My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance

Where's the baby Daddy?

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance

Very rough way to begin life at the young age of 18. Did you discuss options with your daughter.

I was waiting for someone else to ask that..:lol:

Very rough way to begin life at the young age of 18. Did you discuss options with your daughter.


Don't you think "options" should have been discussed before she got pregnant?

Shes an adult.........

She can try SS, but good luck!

Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?



Yes. Get her in touch with Social Services. She will be insured at least the entire time she is pregnant.

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance


Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".

OF COURSE, I disussed options with her, but it is ultimately HER decision because she is an adult. And yes, she was well aware of the consequences that result from her actions. Let's just skip all the different scenerios & questions that everyone can come up with..... been there/done that with her.... trust me.
What I need to know, is my original questions..... does anyone know where she can go for medical assistance ???

Yes. Get her in touch with Social Services. She will be insured at least the entire time she is pregnant.

THANK YOU, for your straight answer to my questions. I will have her set up an appt. with them

OF COURSE, I disussed options with her, but it is ultimately HER decision because she is an adult. And yes, she was well aware of the consequences that result from her actions. Let's just skip all the different scenerios & questions that everyone can come up with..... been there/done that with her.... trust me.
What I need to know, is my original questions..... does anyone know where she can go for medical assistance ???


Health Department or Social Services.

Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".

I'm sorry.... I don't know what "gurl" is

I'm sorry.... I don't know what "gurl" is
Gurl=girl

Yes. Get her in touch with Social Services. She will be insured at least the entire time she is pregnant.
:yeahthat: That will be her best option. It will cover her pregnancy and up to 6 weeks after (I think)
Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".
Unfortunatley marriage or the *birth* would be a life changing event. In this case it would not cover her policy. Infact most insurance companies tell you that certain things will be covered only after a certain length of time (pregnancy is normally 12 months)

I'm sorry.... I don't know what "gurl" is

Your daughter.

I was 18 when I dropped this same bomb on my parents. Luckily, I was covered under their insurance until I was 19. The insurance paid for my entire pregnancy and the child's father covered her once she was born.

My mother was also 42 when I made her a grandma, it took her awhile before she admitted to herself that I was pregnant, but she supported me an my decisions.

I now have a beautiful 13 year old who is the light of my life, and my mother's little darling.

Carenet of Southern Maryland......they can help answer many of your questions and put you in contact with all kinds of other services in the area......congrads to you!!! I am also a new grandmother, my daughter was 24 when she told me she was expecting...she is not married but she and my 7 mth old grandson's father have bought a home together and are doing very well.....I would love to see them get married, but that has to be a decision they make together on their own....I could not be more thrilled being a grandmother....it is my greatest joy, and it will be for you too....it seems you are a very loving and caring mother...just be there supporting your daughter and do what is best for her and the baby...

I am sure it is helpful to have information from someone who has "been there." Thank you, Peaches76!

Preciousness: Check your PM. She can get insurance, WIC, and can get help from CareNet. :) Best wishes to you and your daughter.

I agree to the above, very well said :)

I agree to the above, very well said :)

Good on you to help your daughter. Lets just hope there is no infections or STDs.

to all the wonderful people in SoMd.
I appreciate the kind words of encouragement and the advice & directions that were sent. Thanks again, and Happy New Year to you all.

to all the wonderful people in SoMd.
I appreciate the kind words of encouragement and the advice & directions that were sent. Thanks again, and Happy New Year to you all.

Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!!

[QUOTE=nachomama;3505124]Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!![/QUOTE

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

Heath Dept. 301-475-4330
Find babys Daddy and see how he will help....Takes 2 ya know...

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

#1 For the record - It's not my daughter.
#2 She is the mother of an 18 year old; I think the ultimate decision rests between her and her daughter, and we need to stay out of it. She came on here asking for advice about medical insurance - not how we thought she should handle the situation.
#3 You are treading into very emotional waters right now...Proceed with caution.

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
Pregnant women can usually get on medical assistance if they don't have health insurance.

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#1 For the record - It's not my daughter.
#2 She is the mother of an 18 year old; I think the ultimate decision rests between her and her daughter, and we need to stay out of it. She came on here asking for advice about medical insurance - not how we thought she should handle the situation.
#3 You are treading into very emotional waters right now...Proceed with caution.

I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.

I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.

You quoted my quote. :shrug: No need to get nasty, but I'm sure they probably have weighed all of their options and decided on what was best for them. And you're right, your family issues are none of my freaking business.

I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.

:lmao: I love when people say that. You don't HAVE to divulge information unless you choose to. :lol:

You quoted my quote. :shrug: No need to get nasty, but I'm sure they probably have weighed all of their options and decided on what was best for them. And you're right, your family issues are none of my freaking business.

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.


You just made it our business by posting :yawn:

Its not quoting the right person...

You just made it our business by posting :yawn:

Its not quoting the right person...

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smartazz

I was younger when my daughter made me a grandmother. If she can't qualify for medical assistance, take her to the health department. She can qualify for their program. Good luck, it could always be worse, just keep that in mind.

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

No prob. :huggy:

I was younger when my daughter made me a grandmother. If she can't qualify for medical assistance, take her to the health department. She can qualify for their program. Good luck, it could always be worse, just keep that in mind.

My mom was younger than that when I made her a grandma too. :blushing:

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smartazz


:diva:

:diva:

Muah - love you too:killingme

My mom was younger than that when I made her a grandma too. :blushing:

I was nearly 20 when my daughter was born, she was nearly 19 when hers was born. Like I said, it could be worse. :shrug:

My Momma had me at 20.......:yay:

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
Possibly the Catherine foundation in Waldorf? 301 932 8811 at 3065 Old Washington Rd. :shrug:

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

I am so thankful my daughter chose LIFE, It would have broken my heart if she had not, but she believes like I do that it is a life before birth at the time of conception...
My mother was only 15 when I was born, she had a lot of support from family, I nor she feels that I ruined her life because she chose Life for me....
Be careful what you say because choosing LIFE as been the greatest Joy for my mother, and my daughter as well as me being a Grandmother...
Unselfish people give LIFE and find the Greatest joy!!!!

Life... :huggy:

I am so thankful my daughter chose LIFE, It would have broken my heart if she had not, but she believes like I do that it is a life before birth at the time of conception...
My mother was only 15 when I was born, she had a lot of support from family, I nor she feels that I ruined her life because she chose Life for me....
Be careful what you say because choosing LIFE as been the greatest Joy for my mother, and my daughter as well as me being a Grandmother...
Unselfish people give LIFE and find the Greatest joy!!!!

Everyones situation is different. I'm glad yours worked out for you.

Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".

Most insurances treat pregnancy as a pre-existing condition and will not cover it.

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

If it were my daughter I'd argue the opposite. I'd do my best to convince her not to abort the baby. I'm not fond of abortion, but it would ultimately be her decision. It's a very personal decision for everyone and it's just really retarded to think you know better what to do than the person that's actually in the situation.

JMO :shrug:

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

I cannot believe you had the gall to write something like this. I am sorry that you are so ignorant as to believe abortion is a form of birth control. Every woman has a right to make a decision but.. for you to say "I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" where do you get that right??? Did she say it was a mistake did she say she did not want it? Maybe your niece is too stupid to take care of a child or to get the father involved in raising it or really just didn't want it. Maybe your niece is not emotionally ready to have a child that was her choice. I think if you don't want a child then don't open your legs however, if you open them be aware of the outcome and deal with maturly. You know nothing about this family and have not right to that comment.
Who are you? The grandmother while shocked is trying to help her daughter and grandchild not enlisting the help of people who think its right to destroy a living cell.(Is that politically correct wording?)

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

I cannot believe you had the gall to write something like this. I am sorry that you are so ignorant as to believe abortion is a form of birth control. Every woman has a right to make a decision but.. for you to say "I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" where do you get that right??? Did she say it was a mistake did she say she did not want it? Maybe your niece is too stupid to take care of a child or to get the father involved in raising it or really just didn't want it. Maybe your niece is not emotionally ready to have a child that was her choice. I think if you don't want a child then don't open your legs however, if you open them be aware of the outcome and deal with maturly. You know nothing about this family and have not right to that comment.
Who are you? The grandmother while shocked is trying to help her daughter and grandchild not enlisting the help of people who think its right to destroy a living cell.(Is that politically correct wording?)

I never referred to it as a form of birth control so do not accuse me of something I did not say.

Most insurances treat pregnancy as a pre-existing condition and will not cover it.

sssshhhh, don't tell anyone this, but when my hubby and I got married ( I was with child ) and his insurance picked me up and the pregnancy...after we were married....

I never referred to it as a form of birth control so do not accuse me of something I did not say.


Forgive me if I mis-quoted you did you not say I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" If that does not put abortion in the same catagory as Birth Control then where does it put it. And I did not accuse you of saying anything I quoted you I accused you of being ignorant if that helps.

By the way, many have suffered from the pain of having an abortion for years after, mental as well as phsyical.....it is not the easy way out...it is a mistake and I would not suggest it at all as a way out...there are other options if you are not able to care for a child and adoption is a very unselfish a loving way to go....

my butt bone hurts I have no clue what I did to it :cds:

Possibly the Catherine foundation in Waldorf? 301 932 8811 at 3065 Old Washington Rd. :shrug:

That's exactly what I was going to suggest. The administrator belongs to my church and is a great lady. Let me know if you need any help. Congratulations!

I just want to make one thing clear. I did not intend to offend anyone. I responded to a quote that was made and gave my opion and only my opion.

Abortion is the right of every woman. However, my personal feeling is that it should not be used as a form of birth control. If you are not emotionally ready to have a child don't spread your freaking legs. Accidents happen and nothing is 100% but it is your choice to have sex and believe me there are many women out there who would love to chance to have that child that you so carelessly are throwing away. I am not trying to start a war but the comment just irked me

IMO having a child is never easy, 18, 28, 38 whatever. It is a personal choice. Start a new thread if you want to discuss abortion opinions. She asked about isurance.

That is all.

Forgive me if I mis-quoted you did you not say I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" If that does not put abortion in the same catagory as Birth Control then where does it put it. And I did not accuse you of saying anything I quoted you I accused you of being ignorant if that helps.

Ignorant....I'm not here to argue with you, if you want to fight with someone, join a freaking boxing gym.

I just want to make one thing clear. I did not intend to offend anyone. I responded to a quote that was made and gave my opion and only my opion.

Abortion is the right of every woman. However, my personal feeling is that it should not be used as a form of birth control. If you are not emotionally ready to have a child don't spread your freaking legs. Accidents happen and nothing is 100% but it is your choice to have sex and believe me there are many women out there who would love to chance to have that child that you so carelessly are throwing away. I am not trying to start a war but the comment just irked me

and I'm the one that irked you I suppose. we are all entitled to our opinions and to be clear, no, I do not think abortion is birth control....I have a problem with that too. So, I guess you disagree on abortion if a women is raped?, sorry but I disagree. Also, medical issues?, I have a family member with epilespy and she had to have one or it would have taken her life and the babies life....so it's not okay then either? See, all situations are different and like I said, I'm not here to agrue with you personally, I'm just stating my opinions also.

By the way, many have suffered from the pain of having an abortion for years after, mental as well as phsyical.....it is not the easy way out...it is a mistake and I would not suggest it at all as a way out...there are other options if you are not able to care for a child and adoption is a very unselfish a loving way to go....

My cousin had an abortion and she was dancing at a club later the same day. :shrug:

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

Just wondering why her not having the baby was the best decision she could have made? She could have had the baby but not kept it and still would not have worried about being a mom at 18. There are plenty of people that are out here wanting kids and can not have them. And what is so awful with having kids that young? Life is always going to be hard no matter what age you are when you have kids.

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance


My next door neighbor volunteers with the Crisis Pregnancy Center. I bet they would be able to help steer her in the right direction for assistance.

Congratulations! My mom became a grandmother at 33 (not because of me...)... My mother-in-law is the WIC coordinator for So.MD. I'll ask her tonight if she has other suggestions not listed here.

not sure what county you are in but this is how it is done in St.Marys...

She can go to social services on Mon, Wed, and Friday from 8-11am and apply for state insurance. I would advise getting there at 7:45 and wait at the door or else she will be there all day. She will need b/c, ss card, last 4 paystubs, (my mind went blank on what else she might need, check the website). Sounds like she probably qualifies. This insurance includes medical, dental and prescription at no cost with no deductible or copays.

She can also go to the health dept. any day or time and apply for the insurance. In the end it is the same insurance. The health dept. will also set up a wic appt. if she wants it.

state insurances don't do the pre-existing thing.

Good luck and no matter what give your daughter your support. My mother did not and it was very tough on me.

not sure what county you are in but this is how it is done in St.Marys...

She can go to social services on Mon, Wed, and Friday from 8-11am and apply for state insurance. I would advise getting there at 7:45 and wait at the door or else she will be there all day. She will need b/c, ss card, last 4 paystubs, (my mind went blank on what else she might need, check the website). Sounds like she probably qualifies. This insurance includes medical, dental and prescription at no cost with no deductible or copays.

She can also go to the health dept. any day or time and apply for the insurance. In the end it is the same insurance. The health dept. will also set up a wic appt. if she wants it.

state insurances don't do the pre-existing thing.

Good luck and no matter what give your daughter your support. My mother did not and it was very tough on me.

Wicomico County was the same. I went to the health department and social services was also there. I was working full-time but had no insurance.

Medical Assistance (state) covered the delivery and hospital stay 100%. I went right back to work after the birth and didn't do the WIC thing but was so grateful for what the state provided. WIC was there if I needed it, but I didn't.

[QUOTE=nachomama;3505124]Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!![/QUOTE

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.



Before I start this is JMO.. I'm 17 and IF I was pregnant I would never abort. It would not be an option. I am pro-choice but I only believe in abortion for people who are raped and whatnot. If a person thinks they are mature enough to have intercourse then they had to deal with the consequences no matter the age. Aborting like others have said can be mental and physical health concerns. could you imagine aborting a baby at 18 and then when someone asks you if you have kids you say no and can't stop thinking about how you could have and you pretty much killed someone cause you didn't want the responsiblity and you were selfish and just wanted to have the fun it involved.It would kill me everyday if it was me. That's JMO

In other thoughts, presiousness, I'm glad your daughter chose life and I hope she has a beautiful, healthy baby and that they have a wonderful, success life together!

Congratulations! My mom became a grandmother at 33 (not because of me...)... My mother-in-law is the WIC coordinator for So.MD. I'll ask her tonight if she has other suggestions not listed here.

:jet: I do see the possibility though. My BFF is high school is 31 now and has a 15 year old daughter. It's definitely possible but eff that.

:jet: I do see the possibility though. My BFF is high school is 31 now and has a 15 year old daughter. It's definitely possible but eff that.

My 1st cousin had her daughter at 17 her senior year. Her daughter delivered her granddaughter at 16. The apple didn't fall far from the tree unfortunately...

The pregnancy care center past gate 2 can help out with a direction. My sister went there when she was 17 and had a baby) good luck with everything!

The pregnancy care center past gate 2 can help out with a direction. My sister went there when she was 17 and had a baby) good luck with everything!


I think that's were my neighbor volunteers. :yay:

That's exactly what I was going to suggest. The administrator belongs to my church and is a great lady. Let me know if you need any help. Congratulations!

Thank you

IMO having a child is never easy, 18, 28, 38 whatever. It is a personal choice. Start a new thread if you want to discuss abortion opinions. She asked about isurance.

That is all.

My sentiments, exactly. I've gotten the advice I was looking for, and we are following it. Now, it's getting to be a battle about options. She IS having the baby, and we are going to love her and the baby til the end of time. I just needed some direction, for my daughter. I appreciate everyone's help.

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Before I start this is JMO.. I'm 17 and IF I was pregnant I would never abort. It would not be an option. I am pro-choice but I only believe in abortion for people who are raped and whatnot. If a person thinks they are mature enough to have intercourse then they had to deal with the consequences no matter the age. Aborting like others have said can be mental and physical health concerns. could you imagine aborting a baby at 18 and then when someone asks you if you have kids you say no and can't stop thinking about how you could have and you pretty much killed someone cause you didn't want the responsiblity and you were selfish and just wanted to have the fun it involved.It would kill me everyday if it was me. That's JMO

In other thoughts, presiousness, I'm glad your daughter chose life and I hope she has a beautiful, healthy baby and that they have a wonderful, success life together!

You sound like a very smart 17 year old. Thank you for your well wishes.

Yes start with Social Services or the Health Dept and they will tell her where she needs to go for WIC, MD Medical assistance, Section 8 and the MD Intependence card (or whatever it's called now). The important thing is to start now so she's in the "system" before the baby comes.

Also, she may be eligable for some kind of tuition assistance. Tell her to look into that as well. It doesn't hurt to ask because I know a couple of women that the county paid for their schooling and the state paid for their college.

There is also "van pools" (not sure what they call it) but it will pick her up and bring her to her Dr appts if she doesn't have a car.

Good luck and keep in mind that it's ok to make a mistake...its not like it's the end of the world.... It's how you handle it and move on from there that matters.

I was in that same situation many MANY years ago and having my daughter gave me a stronger spine to get out/off welfare and do something big.

And I did...

It'll be ok:huggy:

Yes start with Social Services or the Health Dept and they will tell her where she needs to go for WIC, MD Medical assistance, Section 8 and the MD Intependence card (or whatever it's called now). The important thing is to start now so she's in the "system" before the baby comes.

Also, she may be eligable for some kind of tuition assistance. Tell her to look into that as well. It doesn't hurt to ask because I know a couple of women that the county paid for their schooling and the state paid for their college.

There is also "van pools" (not sure what they call it) but it will pick her up and bring her to her Dr appts if she doesn't have a car.

Good luck and keep in mind that it's ok to make a mistake...its not like it's the end of the world.... It's how you handle it and move on from there that matters.

I was in that same situation many MANY years ago and having my daughter gave me a stronger spine to get out/off welfare and do something big.

And I did...

It'll be ok:huggy:

Thank you for your post. We are going on Thursday to fill out the paperwork and see what she qualifies for, so she'll get the ball rolling well in advance.
I appreciate your information.

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

Well, it was a good choice to not be a mother but perhaps giving it up for adoption would have been a better choice. Lots of childless couples out there who can't have children and would love to be parents that can actually provide more than a single mother with nothing to offer. The mother is still giving the gift of life, but also not being selfish to the child by keeping it and having nothing to offer this child. It's in the best interest of the child...not the parent. Just food for thought!!

Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.

Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.

Good for her that she has made her decision, it is much easier when you have a family support network, as she does. Congrats!! Becoming a single mom can motivate some people towards a brighter future because now, it's no longer about yourself!!

Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.

Don't forget to check out Carenet...they also have support groups for new young mothers as well as young fathers....they are free and a great way for your daughter and the baby's father to make friends with other young couples that are also learning to be new teen parents as well....

Don't forget to check out Carenet...they also have support groups for new young mothers as well as young fathers....they are free and a great way for your daughter and the baby's father to make friends with other young couples that are also learning to be new teen parents as well....


We're planning on going there Thursday to get her signed up for the Mom to Mom program. Sounds like it is a great program and she'll have outside support. She needs all she can get.
Thanks

and I'm the one that irked you I suppose. we are all entitled to our opinions and to be clear, no, I do not think abortion is birth control....I have a problem with that too. So, I guess you disagree on abortion if a women is raped?, sorry but I disagree. Also, medical issues?, I have a family member with epilespy and she had to have one or it would have taken her life and the babies life....so it's not okay then either? See, all situations are different and like I said, I'm not here to agrue with you personally, I'm just stating my opinions also.

Ok, this quote REALLY bothers me. A baby is a baby and doesnt get asked to be born into this world. The whole problem I have is you saying a baby with medical conditions. That makes it sound like its ok to use as "birth control". I had a son with a serious medical condition. Do you think I should have aborted him? Not once has that ever crossed my mind and I dont believe in abortion. I would rather fight my hardest battle to make his life as good as possible instead of saying "Oh well maybe the next one will be normal". Anyone who has a baby has to understand things happen for a reason and I was given my son with his medical condition for a reason. I was 19 when I had him flown out 6 hours later to have open heart surgery. He is now 10 years old and everyday I thank God for him and I wouldnt take back what we've been through. When you become a parent its not about you anymore its now about the child growing inside you.

Ok, this quote REALLY bothers me. A baby is a baby and doesnt get asked to be born into this world. The whole problem I have is you saying a baby with medical conditions. That makes it sound like its ok to use as "birth control". I had a son with a serious medical condition. Do you think I should have aborted him? Not once has that ever crossed my mind and I dont believe in abortion. I would rather fight my hardest battle to make his life as good as possible instead of saying "Oh well maybe the next one will be normal". Anyone who has a baby has to understand things happen for a reason and I was given my son with his medical condition for a reason. I was 19 when I had him flown out 6 hours later to have open heart surgery. He is now 10 years old and everyday I thank God for him and I wouldnt take back what we've been through. When you become a parent its not about you anymore its now about the child growing inside you.

With all due respect ... that is why it's a "choice" and is legal. I'm very happy and appreciative of all the efforts you've given to your child but this thread swerved WAY high and left.

I will put my "nuts on the line" and tell you face/face without a keyboard to hide behind that if the doctor told me when I was pregnant that there was no doubt the child would be severely handicapped...I'd abort.

There, I said it and still stand behind it.

I know my shortcomings and it was hard enough as a young person having a healthy baby without complicating matters.

God Bless you for your efforts, you are a stronger woman than me but don't condemn me when I have a "choice".

I'm not an uneducated, underprivileged person...I have my own mind and I HATE when someone tries to stuff their opinion down my throat and infer that I'm a bad person for having an opinion opposite of theirs.

Again, I wish you and your family blessings, health, happiness and good luck but don't point your finger at anyone for having an opinion.

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance

she can call 301.609.6812 and make an WIC appointment. she can also apply for medical assistance, either on line or at the health dept in her county, now before enrolling in her other insurance at her work. the 2 insurances will work in conjunction, but the medical assistance will cover the baby and get the mother the deserved care she needs now regardless of the circumstance. once the initial shock is over, there is nothing more wonderful than a healthy WIC BABY. with all the milk, juice and other healthy foods, it makes quiet an impression on those kicking fetuses. WIC is a wonderful nutrition program for pregnant moms and infants to age 5. I encourage anyone who is elligible to apply. after age 5 there is free lunch, if you meet the requirements.
After the baby is born, the mom can opt for formula, and or there is support for breastfeeding moms. the postpartum mom gets WIC for an additional 6 months, so it makes it worth while to apply asap.

she can call 301.609.6812 and make an WIC appointment. she can also apply for medical assistance, either on line or at the health dept in her county, now before enrolling in her other insurance at her work. the 2 insurances will work in conjunction, but the medical assistance will cover the baby and get the mother the deserved care she needs now regardless of the circumstance. once the initial shock is over, there is nothing more wonderful than a healthy WIC BABY. with all the milk, juice and other healthy foods, it makes quiet an impression on those kicking fetuses. WIC is a wonderful nutrition program for pregnant moms and infants to age 5. I encourage anyone who is elligible to apply. after age 5 there is free lunch, if you meet the requirements.
After the baby is born, the mom can opt for formula, and or there is support for breastfeeding moms. the postpartum mom gets WIC for an additional 6 months, so it makes it worth while to apply asap.


Thank you, so much. She has a WIC appt. the beginning of March, the earliest appt. they had. She's now on Medical Assistance and going to the doctors, as needed.
Thanks again for your post.