about everything from rewarding him for his good behavior to taking things away for the bad behavior. It is starting to bother my oldest with the youngest behavior.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
My 5 year old is to young to understand what is going on and has a big anger issue. I have put him in counseling and that helped for a short time. When I ask him to do something he will look me in the eye and say no.
For example yesterday when we got home from church I told him to go upstairs and take his shoes off and put them in his closest and to change his clothes. He told me NO! I gave him a warning and he still said NO so he sat in his room for a while. I told him when he put his shoes away and changed his clothes that he could come down. Well after about 15mins he came down and said he was sorry. So I had a talk with him about his behavior and explained why it wasn't nice to talk to mommy like that. Well wouldn't you know about an hr later he was back at it again. Asked him to do something and it was the samething. So I put him in his room again. Sometimes when things get really heated and he is so angry he will grab me by my throat and squeeze with all his might. (Not that it hurts me but I can't let things continue like this.)
I DO NOT talk bad about his father in front of him. I try not to talk about it at all because he just doesn't understand. But when I do I still don't talk bad about what he did. And I also tell him that it is not his fault for what has happen.
He yurns for a males attention so much. My guy friend that I have been dating for about 3 months, when my youngest sees him its, "M you know what or M this or M that." My friend handles him very well and understands what he is going through. I understand to but it is just putting a strain on me because my patients are wearing thin.
I have done just about everything from rewarding him for his good behavior to taking things away for the bad behavior. It is starting to bother my oldest with the youngest behavior.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.