Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Ok...got a scenario..just want some opinions. My BF has two kids-boy will be 4 end of March, girl is 18 months. BF has split custody 50/50. The custody agreement states that each parent is responsible for the children during that parent's 50% of the time. This means that there is no child support.
Boy is in daycare during the day. BF's mom watches girl when it's our time with the kids. When BF's ex has the kids, her mom watches the girl. The other day, ex calls BF and says her mom can't watch girl anymore, or not reliably, so she wants girl to go into daycare. Well, I don't know if it is financially possible for BF to afford the extra expense right now. Ex is going to get daycare assistance through SS (and pretty much every other kind of assistance available), so she gets a pretty hefty break off the price of daycare. She also has a BF that helps her pay her bills, not to mention her parents helping her.
BF has got childcare covered already, ex is the only one with the problem. BF said she should be responsible for childcare when she has the kids. Boy's daycare does not provide full day care for 18 month olds. They only provide care 3 days a week for a few hours a day. So, ex went out and found a new daycare, and now says she wants to switch boy to the new one, and have the girl go fulltime as well. Boy is doing extremely well in his current daycare. When boy was signed up for daycare, BF wasn't even told about it. He had no say in choosing the daycare. She just one day said "Oh, I enrolled boy in day care..." Ex wants BF to pay 100% of boy's daycare, and she said she'll pay 100% of girl's childcare. Well, this means she'd be paying less than she is right now, because she'll get assistance from social services. This will double BF's daycare expenses.
So, what do you think? Do you think BF should have to pay money that he doesn't really have right now, just because ex can't provide care for the kids when she has them?
Boy is in daycare during the day. BF's mom watches girl when it's our time with the kids. When BF's ex has the kids, her mom watches the girl. The other day, ex calls BF and says her mom can't watch girl anymore, or not reliably, so she wants girl to go into daycare. Well, I don't know if it is financially possible for BF to afford the extra expense right now. Ex is going to get daycare assistance through SS (and pretty much every other kind of assistance available), so she gets a pretty hefty break off the price of daycare. She also has a BF that helps her pay her bills, not to mention her parents helping her.
BF has got childcare covered already, ex is the only one with the problem. BF said she should be responsible for childcare when she has the kids. Boy's daycare does not provide full day care for 18 month olds. They only provide care 3 days a week for a few hours a day. So, ex went out and found a new daycare, and now says she wants to switch boy to the new one, and have the girl go fulltime as well. Boy is doing extremely well in his current daycare. When boy was signed up for daycare, BF wasn't even told about it. He had no say in choosing the daycare. She just one day said "Oh, I enrolled boy in day care..." Ex wants BF to pay 100% of boy's daycare, and she said she'll pay 100% of girl's childcare. Well, this means she'd be paying less than she is right now, because she'll get assistance from social services. This will double BF's daycare expenses.
So, what do you think? Do you think BF should have to pay money that he doesn't really have right now, just because ex can't provide care for the kids when she has them?