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by....Wanting Something in a Person that Wasn't there
alias....Blonde

I lived with a guy for 14 yrs. We owned a house & eventually a business together. He told me he was divorced. I eventually found out he wasn't. (I was married twice before and so was he-so that's why i went for the living together thing) He still had contact with his X(or so as he called her) They didn't have children, but he said he was in contact with her because he raised her child which he called his stepdaughter.(okay understandable) The stepdaughter came over the house one day which followed by bringing her mother(the supposedly X) which was drunk and made a big scene in front of my house screaming "He's my husband" ! So...i wanted nothing to do with them and then he swore he would take care of the problem.(he didn't)

I went through this period of back and forth lies, manipulation. I didn't know how bad it was getting. He chased all my friends away and slowley chipped away at me until i quess i was under control of some sort. I periodically found crack bags at the house. I couldn't figure out how he was doing it with out no money. I quess his X was giving and doing the crack with him. I was just trying(i quess) to keep thngs together and move on to a normal life. He was unpredicable and was nice and a minute later nasty.

Years passed....he kept avoiding the questions, problems, drugs,etc. It wasn't all that bad, but I don't know how i stayed for that long(i feel so stupid now) I worked on the house like a man, putting floors in, tile, painting, cutting the grass while he was so lazy it was unbelievable. I don't know why i stayed(it wasn't because of love) I think i was worried about my children. I wanted them(2 boys) to have a good school and a nice house to live it. I also spent my time going to school part time and furthering my education. I was not happy with him that is for sure! FINALLY... I planned my escape.... and left....he made the house go to foreclosure and stole money from the business after i left. Before i left he left for 2 weeks(apparently with the X) She got arrested for hitting a car, drinking and driving, etc. I have a restraining order against him and a charge of arson threat. They both have court cases coming up in Sept. HA! I think it's so funny.

He keeps calling my job. I'm recording it and taking it to the judge in Sept. He needs to leave me alone. He went to a court case last week with his x(really wife). A friend of mine spotted him there with his X. He called my friend later and told them not to tell me he was with her.(ha) He keeps leaving messages on my answering machine at work like he wants to go back together. Can you believe it? I can't wait until i get him in court. That Mother needs to leave me alone! It has been almost 9 months now and i'm so happy that i left. I have to go to the court case with him, but i'm also thinking about going to the(x-really wife's)court case just for revenge and a good laugh because of all the yrs of ...whatever it was...

I don't know why i wrote this...i feel really dumb. You wouldn't know it if you met me. I have a good job, a nice car, i'm attractive, a nice girl, etc. I guess i'm just putting out a warning to people be careful out there. There are alot of bad people. If it happened to me, it could happen to anyone! Be careful.

ps. How can you be married to someone and they leave you and are living with another woman for 14 years and you still see them? Also his (x-really wife) had a boyfriend and a child with another guy. The kid is with him now! Didn't she even care about her child? If my husband left me and was living with someone else i wouldn't talk to himif hecalled. Is this what drugs do to you? JERRY...JERRY!!!!:jerry:

Pss. This will never happen to me again!

Psss. Eventually...i will be seeking a 50/50 relationship. Right now i'm just getting my ducks in a row & taking care of me.

Blonde

You can cut my grass and then we'll see where it leads :flowers:

You can cut my grass and then we'll see where it leads :flowers:I need 3 sliding doors replaced and a small bathroom painted.

Only if you weed eat. Remember? 50/50 (ha)

no problem! I will be there for you! I'm charging now though. I will come by later and give you an estimate.

Only if you weed eat. Remember? 50/50 (ha)

I mow the lawn and wash the dishes. I'm the guy that washes the clothes then drys them, folds them and puts them away. I vacuum the carpet and mop the kitchen floor. I dust the stuff and cook the food.

I wouldn't know how to act if somebody did half of it for me :lol:

Yeah...i would be trying to help them with their half. ha!

Only if you weed eat. Remember? 50/50 (ha)

no problem! I will be there for you! I'm charging now though. I will come by later and give you an estimate.

How refreshing. Usually when someone comes on here to tell their tale, and someone else teases them about it, they'll get all pissy and abusive, then stomp off in a huff.

Because you don't appear to be an ass, I predict good things will come to you. :yay:

What a mess - well glad you finally feel better. There are so many users out to take advantage of people, been there, done that. Even some friends I've had have turned out to be self-centered manipulators that I cast aside. Life is too short to deal with bad people in your life. Glad you've been able to pull yourself out of the mess and smile about it. :high5:

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Blonde

Well look, first off in my defense............






j/k :biggrin:

I do need some work do around the house though.

Thanks! I appreciate your comment. My only big drama in my life right now is watching 48 hours.

Thanks! I appreciate your comment. My only big drama in my life right now is watching 48 hours.

A good job, attractive and you are handy?

No one can understand emotional abuse by a controlling person (men can be abused too) unless they've been through it - and I have. Good job of getting out, but be careful. So many woment have restraining orders but end up hurt or worse by an 'X'.
God bless you and your son.

I'd feel better if you all would chip in together. i need a manicure, pedicure and a full body massage...then i will really feel good! ha ha ha

I'd feel better if you all would chip in together. i need a manicure, pedicure and a full body massage...then i will really feel good! ha ha ha

Deal, I'm in!! :yahoo:

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Psss. Eventually...i will be seeking a 50/50 relationship. Right now i'm just getting my ducks in a row & taking care of me.

Blonde

Fifty / fifty does not work. Ninety / ten - each person needs to be unselfish 90% of the time and selfish 10% so that when one person is being selfish, the other one is likely to be willing to let them have their way.

50/50 leads to arguments of, "I did it last time" or "I did this, so you have to do that." Just brings discontentment.

Sounds like you were in a one sided 90 /10 and a 10 / 90 where you did 90% of the giving and he did 90% of the taking; Both people need to be willing to give 90% of the time.

Good point! Although i am selfishly enjoying myself right now. If i ever get another relationship i'm trying for a healthy one.

Good point! Although i am selfishly enjoying myself right now. If i ever get another relationship i'm trying for a healthy one.

:lol: everybody's crazy :crazy:

You just need to find someone who's insanity compliments your own

I'd feel better if you all would chip in together. i need a manicure, pedicure and a full body massage...then i will really feel good! ha ha ha

The mani/pedicure, not so much, but I give a great massage!

:lol: everybody's crazy :crazy:

You just need to find someone who's insanity compliments your own

:lol: True, dat!

What a mess - well glad you finally feel better. There are so many users out to take advantage of people, been there, done that. Even some friends I've had have turned out to be self-centered manipulators that I cast aside. Life is too short to deal with bad people in your life. Glad you've been able to pull yourself out of the mess and smile about it. :high5:

well said..

Good point! Although i am selfishly enjoying myself right now. If i ever get another relationship i'm trying for a healthy one.

I don't know how you stuck with it for 14 years in the first place. I hope you learn your limits and how to enforce them. Of course it's always easier to give advice than take it ourselves.

I wish you the best, and I hope you find a better man next time.

PS - Don't move in together until you've had a detective do a complete background check first :lmao:

I'd only suggest, "Cut All Ties". You don't even need to go to Court with him. Have an Attorney represent your interest and don't go to Hers.
Good Luck, be cautious.
:buddies:

How refreshing. Usually when someone comes on here to tell their tale, and someone else teases them about it, they'll get all pissy and abusive, then stomp off in a huff.

Because you don't appear to be an ass, I predict good things will come to you. :yay:

For once I agree with you. I have moved more great sweet women away from complete #######s in the past year or know great women being with control freak ####tards that are now making the move like you. Make no sense to me how jackasses get great women to beat down and control

Wish you the best in your new life and thanks for sharing your story so maybe others will follow in your footsteps

It's really not THAT hard for years and years to pass when you keep thinking you need to give the person time to get themselves together, then you yourself get busy in school, work, kids etc. So I can understand how it became 14 years for her. It also isn't easy to jump up 1 day and decide to live in THIS AREA on one income either... been there, done THAT TOO.

If you own property together that further complicates things, especially in the bad economy we've had the past few years. Not like you can just sell a house in 30-60 (or 90-120???) days for a PROFIT and be done with it. Also there are likely other joint bills involved ..... if only we knew how complicated it can be to break up, maybe we'd handle things differently as we progressed in a relationship?

I don't know how you stuck with it for 14 years in the first place. I hope you learn your limits and how to enforce them. Of course it's always easier to give advice than take it ourselves.

I wish you the best, and I hope you find a better man next time.

PS - Don't move in together until you've had a detective do a complete background check first :lmao:

It's really not THAT hard for years and years to pass when you keep thinking you need to give the person time to get themselves together, then you yourself get busy in school, work, kids etc. So I can understand how it became 14 years for her. It also isn't easy to jump up 1 day and decide to live in THIS AREA on one income either... been there, done THAT TOO.

If you own property together that further complicates things, especially in the bad economy we've had the past few years. Not like you can just sell a house in 30-60 (or 90-120???) days for a PROFIT and be done with it. Also there are likely other joint bills involved ..... if only we knew how complicated it can be to break up, maybe we'd handle things differently as we progressed in a relationship?

I suppose I was speaking from personal experience. :lol:

Just a few questions/ concerns..



Where was the house?

Square footage??

And is it in a "Short Sale"??

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by....Wanting Something in a Person that Wasn't there
alias....Blonde
now i'm just getting my ducks in a row & taking care of me.

Blonde

Sounds like you are headed in the right direction, now...sista'! Good luck!

Make no sense to me how jackasses get great women to beat down and control...
Many men are liars and users. Women are more emotional than rational. Those men "play" on those emotions. The only thing worse than those men, are the women who enable them.
Women get wrapped up in the emotion of the moment (the fantasy of love). Love is somewhat blind but it shouldn't be stupid. This is exactly what ruins it for the few good men. She might meet a really good guy next time and lose him because of her past experience (once bitten, twice shy).
NEVER live with someone first. Ladies, do the necessary background checking and spend the time getting to know someone BEFORE you commit. :buddies:

Good point! Although i am selfishly enjoying myself right now. If i ever get another relationship i'm trying for a healthy one.

What's the PM count up to??

How many from Lance??

Who's winning, Lance or Topick??:jerry:

What's the PM count up to??

How many from Lance??

Who's winning, Lance or Topick??:jerry:

:lol:

:nono:

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I mow the lawn and wash the dishes. I'm the guy that washes the clothes then drys them, folds them and puts them away. I vacuum the carpet and mop the kitchen floor. I dust the stuff and cook the food.

I wouldn't know how to act if somebody did half of it for me :lol:

You should set up a spouse training service, or rent yourself out! Either way I'd pay:howdy:

You should set up a spouse training service, or rent yourself out! Either way I'd pay:howdy:

Never had much luck being a spouse :lol:

That's funny because the attributes you cite would make you seem like THE perfect spouse for being so helpful and contributing so much to the running of the household.

Never had much luck being a spouse :lol:

That's funny because the attributes you cite would make you seem like THE perfect spouse for being so helpful and contributing so much to the running of the household.

I don't contribute to the running of the houshold, I run the houshold. :lol:
If I don't do it, it doesn't get done.

That's funny because the attributes you cite would make you seem like THE perfect spouse for being so helpful and contributing so much to the running of the household.

I'm the same way as APS, Mr. Mom, Mr. Fixit. However, that doesn't account for, and just isn't enough, when personalities are involved.

I'm the same way as APS, Mr. Mom, Mr. Fixit. However, that doesn't account for, and just isn't enough, when personalities are involved.

:yeahthat: If a feral cat gets fed, somebody is moving out

:yeahthat: If a feral cat gets fed, somebody is moving out

:ohwell: I lost that battle when she dragged one home. Nasty little creature. Couldn't get near it, spit, hissed, just obnoxious. The cat wasn't much nicer either.

Well someone needs to feed EM ..... :smoochy:

:yeahthat: If a feral cat gets fed, somebody is moving out

:lmao:

:ohwell: I lost that battle when she dragged one home. Nasty little creature. Couldn't get near it, spit, hissed, just obnoxious. The cat wasn't much nicer either.

Well someone needs to feed EM ..... :smoochy:

no they do not

HUMANS created feral cats .... so humans need to fix the problem by taking responsibility for them, i.e. feeding and vet care (including spay/neuter). They LIVE LIKE wild animals but they are NOT really wild animals.

So when can I bring my laundry over? :wink:

no they do not

HUMANS created feral cats .... so humans need to fix the problem by taking responsibility

?

Explain that one, please.

Feral cats are merely formerly domesticated cats that are now living and breeding as a wild animal, but are NOT wild animals.

"Feral cats are descended from domestic cats but are born and live without human contact. Any environment that sustains people can sustain feral cats, who are known to have thrived in urban, suburban, and rural areas in all parts of the civilized world. They are not to be confused with wild cats or with stray cats (alley cats). Wild cats are descendants of wild species. Stray cats are homeless or abandoned domestic cats, but unlike feral cats, have had prior contact with humans and therefore exhibit temperament similar to that of a domestic cat.[1]"

Feral cat - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feral_cat)

?

Explain that one, please.

I did not know that - thanks! :yay:

HUMANS created feral cats .... so humans need to fix the problem by taking responsibility for them, i.e. feeding and vet care (including spay/neuter). They LIVE LIKE wild animals but they are NOT really wild animals.

So when can I bring my laundry over? :wink:

How many feral boars have you brought home, sought out vet care and or fed??

How many feral boars have you brought home, sought out vet care and or fed??

I've dated several bores. Oh wait, that's not what you meant is it? :whistle:

How did this thread jump to feral cats? :confused:

You-know-who started it ...... he's always starting something lol

How did this thread jump to feral cats? :confused:

If you keep picking on me you're going to get a spanking :spank: ..... I think YOU should rescue the feral boars ..... :whistle:

How many feral boars have you brought home, sought out vet care and or fed??

If you keep picking on me you're going to get a spanking :spank: ..... I think YOU should rescue the feral boars ..... :whistle:



sticks and stones my break my bones, but whips and chains excite me :jet:



I'll rescue that Boar with a 30-30 and tuck 'em away safe in my freezer


:killingme

sticks and stones my break my bones, but whips and chains excite me :jet:



I'll rescue that Boar with a 30-30 and tuck 'em away safe in my freezer


:killingme
between you and AR we have bacon for breakfast and chinese for dinner.

:whip:

between you and AR we have bacon for breakfast and chinese for dinner.

I don't know how you stuck with it for 14 years in the first place. I hope you learn your limits and how to enforce them. Of course it's always easier to give advice than take it ourselves.

I wish you the best, and I hope you find a better man next time.

PS - Don't move in together until you've had a detective do a complete background check first :lmao:

i don't know exactly why either. i feel like a dummy

I'd only suggest, "Cut All Ties". You don't even need to go to Court with him. Have an Attorney represent your interest and don't go to Hers.
Good Luck, be cautious.
:buddies:

nope i have to go to court. cant wait till its over

Don't even worry about it - life isn't an easy script to follow because if it was we'd all be skipping along in our "couldn't be happier" lives. Instead it's a discovery process, and we end up happier in the end if we gain strength and wisdom from the things we learn along the way.

Isn't it interesting how we went from discussing a bad relationship, to several guys mentioning how handy/helpful they are running a household (alone or together with someone), then to feral animals running the Country? LOL I think I speak for most of us when I say that itsbob will be the feral pig rescue coordinator for obvious reasons ..... :evil: I'll continue to handle the feral cats ..... :popcorn:

i don't know exactly why either. i feel like a dummy

Don't even worry about it - life isn't an easy script to follow because if it was we'd all be skipping along in our "couldn't be happier" lives. Instead it's a discovery process, and we end up happier in the end if we gain strength and wisdom from the things we learn along the way.


:buddies: :yeahthat:

You are coming out of left field with all that - what in the world are you talking about? AND why are you trying to eat the whole peach?

I`ll handle my life, by choice 4 now. Only I can make it what I want 2. & if U speak 4 most, remember it`s best 2 speak 4 yrself 1st, always. Others will decide what they wanna hear & do
If life was such a peach, it wouldn`t have that damn pit inside that`s damn near impossible to digest, let alone swallow.

You are coming out of left field with all that - what in the world are you talking about? AND why are you trying to eat the whole peach?

This message is hidden because Lance is on your ignore list.
Get one of these

Oh MY - never done THAT before to anyone LOL :popcorn:

Get one of these

oh yeah - well I also have a few horse whips that may be of interest to you ... :popcorn:

sticks and stones my break my bones, but whips and chains excite me :jet:



I'll rescue that Boar with a 30-30 and tuck 'em away safe in my freezer


:killingme

Oh MY - never done THAT before to anyone LOL :popcorn:

Might as well.
His rambling, incoherent posts are written in impossible to read text-bonics, usually have very little to do with the subject and all will mention how he's a wonderful person

Usually people who toot their own horn regularly are quite the opposite IMHO

Might as well.
His rambling, incoherent posts are written in impossible to read text-bonics, usually have very little to do with the subject and all will mention how he's a wonderful person

This is a VERY interesting thread. You are headed in the right direction. Making that first move to untangle yourself permanently from your lifestyle was the first of a series of hard steps you will have to take. I know. I am going through this, too.... slightly different case of course, but some things are similar.
You have been with him for a long time. Can I give you one piece of advice before you start dating? Avoid any guy who blurts out EARLY on that he tested negative on his last visit to the county's public health department? LOL.
Seriously, stay away from that. haha

Oh my - when do we ever REALLY believe what anyone says anymore when we don't KNOW the person? :eyebrow: Life sure is teaching us to be more skeptical even if we ARE the type to believe until we have a reason not to.

The OP sounded like she's much happier now. It's interesting how we sometimes allow ourselves to get tangled up in a mess that we really never would WANT to be in. Can sort of happen a little at a time, and then wham, one day you look around and think - how did I end up in this mess? :confused:

This is a VERY interesting thread. You are headed in the right direction. Making that first move to untangle yourself permanently from your lifestyle was the first of a series of hard steps you will have to take. I know. I am going through this, too.... slightly different case of course, but some things are similar.
You have been with him for a long time. Can I give you one piece of advice before you start dating? Avoid any guy who blurts out EARLY on that he tested negative on his last visit to the county's public health department? LOL.
Seriously, stay away from that. haha

I know exactly how the OP could stay in a 14 year relationship even though it was not good. I have been through two previous marriages. The first ended because of alcohol and physical abuse. My second marriage was better but eventually ended because of alcohol and drug abuse. My first marriage lasted eight years and the second relationship lasted fifteen years. I got married again two months ago to the most wonderful man. We were together over two years before we married. I am finally really happy and thank God for giving me such a good man. As they say, the third time is a charm! Remember, there are still good men out there. Good luck and best wishes for your future.

there are still good men out there.
:howdy:

:howdy:

:howdy:

Would that be YOU?

:howdy:

For once I agree with you. I have moved more great sweet women away from complete #######s in the past year or know great women being with control freak ####tards that are now making the move like you. Make no sense to me how jackasses get great women to beat down and control



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This is a VERY interesting thread. You are headed in the right direction. Making that first move to untangle yourself permanently from your lifestyle was the first of a series of hard steps you will have to take. I know. I am going through this, too.... slightly different case of course, but some things are similar.
You have been with him for a long time. Can I give you one piece of advice before you start dating? Avoid any guy who blurts out EARLY on that he tested negative on his last visit to the county's public health department? LOL.
Seriously, stay away from that. haha

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE!!!!! Cheers to you on the new start!!! I'm doing okay!!!:starcat:

I know exactly how the OP could stay in a 14 year relationship even though it was not good. I have been through two previous marriages. The first ended because of alcohol and physical abuse. My second marriage was better but eventually ended because of alcohol and drug abuse. My first marriage lasted eight years and the second relationship lasted fifteen years. I got married again two months ago to the most wonderful man. We were together over two years before we married. I am finally really happy and thank God for giving me such a good man. As they say, the third time is a charm! Remember, there are still good men out there. Good luck and best wishes for your future.

NOW??? DOES HE HAVE A BROTHER? OR, at this point a sister?(no! only kidding)
I know it sounds stupid, but the time just goes by and you don't know how it slipped away. Whether you were busy, confused, manipulated, etc. I can't figure out how i stayed that long!!! I know one thing, i'm not going to beat myself up about it!!!:boxing:

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alias....Blonde

I lived with a guy for 14 yrs. We owned a house & eventually a business together. He told me he was divorced. I eventually found out he wasn't. (I was married twice before and so was he-so that's why i went for the living together thing) He still had contact with his X(or so as he called her) They didn't have children, but he said he was in contact with her because he raised her child which he called his stepdaughter.(okay understandable) The stepdaughter came over the house one day which followed by bringing her mother(the supposedly X) which was drunk and made a big scene in front of my house screaming "He's my husband" ! So...i wanted nothing to do with them and then he swore he would take care of the problem.(he didn't)

I went through this period of back and forth lies, manipulation. I didn't know how bad it was getting. He chased all my friends away and slowley chipped away at me until i quess i was under control of some sort. I periodically found crack bags at the house. I couldn't figure out how he was doing it with out no money. I quess his X was giving and doing the crack with him. I was just trying(i quess) to keep thngs together and move on to a normal life. He was unpredicable and was nice and a minute later nasty.

Years passed....he kept avoiding the questions, problems, drugs,etc. It wasn't all that bad, but I don't know how i stayed for that long(i feel so stupid now) I worked on the house like a man, putting floors in, tile, painting, cutting the grass while he was so lazy it was unbelievable. I don't know why i stayed(it wasn't because of love) I think i was worried about my children. I wanted them(2 boys) to have a good school and a nice house to live it. I also spent my time going to school part time and furthering my education. I was not happy with him that is for sure! FINALLY... I planned my escape.... and left....he made the house go to foreclosure and stole money from the business after i left. Before i left he left for 2 weeks(apparently with the X) She got arrested for hitting a car, drinking and driving, etc. I have a restraining order against him and a charge of arson threat. They both have court cases coming up in Sept. HA! I think it's so funny.

He keeps calling my job. I'm recording it and taking it to the judge in Sept. He needs to leave me alone. He went to a court case last week with his x(really wife). A friend of mine spotted him there with his X. He called my friend later and told them not to tell me he was with her.(ha) He keeps leaving messages on my answering machine at work like he wants to go back together. Can you believe it? I can't wait until i get him in court. That Mother needs to leave me alone! It has been almost 9 months now and i'm so happy that i left. I have to go to the court case with him, but i'm also thinking about going to the(x-really wife's)court case just for revenge and a good laugh because of all the yrs of ...whatever it was...

I don't know why i wrote this...i feel really dumb. You wouldn't know it if you met me. I have a good job, a nice car, i'm attractive, a nice girl, etc. I guess i'm just putting out a warning to people be careful out there. There are alot of bad people. If it happened to me, it could happen to anyone! Be careful.

ps. How can you be married to someone and they leave you and are living with another woman for 14 years and you still see them? Also his (x-really wife) had a boyfriend and a child with another guy. The kid is with him now! Didn't she even care about her child? If my husband left me and was living with someone else i wouldn't talk to himif hecalled. Is this what drugs do to you? JERRY...JERRY!!!!:jerry:

Pss. This will never happen to me again!

Psss. Eventually...i will be seeking a 50/50 relationship. Right now i'm just getting my ducks in a row & taking care of me.

Blonde

UPDATE!!!!
The SOB got 90 days(suspended) and 2 weekends in jail for violating the protective order. His i'll say it lightly(stepdaughter)was there in the audience and when i walked by she hollered out i was a "liar"!!!!! She will find out later, i guess she believes all his lies. I actually think he could even be sleeping with her, he was calling her about 10 times a day for 20 min at a shot when he shared cell phone min with me. What? Persay? could they have been talking about??? Anyway, it was like putting an oyster in a piggy bank. Believe me! The last couple years he aint what he used to be(ha ha) She can have him or share him with her ugly mother!

He can win the academy award for the acting he does. He missed his calling! The "wife" was not at the courthouse and his attorney(i didn't have one cause i was a witness for the state)told the judge the only reason he was calling my job & writing me letters for the last 10 months was because he was so in "love". In love? How insulting. All he tried to do was "collect" women. My friends spotted him at walmart and at another court case with his "wife". And, they all said how ugly she was. Not for me because it is true. Did you ever see people who are on drugs for a long time? It is not a pretty picture. Why call me at this point when you are STILL in the same situation? He didn't do anything different and still wanted me back(YEAH...THIS #### MUST BE GOOD!! HA HA) Anyway, how insulting & sick!!!! sick!! SicK!!

I have now moved on, but i wanted to let everyone know what happened!
It made me feel better to write all this ####(anomalously) to get it off my chest. Thanks for all your advice, jokes, etc. It really took the edge off. I'm too busy for therapy. Now...to find a GOOD MAn!!!! :patriot:

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A good man might be the only therapy you need :cheers:

UPDATE!!!!
The SOB got 90 days(suspended) and 2 weekends in jail for violating the protective order. His i'll say it lightly(stepdaughter)was there in the audience and when i walked by she hollered out i was a "liar"!!!!! She will find out later, i guess she believes all his lies. I actually think he could even be sleeping with her, he was calling her about 10 times a day for 20 min at a shot when he shared cell phone min with me. What? Persay? could they have been talking about??? Anyway, it was like putting an oyster in a piggy bank. Believe me! The last couple years he aint what he used to be(ha ha) She can have him or share him with her ugly mother!

He can win the academy award for the acting he does. He missed his calling! The "wife" was not at the courthouse and his attorney(i didn't have one cause i was a witness for the state)told the judge the only reason he was calling my job & writing me letters for the last 10 months was because he was so in "love". In love? How insulting. All he tried to do was "collect" women. My friends spotted him at walmart and at another court case with his "wife". And, they all said how ugly she was. Not for me because it is true. Did you ever see people who are on drugs for a long time? It is not a pretty picture. Why call me at this point when you are STILL in the same situation? He didn't do anything different and still wanted me back(YEAH...THIS #### MUST BE GOOD!! HA HA) Anyway, how insulting & sick!!!! sick!! SicK!!

I have now moved on, but i wanted to let everyone know what happened!
It made me feel better to write all this ####(anomalously) to get it off my chest. Thanks for all your advice, jokes, etc. It really took the edge off. I'm too busy for therapy. Now...to find a GOOD MAn!!!! :patriot:

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:nono: Don't you know "Ex Parte" is Latin for "I love you"

Now...to find a GOOD MAn!!!! :patriot:

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I was once told that from a man's perspective, you meet women in bars to get laid. But you meet women in grocery stores to meet your soul mate :lmao:

So go grocery shopping! If you find a man with a bunch of pre-packaged food and things in bulk, they're usually single :wink:

Happy hunting! :howdy:

I was once told that from a man's perspective, you meet women in bars to get laid. But you meet women in grocery stores to meet your soul mate :lmao:

So go grocery shopping! If you find a man with a bunch of pre-packaged food and things in bulk, they're usually single :wink:

Happy hunting! :howdy:

Yeah but the only reason they're single is because thier ex wives claimed they were abusive alcoholics.

Yeah but the only reason they're single is because thier ex wives claimed they were abusive alcoholics.

.... :confused:

I was once told that from a man's perspective, you meet women in bars to get laid. But you meet women in grocery stores to meet your soul mate :lmao:

So go grocery shopping! If you find a man with a bunch of pre-packaged food and things in bulk, they're usually single :wink:

Happy hunting! :howdy:

Just don't go to walmart...lol!

How can you meet someone in the grocery store and then give them your contact information (how else will you see them again?) without looking like you're loose and/or easy?

Yeah but the only reason they're single is because thier ex wives claimed they were abusive alcoholics.

How can you meet someone in the grocery store and then give them your contact information (how else will you see them again?) without looking like you're loose and/or easy?

I met my husband at the vet's office. I gave my name and number to the receptionist to give to him under the impression that we had talked about setting up a ferret play date and I had forgotten to give him my number. :lol:

oh my you were quite inventive ....

I met my husband at the vet's office. I gave my name and number to the receptionist to give to him under the impression that we had talked about setting up a ferret play date and I had forgotten to give him my number. :lol:

oh my you were quite inventive ....

No, I'm just shy as heck and would have passed out if I had done the more direct approach. Plus that gave him the option of not calling me back since we both knew the play date thing was a lie. I also didn't risk getting rejected to my face. Score one for the shy girl!!!!

How can you meet someone in the grocery store and then give them your contact information (how else will you see them again?) without looking like you're loose and/or easy?

You can't, which is why it works. :yay:



:lmao:

:faint:

You can't, which is why it works. :yay:



:lmao:

:faint:

Seriously. Looking like a prude isn't going to get you more dates you know...



:lmao:

How can you meet someone in the grocery store and then give them your contact information (how else will you see them again?) without looking like you're loose and/or easy?

Hey Im just saying what a guy in a bar told me :lmao:

I met my husband at the vet's office. I gave my name and number to the receptionist to give to him under the impression that we had talked about setting up a ferret play date and I had forgotten to give him my number. :lol:



Weaseled your way right into that one, huh?





:killingme

Seriously. Looking like a prude isn't going to get you more dates you know...



:lmao:

:coffee:

ahem, I haven't even been on 1 date ..... no rush really - I could be content alone the rest of my life after the way the prior 20 + years went ......

Seriously. Looking like a prude isn't going to get you more dates you know...



:lmao:

ahem, I haven't even been on 1 date ..... no rush really - I could be content alone the rest of my life after the way the prior 20 + years went ......

Than why be concerned enough to ask how you would be percieved? :confused:

All the more reason to just cut loose. :yay:

I thought about this thread when I was in Giant the other day. I'm not a shy person but I just can't imagine meeting someone in the grocery store. I had to make myself make eye contact, something that is much less difficult after a couple of beers. :buddies:

For those of us that are not the "in your face" kind of person, a few beers can do a lot to break the ice .... :cheers:

I thought about this thread when I was in Giant the other day. I'm not a shy person but I just can't imagine meeting someone in the grocery store. I had to make myself make eye contact, something that is much less difficult after a couple of beers. :buddies:

For those of us that are not the "in your face" kind of person, a few beers can do a lot to break the ice .... :cheers:

OK wait... you're worried about appearing 'loose' for expressing interest in a Grocery STore sober, but have no problem being all "Shay shtud, watsha drinkin'? Wanna go out to my esh-u-vee an' shkrew? *hic*"?

Odd. :shrug:

Come on now - how many people are going to drink beer THEN go grocery shopping? NOT I ! We're just making fun of it all ....... sometimes there is no good way to meet people in those type of situations.

... 20 + years later at a family gathering - hey Bob tell the grand-kids how we met in the produce section of Giant .... :killingme

OK wait... you're worried about appearing 'loose' for expressing interest in a Grocery STore sober, but have no problem being all "Shay shtud, watsha drinkin'? Wanna go out to my esh-u-vee an' shkrew? *hic*"?

Odd. :shrug:

Come on now - how many people are going to drink beer THEN go grocery shopping? NOT I ! We're just making fun of it all ....... sometimes there is no good way to meet people in those type of situations.

... 20 + years later at a family gathering - hey Bob tell the grand-kids how we met in the produce section of Giant .... :killingme

I was thinking you'd be at the bar, actually. :shrug:

But I mean hey, if produce it what turns you on.....

grocery shopping half lit could result in some very interesting grocery choices

No, No, No silly you don't meet lifetime connections at the bar ... that's for the short term hook-ups people are looking for remember? :gossip:

I was thinking you'd be at the bar, actually. :shrug:

But I mean hey, if produce it what turns you on.....

ahem, I haven't even been on 1 date ..... no rush really - I could be content alone the rest of my life after the way the prior 20 + years went ......

Maybe a date isn't what you really want; is a hot, intense f### session out of the question?

:shocked: cough cough um no that wasn't what I had in mind at all.

Maybe a date isn't what you really want; is a hot, intense f### session out of the question?

:shocked: cough cough um no that wasn't what I had in mind at all.

curses...foiled again. LOL... and that was the most romantic line in my arsenal ! :buddies:

Come on now - how many people are going to drink beer THEN go grocery shopping? NOT I ! We're just making fun of it all ....... sometimes there is no good way to meet people in those type of situations.

... 20 + years later at a family gathering - hey Bob tell the grand-kids how we met in the produce section of Giant .... :killingme

Awww come on.. I can hear Bob at the family reunion..... I met your granmaw in the produce section.. I was squeezin some cantalopes when I spotted a pair of watermelons I just HAD to check out.....

Awww come on.. I can hear Bob at the family reunion..... I met your granmaw in the produce section.. I was squeezin some cantalopes when I spotted a pair of watermelons I just HAD to check out.....Hey, what's all this talk about Bob?!?!?! :roflmao:



:shocking:

Your grandmaw...she sure does like her some zucchini......

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curses...foiled again. LOL... and that was the most romantic line in my arsenal ! :buddies:

curses...foiled again. LOL... and that was the most romantic line in my arsenal ! :buddies:

She said it wasn't what she had in mind... she did NOT say it was out of the question. :lmao:

Yeah "Bobs" seem to get into stuff ..... :popcorn:

Hey, what's all this talk about Bob?!?!?! :roflmao:



:shocking:

Hey stop promoting me like I'm a fresh fruit for the pickin' ..... :smack:

She said it wasn't what she had in mind... she did NOT say it was out of the question. :lmao:

Hey stop promoting me like I'm a fresh fruit for the pickin' ..... :smack:

Sorry just trying to help...







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