Is flirting acceptable when someone is married? Man or woman. Would you flirt with someone who is married?

Is flirting acceptable when someone is married? Man or woman. Would you flirt with someone who is married?

it never hurts to look at the menu, as long as you go home to eat.

Is flirting acceptable when someone is married? Man or woman. Would you flirt with someone who is married?

People who are happy in their marriage typically do not firt.

Depends. Some people are naturally flirty and it's just the way they are - completely harmless. Then there are those - like me - who only flirt when they mean business, and therefore wouldn't do it while married. I don't know as marital happiness really has anything to do with it. It's more of a personality thing.

it never hurts to look at the menu, as long as you go home to eat.

okay, but flirting is not harmless, although it may start that way. where would you draw the line?:shrug:

People who are happy in their marriage typically do not firt.

Thats what I thought.

Depends. Some people are naturally flirty and it's just the way they are - completely harmless. Then there are those - like me - who only flirt when they mean business, and therefore wouldn't do it while married. I don't know as marital happiness really has anything to do with it. It's more of a personality thing.

well, I know that if I were to flirt with a man, on here or anywhere else, it would hurt him and he would be irrate. why would I do that if I was happy in the relationship? why risk it?

well, I know that if I were to flirt with a man, on here or anywhere else, it would hurt him and he would be irrate. why would I do that if I was happy in the relationship? why risk it?

I think if you're in a committed relationship and you ask your SO to not flirt with other people, he/she should honor that. But some people think everything is flirting, even just friendly conversation, and get jealous when nothing was meant by it.

If you've asked him to stop and he blows you off, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. :shrug:

There's flirtation and coming on. Hopefully you know the difference.

I think if you're in a committed relationship and you ask your SO to not flirt with other people, he/she should honor that. But some people think everything is flirting, even just friendly conversation, and get jealous when nothing was meant by it.

If you've asked him to stop and he blows you off, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. :shrug:

So if your SO is having friendly conversation to be lets say be "Polite" and you asked them to stop and they do not. Its time to be jealous or get a divorce or break up or have an argument because you think the friendly conversation is "Flirting" or the other person could be "flirting" with your SO. And that would be OK to have a problem with them too. Because you don't trust your SO???:shrug:

So if your SO is having friendly conversation to be lets say be "Polite" and you asked them to stop and they do not. Its time to be jealous or get a divorce or break up or have an argument because you think the friendly conversation is "Flirting" or the other person could be "flirting" with your SO. And that would be OK to have a problem with them too. Because you don't trust your SO???:shrug:

I'm really having a hard time deciphering that...

I'm really having a hard time deciphering that...
:high5: Glad it wasn't just me.

Glad it wasn't just me.Would that be not just me2? :lol:

So if your SO is having friendly conversation to be lets say be "Polite" and you asked them to stop and they do not. Its time to be jealous or get a divorce or break up or have an argument because you think the friendly conversation is "Flirting" or the other person could be "flirting" with your SO. And that would be OK to have a problem with them too. Because you don't trust your SO???:shrug:

Dr. Seuss, is that you??? :confused:

There's flirtation and coming on. Hopefully you know the difference.



:really:

I think if you're in a committed relationship and you ask your SO to not flirt with other people, he/she should honor that. But some people think everything is flirting, even just friendly conversation, and get jealous when nothing was meant by it.

If you've asked him to stop and he blows you off, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. :shrug:

Not because a man or a woman talks to members of opposite sex means they're flirting. I have friends way back in my teen years that I still communicate from time to time. It doesn't mean that something is going on between us, we just enjoy talking about the old days. They are also my confidants and support group that I can turn to if and when my wife and I are having misunderstanding. They let me see her view.

If my wife would tell me to stop talking to them, then we'll have issues.

I flirt all the time. In front of my hubby, behind my hubby - who cares. Its my personality. I am a flirt-a-holic. I will flirt with any one of any age, race, color, creed, religion, or nationality. If it gets me what I want - I will flirt to get it.:yahoo:

I dont flirt.
But I did have some babe grab my butt at a camper show once. Almost hit my head on the ceiling I jumped so high.

Define flirting....

I think if you're in a committed relationship and you ask your SO to not flirt with other people, he/she should honor that. But some people think everything is flirting, even just friendly conversation, and get jealous when nothing was meant by it.

If you've asked him to stop and he blows you off, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. :shrug:

By the time you go from "dating" to "being in a committed relationship" you should know your SO well enough to understand what hurts them and what is okay with them. That's where the line should be drawn.

I have a friend who gets in trouble because a woman he works with is hot. His wife is that insecure.

On the other hand my wife has no problem with me flirting or telling her about hotties. She'll even point out the good eye candy if I miss it. Now I just need to find someone to flirt with.....

I'm really having a hard time deciphering that...

:high5: Glad it wasn't just me.

Would that be not just me2? :lol:

Me3!
Dr. Seuss, is that you??? :confused:

:jet:

:yay: Too funny!

Me3!


:jet:

:yay: Too funny!

yea, I was lost too, gave up a long time ago on it.

Depends. Some people are naturally flirty and it's just the way they are - completely harmless. Then there are those - like me - who only flirt when they mean business, and therefore wouldn't do it while married. I don't know as marital happiness really has anything to do with it. It's more of a personality thing.

I think you're right about that. Some people are just naturally flirty and it's harmless fun. I never flirted while I was married, as it wasn't in my nature. I don't flirt with married guys either.

And if it bothers a spouse or SO, then the flirter should respect that and not do it.

I think you're right about that. Some people are just naturally flirty and it's harmless fun. I never flirted while I was married, as it wasn't in my nature. I don't flirt with married guys either.

And if it bothers a spouse or SO, then the flirter should respect that and not do it.

I dont flirt with married guys either.

I dont flirt with married guys either.

:lol:

:lol:

Flirting can lead to transgression, NOt good, us men are so weak ladies, please don't flirt with us :cds:

Flirting can lead to transgression, NOt good, us men are so weak ladies, please don't flirt with us :cds:

:yay: Way to accept personal responsibility. :rolleyes:

I dont flirt.
But I did have some babe grab my butt at a camper show once. Almost hit my head on the ceiling I jumped so high.
:whistle:

Flirting is good for you - it shows you are confident in yourself and your marriage. Its flirting not sex get over it and get over yourself about it.

Flirting is good for you - it shows you are confident in yourself and your marriage. Its flirting not sex get over it and get over yourself about it.

Looking is ok too as long as nothing but your eyes wander...

SO is a huge flirt. It doesn't really bother me..he's just that kinda person. And I am not against flirting to get free drinks or discounts on stuff, and I flirt a bit at work, it's good for morale :killingme

But there is a difference between flirting, ie light chatter, joking with each other etc, and coming on to someone.

I dont flirt.
But I did have some babe grab my butt at a camper show once. Almost hit my head on the ceiling I jumped so high.



:faint:


yeah I had that happen in a bar one night ........ I was leaning against the bar (guess my ass was sticking out ..... ) when I felt this hand slid up my butt ... :yahoo: I turned around there were these 2 very cute girls standing there .... the girl with the dark brown her, with a guilty grin stated, well it was sticking out there .... and walked off with her friend :whistle:


I should have chased after her, but I was just in too much shock to do anything but start (with a big stupid grin on my face) as they walked off ....


:doh:

... and I flirt a bit at work, it's good for morale :killingme



your really busty and wear low cut tops to get that next pay raise, right ??




:whistle:

your really busty and wear low cut tops to get that next pay raise, right ??




:whistle:

no, im not that bad. :killingme I just flirt and make myself pleasant to be around. Has opened a few doors for me. Very innocent stuff though :lmao:

I just flirt and make myself pleasant to be around. Has opened a few Motel doors for me. :whistle:




:really:

:whistle:




:really:

Noo. If it opened any of those kinds of doors, it would for sure be penthouse doors, or resort doors, or mansion doors :drama:

I'm not a huge flirt. I am friendly, but the thought of actually flirting with someone creeps me out. And if someone flirts with me, I usually don't flirt back because that creeps me out too. :shrug:

Me3!


:jet:

:yay: Too funny!


Originally Posted by vraiblonde
I think if you're in a committed relationship and you ask your SO to not flirt with other people, he/she should honor that. But some people think everything is flirting, even just friendly conversation, and get jealous when nothing was meant by it.
If you've asked him to stop and he blows you off, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship

OK now if your SO ask you not to Flirt and in your opinion you are just having a conversation but in their opinion it is more than that. That the other person is FLIRTING, COMING ON, LEADING you on to Low cut tops or sliding of hands or buying one to many drinks for JUST YOU. And you think it's OK and your partner does not. Than I guess it is OK to have argument, get a divorce, re evaluate your relationship????????????????????????????

Noo. If it opened any of those kinds of doors, it would for sure be penthouse doors, or resort doors, or mansion doors :drama:




:flowers:

Depends. Some people are naturally flirty and it's just the way they are - completely harmless. Then there are those - like me - who only flirt when they mean business, and therefore wouldn't do it while married. I don't know as marital happiness really has anything to do with it. It's more of a personality thing.

I agree w/ this. Some people dont even realize they are flirting, while others may notice. You just have to know and trust the person you are with.

Than I guess it is OK to have argument, get a divorce, re evaluate your relationship????????????????????????????

Well what is an alternative? If SO gets bent when you're merely being friendly, not suggestive or coming on, are you supposed to cut yourself off from humanity and never speak to another living soul again for fear SO will have a fit?

Irrational jealousy is their problem, not yours. So a re-evaluation is in order on both parts. A: Why am I so irrationally jealous? And B: Do I want to be with a person who is so irrationally jealous?

Well what is an alternative? If SO gets bent when you're merely being friendly, not suggestive or coming on, are you supposed to cut yourself off from humanity and never speak to another living soul again for fear SO will have a fit?

Irrational jealousy is their problem, not yours. So a re-evaluation is in order on both parts. A: Why am I so irrationally jealous? And B: Do I want to be with a person who is so irrationally jealous?

I AGREE, but it draws to a conclusion that someone does not trust their SO. If someone is flirting and your SO doesn't like it "I say so what" but most don't!!!
They want a agrument etc.

:faint:


yeah I had that happen in a bar one night ........ I was leaning against the bar (guess my ass was sticking out ..... ) when I felt this hand slid up my butt ... :yahoo: I turned around there were these 2 very cute girls standing there .... the girl with the dark brown her, with a guilty grin stated, well it was sticking out there .... and walked off with her friend :whistle:


I should have chased after her, but I was just in too much shock to do anything but fart (with a big stupid grin on my face) as they walked off ....


:doh:

corrected for accuracy

Looking is ok too as long as nothing but your eyes wander...

But when SO cathces you looking they get pissed, is thay why I see so many people at the beach with shades on? Another killer, you get accused of looking when your not even looking....

Looking is ok too as long as nothing but your eyes wander...

SO is a huge flirt. It doesn't really bother me..he's just that kinda person. And I am not against flirting to get free drinks or discounts on stuff, and I flirt a bit at work, it's good for morale :killingme

But there is a difference between flirting, ie light chatter, joking with each other etc, and coming on to someone.

Women get away with so much stuff, money, jobs, drinks, etc etc etc,,, just because they got T and A. I am going to get a sex change dammit :mad:. Umma get a butt like Ines Sainz, breast like Pamel Anderson and lips Gina Gershon.

Well what is an alternative? If SO gets bent when you're merely being friendly, not suggestive or coming on, are you supposed to cut yourself off from humanity and never speak to another living soul again for fear SO will have a fit?

Irrational jealousy is their problem, not yours. So a re-evaluation is in order on both parts. A: Why am I so irrationally jealous? And B: Do I want to be with a person who is so irrationally jealous?

Well who wants to be with an insane jealous person, but what if they were not that way until a few years later, so your stuck, maybe. I mean people have killed over relationships. I think this type of person sees it more as disrespect too. Flirting is fun as long as you not trying to score a piece. I bet hardly anyone flirts when there SO is with them.

Lemme c if i can say this halfway rite.

Oh darn, looks like you didn't make it. :ohwell: Maybe next time!

Depends. Some people are naturally flirty and it's just the way they are - completely harmless. Then there are those - like me - who only flirt when they mean business, and therefore wouldn't do it while married. I don't know as marital happiness really has anything to do with it. It's more of a personality thing.

Everything depends of what you think.

it never hurts to look at the menu, as long as you go home to eat.

True but looking and "flirting" are two different things.
I don't think it's ok to flirt with someone married nor is it ok for someone married to flirt.

Everyone's definition of flirting varies though.
We have friends we spend time and all of us know that whatever is said is in jest, nothing is serious. Those that don't know that may take it as flirting. :shrug:

My personal opinion on flirting as a single person, it's fine. Flirt w/single people. As a married person, why do you feel the need to flirt? You can view it as being "CONFIDENT" which is a load of crap. All it does is CREATE insecurities in your SO. It means you need attention from someone other than your spouse OR you aren't getting any attention from your spouse! It means you really aren't that happy in the relationship and there are some issues. Sometimes...there are those people who just do it to get a reaction from their spouse. They WANT them to be jealous... perhaps to show they care and give a damn. One sure way to make your SO insecure, flirt with other people. Think about it people. You should be "CONFIDENT" that your spouse is true blue and has absolutely no reason to flirt with other people. As soon as the flirting begins...it raises a red flag!!! DUH!! :smack:

Great response LADYWOLF!!!

You know, I really think it all depends on your personal definition of "flirting".

Is "flirting" licking your lips, rubbing another person's arm/leg? If so, then it's a problem for anybody in a relationship and shows there are other issues in that relationship.

Is "flirting" smiling at somebody of the opposite sex, holding a conversation with them, joking around? If so, then I don't see the problem with it.

I think casual conversations among people get blown way out of proportion by people who are jealous/insecure about their relationships. :shrug:

I found this article online:
Flirting tips,online flirting,signs of flirting,flirting guide at FlirtingTipsQA (http://www.flirtingtipsqa.com/)
"Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.

In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else. "


And this article too:
SIRC Guide to flirting (http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html)
"Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.
...
At one level, you can flirt with more or less anyone. An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious banter can brighten the day, raise self-esteem and strengthen social bonds. Flirtation at this level is harmless fun, and only the stuffiest killjoys could possibly have any objections. "

My personal opinion on flirting as a single person, it's fine. Flirt w/single people. As a married person, why do you feel the need to flirt?

But again, as Mig just pointed out and so have others, it depends on what your definition of "flirting" is. Because some people get bent when their beloved merely talks to the opposite sex and is casually friendly. Certainly you've known people like this.

So OP needs to be clearer on what she considers "flirting" so we can more accurately determine who's the ass in the situation.

You know, I really think it all depends on your personal definition of "flirting".

Is "flirting" licking your lips, rubbing another person's arm/leg? If so, then it's a problem for anybody in a relationship and shows there are other issues in that relationship.

Is "flirting" smiling at somebody of the opposite sex, holding a conversation with them, joking around? If so, then I don't see the problem with it.

I think casual conversations among people get blown way out of proportion by people who are jealous/insecure about their relationships. :shrug:

I found this article online:
Flirting tips,online flirting,signs of flirting,flirting guide at FlirtingTipsQA (http://www.flirtingtipsqa.com/)
"Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.

In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else. "


And this article too:
SIRC Guide to flirting (http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html)
"Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.
...
At one level, you can flirt with more or less anyone. An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious banter can brighten the day, raise self-esteem and strengthen social bonds. Flirtation at this level is harmless fun, and only the stuffiest killjoys could possibly have any objections. "

But again, as Mig just pointed out and so have others, it depends on what your definition of "flirting" is. Because some people get bent when their beloved merely talks to the opposite sex and is casually friendly. Certainly you've known people like this.

So OP needs to be clearer on what she considers "flirting" so we can more accurately determine who's the ass in the situation.

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs. YOU CAN TELL when your other half is FLIRTING. If you can't...then there is a problem. Talking is talking. If you find someone attractive, and they speak to you and smile, you're gonna smile back because you find them attractive. If you or the other person goes out of their way to speak or make eye contact, then that poses for a red flag. If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs.

That is YOUR definition of flirting. Indeed there are people who think casual conversation is "flirting". I had a female friend who used to lose her mind when her boyfriend would be polite to the waitress. I used to date a guy who insisted that me talking to his friend for 30 seconds on the phone to get information was "flirting". You don't smile and be pleasant to people solely because you want to boink them - most of the time it's simply common courtesy.

That's why I'm saying that I'd like to know exactly what OP considers flirting before I make a judgment call.

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs. YOU CAN TELL when your other half is FLIRTING. If you can't...then there is a problem. Talking is talking. If you find someone attractive, and they speak to you and smile, you're gonna smile back because you find them attractive. If you or the other person goes out of their way to speak or make eye contact, then that poses for a red flag. If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

As was mentioned earlier in thie thread, some people are just flirty and nothing is meant by it thus there is coming on to people and just flirting; two TOTALLY different things.

Everybody flirts......esp. married women...:coffee:

If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.
Wow. If your husband makes eye contact with another woman...you deem that flirting. Wow.

I just feel really bad for your husband.

That is YOUR definition of flirting. Indeed there are people who think casual conversation is "flirting". I had a female friend who used to lose her mind when her boyfriend would be polite to the waitress. I used to date a guy who insisted that me talking to his friend for 30 seconds on the phone to get information was "flirting". You don't smile and be pleasant to people solely because you want to boink them - most of the time it's simply common courtesy.

That's why I'm saying that I'd like to know exactly what OP considers flirting before I make a judgment call.

Are you talking for the ladies or men when you said that, I think for men about 90% of the time its is because we want to boink.

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs. YOU CAN TELL when your other half is FLIRTING. If you can't...then there is a problem. Talking is talking. If you find someone attractive, and they speak to you and smile, you're gonna smile back because you find them attractive. If you or the other person goes out of their way to speak or make eye contact, then that poses for a red flag. If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

How many pair of shades does your SO own? Why do people wear shades when their is no bright light or sun, eyes can say a LOT.:eyebrow:

If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

Wow! Just Wow!

Women get away with so much stuff, money, jobs, drinks, etc etc etc,,, just because they got T and A. I am going to get a sex change dammit :mad:. Umma get a butt like Ines Sainz, breast like Pamel Anderson and lips Gina Gershon.
Don't care how much surgery you get done, they all end up looking like this.

Flirting is to behave amorously without serious intent. As such I don't see it as harmful to a healthy relationship. Now on the other hand if one has intent to engage with another beyond their spouse then that is "coming on" and would obviously be a problem.

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs. YOU CAN TELL when your other half is FLIRTING. If you can't...then there is a problem. Talking is talking. If you find someone attractive, and they speak to you and smile, you're gonna smile back because you find them attractive. If you or the other person goes out of their way to speak or make eye contact, then that poses for a red flag. If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

So what if the other person was flirting with your Husband. Don't you trust HIM? So now it an argument, evaluation, divorce, break up what ever any body wants to call it.
Can't you Husband just glance have conversation etc with out being evaluated on wither or not the other person might be flirting. Isn't he with you. Isn't an insult to him that you don't trust his judgment not to go home with somebody else or have a quickie when you are not in site HMMMMMMMM

And did ever think woman like to get UNDER other woman skin by flirting with their Man. Or get a kick out of starting a an argument with you and your SO. No it never ever crossed a woman mind before to start trouble just for the fun of it :faint:

So what if the other person was flirting with your Husband. Don't you trust HIM? So now it an argument, evaluation, divorce, break up what ever any body wants to call it.
Can't you Husband just glance have conversation etc with out being evaluated on wither or not the other person might be flirting. Isn't he with you. Isn't an insult to him that you don't trust his judgment not to go home with somebody else or have a quickie when you are not in site HMMMMMMMM

And did ever think woman like to get UNDER other woman skin by flirting with their Man. Or get a kick out of starting a an argument with you and your SO. No it never ever crossed a woman mind before to start trouble just for the fun of it :faint:

:confused:

:confused:

:yeahthat: and here I thought it was just me 2. :lol:

:yeahthat: and here I thought it was just me 2. :lol:

It made my eyes bleed. :lol:

It made my eyes bleed. :lol:

Is it bad that I could understand it? :lol:

It doesn't matter!!! What part of FLIRTING does anyone NOT UNDERSTAND? The purpose of flirting is to get attention. Certain eye contact, body language, etc. People aren't stupid, you know the signs. YOU CAN TELL when your other half is FLIRTING. If you can't...then there is a problem. Talking is talking. If you find someone attractive, and they speak to you and smile, you're gonna smile back because you find them attractive. If you or the other person goes out of their way to speak or make eye contact, then that poses for a red flag. If I'm at a party w/my husband and I zero in on some woman admiring my husband and he doesn't notice or doesn't acknowledge her, then fine. If he notices and I see mutual eye contact or some form of mutual acknowledgment...then that's flirting and it's an insult to me.

You need to be more secure in your marriage.

I flirt all the time, but its going to be a damn cold day in a normally hot place before I act on it.
and my wife knows this.

The way I see it, if I find someone that is just so perfect that I cant keep my hands off of them, it must mean that I need to divorce my wife and move in with Ms. Perfect. I have yet to meet her. Dont expect I will.

besides, are you aware that not allowing your husband to flirt now and again will only cause him to become gay? its true, I read it on the internet.

What's wrong with flirting together as a couple? I don't mean with each other, but enjoying the flirting of your SO. Have some fun with it. You're more likely to keep the SO you have. If you get jealous or make demands on an SO that flirting is verboten, the SO is much more likely to do it when you're not looking, especially if they are the flirty type. At least keep it open and honest, and go home with each other smiling at the end of the evening.

I flirt all the time. In front of my hubby, behind my hubby - who cares. Its my personality. I am a flirt-a-holic. I will flirt with any one of any age, race, color, creed, religion, or nationality. If it gets me what I want - I will flirt to get it.:yahoo:


:killingme :yahoo: :smoochy:

(and he doesnt flirt at all does he :whistle:)

I miss you guys

:killingme :yahoo: :smoochy:

(and he doesnt flirt at all does he :whistle:)

I miss you guys

I can honestly say that he has never flirted with me.

I can honestly say that he has never flirted with me.


:jet:..... thank god

:killingme

I can honestly say that he has never flirted with me.

That you picked up on. It frequently has to be pointed out to me that someone is flirting with me because I'm not a person who gets those sort of cues. Maybe you're not a person like that either?

That you picked up on. It frequently has to be pointed out to me that someone is flirting with me because I'm not a person who gets those sort of cues. Maybe you're not a person like that either?

Now Im worried

Now Im worried

At least he's sort of cute and you don't attract complete goober men. Could be worse.

At least he's sort of cute and you don't attract complete goober men. Could be worse.

well that and he does have a nicer camper.......

hmmmmm

At least he's sort of cute and you don't attract complete goober men. Could be worse.

You looking good in them jeans today, oh have you lost weight also?

You looking good in them jeans today, oh have you lost weight also?

Is this Bad Girl? She's the only human who's seen me today.

Is this Bad Girl? She's the only human who's seen me today.

Nope not bad girl, I was having a fantasy about how hot your butt looks in jeans, so I threw a little flirt at ya....

As was mentioned earlier in thie thread, some people are just flirty and nothing is meant by it thus there is coming on to people and just flirting; two TOTALLY different things.

I don't care...we can all argue this until everyone is blue in the face and you are beating your head against a wall. Usually w/flirting, there is some motive. Whether it's for personal satisfaction in knowing that someone is giving you attention and you haven't lost your touch or just to tick someone off. My guy friend has women flirting w/him. He will talk to them, but he's not initiating anything with them. He's not making googly eyes or over smiling at them or anything. Flirting and coming on to someone is the same thing. Flirting might be a little more discreet. Things like touching, eye contact, over smiling, innuendo, could be considered flirting. The only way to know if the person you are with is "flirting" is to KNOW the person your dating. If someone is just "flirty" then you don't need to be with that person. It is still an insult to the person your are dating. They need THAT MUCH ATTENTION and you are not enough for them. I had some woman come on to my male "friend" the other night in front of me and said to me "I WOULD DO HIM IF I WERE SINGLE". I was a bit offended since she didn't know me and she didn't know his and my relationship and clearly didn't care. She is married. However, she knew him and he didn't do anything to instigate the comment. Was I mad? No. I don't like it when someone flirts w/my boyfriend but as long as he doesn't flirt back, we're good!.

So what if the other person was flirting with your Husband. Don't you trust HIM? So now it an argument, evaluation, divorce, break up what ever any body wants to call it.
Can't you Husband just glance have conversation etc with out being evaluated on wither or not the other person might be flirting. Isn't he with you. Isn't an insult to him that you don't trust his judgment not to go home with somebody else or have a quickie when you are not in site HMMMMMMMM

And did ever think woman like to get UNDER other woman skin by flirting with their Man. Or get a kick out of starting a an argument with you and your SO. No it never ever crossed a woman mind before to start trouble just for the fun of it :faint:

WTF? I think I'm exhausted just reading this!!! I never said anything of sort or implied anything that you just said. You clearly have no idea what I just said and haven't lived long enough to understand.

You need to be more secure in your marriage.

I flirt all the time, but its going to be a damn cold day in a normally hot place before I act on it.
and my wife knows this.

The way I see it, if I find someone that is just so perfect that I cant keep my hands off of them, it must mean that I need to divorce my wife and move in with Ms. Perfect. I have yet to meet her. Dont expect I will.

besides, are you aware that not allowing your husband to flirt now and again will only cause him to become gay? its true, I read it on the internet.

Good luck with that whole idea and I'm not married. From reading this, I can understand why. I wouldn't want someone like you. Hope your Mrs. finds herself someone to flirt with...sounds like she needs too!!! Hey...if I were married and he needs to flirt, then he doesn't need to be with me. It's just that simple and I will not accept anything less. That isn't love. That is a marriage made in hell and I will not tolerate any man that needs to flirt. He will be kicked to the curb!!!

I don't care...we can all argue this until everyone is blue in the face and you are beating your head against a wall. Usually w/flirting, there is some motive. Whether it's for personal satisfaction in knowing that someone is giving you attention and you haven't lost your touch or just to tick someone off. My guy friend has women flirting w/him. He will talk to them, but he's not initiating anything with them. He's not making googly eyes or over smiling at them or anything. Flirting and coming on to someone is the same thing. Flirting might be a little more discreet. Things like touching, eye contact, over smiling, innuendo, could be considered flirting. The only way to know if the person you are with is "flirting" is to KNOW the person your dating. If someone is just "flirty" then you don't need to be with that person. It is still an insult to the person your are dating. They need THAT MUCH ATTENTION and you are not enough for them. I had some woman come on to my male "friend" the other night in front of me and said to me "I WOULD DO HIM IF I WERE SINGLE". I was a bit offended since she didn't know me and she didn't know his and my relationship and clearly didn't care. She is married. However, she knew him and he didn't do anything to instigate the comment. Was I mad? No. I don't like it when someone flirts w/my boyfriend but as long as he doesn't flirt back, we're good!.

She was just complimenting that you have a good looking man. Figure of speech, yea right I bet she would do him in a heart beat if he let her, married or not if she knew she could bet away with it :killingme Could have just been the alcohol talking, you know the song Blame it on the Al Al Al Alcohol :drummer:

Good luck with that whole idea and I'm not married.
Expect to stay that way
From reading this, I can understand why.
We can understand why you're not married also
I wouldn't want someone like you.
I'll let BCP answer that himself, but I suspect he's not going to want you either.
Hope your Mrs. finds herself someone to flirt with...sounds like she needs too!!!
Don't think that's going to hurt his feelings to much
Hey...if I were married and he needs to flirt, then he doesn't need to be with me.
I think any man is going to feel the same way, doesn't need your drama
It's just that simple and I will not accept anything less.
I don't think you're going to get the choice, I think the first time you open your yapper to tell the guy your opinion of him talking to another lady, he's going to lose your number.
That isn't love. That is a marriage made in hell and I will not tolerate any man that needs to flirt.
If you show this attitude while dating, I don't think you'll ever get to the marrying stage.
He will be kicked to the curb!!!
I think you'll be the first one there

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

Ladywolf someon strongly disagrees with your comments, seems your going to stay single for life :popcorn:

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, :killingme YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

Ladywolf someon strongly disagrees with your comments, seems your going to stay single for life :popcorn:

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, :killingme YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

:cds:

People flirt because it is fun, relieves stress, and puts you in a good mood. It's not like they are getting a BJ in a men's bathroom. According to you, smiling back at someone is flirting...might as well go to lovedoll.com and get a detachable penis if you want a robot instead of a human being.

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.


so you're saying a man should beat his woman for flirting?? Or are you saying you got your ass beat for flirting? I'm confused.

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, :killingme YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

Mistress Wolf, I need discipline.

She was just complimenting that you have a good looking man. Figure of speech, yea right I bet she would do him in a heart beat if he let her, married or not if she knew she could bet away with it :killingme Could have just been the alcohol talking, you know the song Blame it on the Al Al Al Alcohol :drummer:

It was disrespectful to me but to him also. I'm sure he was flattered to know that some woman thinks he is attractive. However, I would no more walk up to some woman and say "If I were single, I'd do him". Unless I wanted my ass kicked, it is a disrespectful statement to make. I wonder how many women...seriously would tolerate another woman saying that about her husband or boyfriend. I wasn't terribly mad that she said it, but she was out of line.

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.

Then you must be hanging out with some crappy, disrespectful, low-self-esteem, overly-jealous men to think that. You need to raise the bar on your selections.

Mistress Wolf, I need discipline.

:whip:

Then you must be hanging out with some crappy, disrespectful, low-self-esteem, overly-jealous men to think that. You need to raise the bar on your selections.

That is raising the bar? Low-self-esteem? Disrespectful? Your kidding right? I think you have that ass-backwards. People w/low-self esteem and are disrespectful are the ones who flirt and tolerate people who do. This is :deadhorse and I know that you all aren't REALLY crazy, and find the need to :elaine:. So have at it. I know I'm right and you can argue my point and it will not make a difference or change my mind.

some just may want to say a simple Hey, how ya doin. or how are you doing. just wanted to say Hello, hope yr doin ok. It`s the manner in which it`s said, or taken/perceived/interpreted. imo it`s not a sin to have even distant friends. sometimes the anonymity allows 1 2 say things w/o any repercussions & direct involvement(?) or confrontation(s). same goes for foncalls or IM chat in a diff venue. that way no1 else can w/e interrupt. establish who is whom & what their status is. b smart b4 anything else.

bottom line, friends are allowed, doesn`t have to b taken always as a come on or hook up. some friends, so to say, 1 may trust more than others, unless compromised.

sincerity & trust can be learned just by listening. i do pay attn contrary to many ppls disbeliefs.

I agree!!! :dingding:

I agree!!! :dingding:

:roflmao: Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point. :lmao:

Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. !!

Interesting. My ex wife had a different take on flirting. She explained to me that it was 'just a part of who she was' and 'harmless'. I believed her. The married guy she eventually hooked up with..I'm guessing he must have taken her routine flirting just a bit too seriously? :killingme

:roflmao: Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point. :lmao:

This thread was dead many posts ago!!! If you all honestly believe for 2 seconds that flirting is innocent and okay...I can see why many of you are divorced and on 2nd, 3rd + marriages. Now that's FUNNY!! :killingme

Interesting. My ex wife had a different take on flirting. She explained to me that it was 'just a part of who she was' and 'harmless'. I believed her. The married guy she eventually hooked up with..I'm guessing he must have taken her routine flirting just a bit too seriously? :killingme

I'm sorry for your bad experience, but THANK YOU...I REST MY CASE!!! It just proves that there is more to flirting.

so you're saying a man should beat his woman for flirting?? Or are you saying you got your ass beat for flirting? I'm confused.

I'm sorry you're confused. I didn't say either...read it again.

:cds:

People flirt because it is fun, relieves stress, and puts you in a good mood. It's not like they are getting a BJ in a men's bathroom. According to you, smiling back at someone is flirting...might as well go to lovedoll.com and get a detachable penis if you want a robot instead of a human being.

Then if flirting is so fun....then don't get married!! Go to some singles club and have at it all you want. Take them all home if you want...I don't give a damn. As long as my man doesn't flirt w/you... it's all good baby.

It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!!

Ahhhh :roflmao:

I'm going to make that my sig line...

You all have your opinion and that's fine. I'm quite certain if any of you found your spouses flirting and that INNOCENT FLIRTING became something more, :smoochy: we'll see who is :roflmao:

You all have your opinion and that's fine. I'm quite certain if any of you found your spouses flirting and that INNOCENT FLIRTING became something more, :smoochy: we'll see who is :roflmao:

Larry Gude is an enormous flirt and if he'd mooshy mooshied with every woman he's ever flirted with, I'm pretty sure he would have no time for anything else and I'd have noticed.

Whatever works for you is fine, but I personally do not put a lot of serious stock in flirting.

Ahhhh :roflmao:

I'm going to make that my sig line...

LOL..The irony is dripping off that juxtaposition so fast that better go fetch a bucket...

Larry Gude is an enormous flirt and if he'd mooshy mooshied with every woman he's ever flirted with, I'm pretty sure he would have no time for anything else and I'd have noticed.

Whatever works for you is fine, but I personally do not put a lot of serious stock in flirting.

Well, I understand, but people who have been cheated on actually put a lot of stock in flirting because it can lead to something else. I personally wouldn't marry someone who was a flirt...TOO RISKY AND STAKES ARE TOO HIGH.

Well, I understand, but people who have been cheated on actually put a lot of stock in flirting because it can lead to something else. I personally wouldn't marry someone who was a flirt...TOO RISKY AND STAKES ARE TOO HIGH.

I have been cheated on by flirts and non-flirts. In fact, one particular non-flirt was somewhat of a serial cheater. So I don't believe flirting has anything to do with fidelity.

:roflmao: Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point. :lmao:

:yay:

I have been cheated on by flirts and non-flirts. In fact, one particular non-flirt was somewhat of a serial cheater. So I don't believe flirting has anything to do with fidelity.

I find it interesting how women zero in on other women when husbands/BF's are involved. Could be just a conversation and buddy, women will snag up on it in a heartbeat!!! I think most people are full of crap, quite honestly. They talk a good talk, but most of it is BS. People who have been married for years, might find some commonality with another person of the opposite sex. May not be flirting, just plain talking, regular conversations but it can still lead to other things. Something lacking in the marriage. It could be all kinds of things. You just never know, but I still wouldn't be w/someone who needs to flirt.

seems 2 b quite prevalent in this website. ya think?? lotsa talk, but aweful hesitant 2 show. few fess up 2 the Real Truth, but that doesn`t last long. sum ppl r way 2 smart 2 see rite thru that bs.

:biggrin: :yay:

I find it interesting how women zero in on other women when husbands/BF's are involved. Could be just a conversation and buddy, women will snag up on it in a heartbeat!!! I think most people are full of crap, quite honestly. They talk a good talk, but most of it is BS. People who have been married for years, might find some commonality with another person of the opposite sex. May not be flirting, just plain talking, regular conversations but it can still lead to other things. Something lacking in the marriage. It could be all kinds of things. You just never know, but I still wouldn't be w/someone who needs to flirt.

Wow. You sure are uptight and insecure. Why does a simple flirt hurt you so bad? Do you think it will lead to something else? That a man is so tenuously hanging to monogamy that a simple lick of the lips could cause him to abandon a commitment and get busy?

If you freak out over a simple flirt, my wife and I would give you an aneurysm!

Wow. You sure are uptight and insecure. Why does a simple flirt hurt you so bad? Do you think it will lead to something else? That a man is so tenuously hanging to monogamy that a simple lick of the lips could cause him to abandon a commitment and get busy?

If you freak out over a simple flirt, my wife and I would give you an aneurysm!

How you doin'...:really:

If you freak out over a simple flirt, my wife and I would give you an aneurysm!

That's what I was thinking too..but I've lost the moral high ground in this particular argument since my flirty ex wife took it the other direction to the extreme. That I 'let the flirting go' as long as I did?..because I believed there is a middle ground where flirtation and security are well balanced. I thought I was being 'enlightened..secure..non-possesive" I still believe that...I'm just a lot more realistic about where it can and does 'go wrong'.

There is a guy that I work with that I "flirt" with and he knows i'm happily married and that it will never mean anything other then just joking around and getting a good laugh. With that being said, 1)My husband has met said co-worker and 2) my husband has seen how I "flirt" with said co-worker and is ok with it. If my husband were not ok with it, the flirting would stop immediately.

How you doin'...:really:

:love: :dye:

Shhhhh... People might find out our "secret!"

:roflmao: Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point. :lmao:

:high5:

WTF? I think I'm exhausted just reading this!!! I never said anything of sort or implied anything that you just said. You clearly have no idea what I just said and haven't lived long enough to understand.

Sure you are and you are the alpha woman to all humans too I guess.

Why do you think that woman was saying that She didn't get under your skin did she????

Sure you are and you are the alpha woman to all humans too I guess.

Why do you think that woman was saying that She didn't get under your skin did she????

Are we still doing this? Good grief, I thought this horse had been buried. You all CLEARLY HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO DO and if you notice...the person who wrote the original question has yet to respond which is funny in itself.

ARE YOU BLIND? CAN YOU READ? DID YOU READ MY REPLY? PROBABLY NOT!! I'm not responding again. If you really want to know if she got UNDER MY SKIN...go back and find my response. IDIOT!

Wow. You sure are uptight and insecure. Why does a simple flirt hurt you so bad? Do you think it will lead to something else? That a man is so tenuously hanging to monogamy that a simple lick of the lips could cause him to abandon a commitment and get busy?

If you freak out over a simple flirt, my wife and I would give you an aneurysm!

I think you all are so funny!!! You read only bits and pieces of things and have no idea of anything else I have said or replied to. You pass judgement and assume I'm insecure. Actually, I'm quite secure. People make people insecure. That is A FACT!! I'll remember that the next time I FLIRT WITH SOMEONE ELSES HUSBAND or better yet, someone elses husband FLIRTS W/ME!!! :yahoo:

People make people insecure.

No one can "make" you (figuratively) insecure. You do that on your own - not one single person on this earth is powerful enough to "make" anyone feel anything.

You, LadyWolf, come across as insecure and unreasonable. And again, if that works for you, great. But I think that's an unproductive way to live your life.

I suspect you have been cheated on, which can certainly blow a person's paradigm. Trust me, I know. But blame the cheaters and dickheads, not the harmless flirts.

OP kinda like gth outta Dodge, 2 much heat & w/e. wow, i didn`t even cuss. mayb if i tipe it in txt, sum may comprehend. idk. np

btw LW how ya doin, c i said Hey 2 ya. no crime, no time. :D

just b patient LW, the rest will chime in soon enuf

i knew u`d chime in. u r such an xpert in all matters (yeah rite), xcept the 1s that count most. run out of goats?? or justa bad crop?? no need 2 b po`d now Ma`am.

suspicion as u say? amazing what u yrself have no clue about. ya think? glad 2 c u can use such nice language. wonder who(m) is scrutinizin? mayb u shuld give yrself a timeout or redress????????
selective (prejudgement as is well documented) choice by bein a ?????????able mod ???? :-?
WTF is all this crap?!?!? It made my eyes bleed!

WTF is all this crap?!?!? It made my eyes bleed!

You have not met up with Lance yet? Lance is either from another country or even another planet..we're not really sure. But anyway, where ever he's from, he's grasped a few rudimentary fundamentals of the English language and practices them here a lot.

:whistle:

˙ʇlnɔɐuuıɟıp 2 ʇʍɐu zʇı ǝʞıl ʎɐ uoy˙ɐuuɐʍ ı uuǝʍ ǝıɹʇ np ı idk .

I'm told that where Lance is from, his linguistic skills are considered top shelf.:whistle:

Are we still doing this? Good grief, I thought this horse had been buried. You all CLEARLY HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO DO and if you notice...the person who wrote the original question has yet to respond which is funny in itself.

ARE YOU BLIND? CAN YOU READ? DID YOU READ MY REPLY? PROBABLY NOT!! I'm not responding again. If you really want to know if she got UNDER MY SKIN...go back and find my response. IDIOT!

GVF is that you? :killingme

I think you all are so funny!!! You read only bits and pieces of things and have no idea of anything else I have said or replied to. You pass judgement and assume I'm insecure. Actually, I'm quite secure. People make people insecure. That is A FACT!! I'll remember that the next time I FLIRT WITH SOMEONE ELSES HUSBAND or better yet, someone elses husband FLIRTS W/ME!!! :yahoo:
I think you're going to have to learn the difference between a fact and an opinion.

I'll remember that the next time I FLIRT WITH SOMEONE ELSES HUSBAND or better yet, someone elses husband FLIRTS W/ME!!! :yahoo:
As soon as you open your mouth it'll be over, so make it count.

:cds:

People flirt because it is fun, relieves stress, and puts you in a good mood. It's not like they are getting a BJ in a men's bathroom.




you have experience with this ... do you ? :ducksrunningforcover:


:popcorn:

:roflmao: Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point. :lmao:




Nuked the Shark ........ Jumping the Fridge

No one can "make" you (figuratively) insecure. You do that on your own - not one single person on this earth is powerful enough to "make" anyone feel anything.

You, LadyWolf, come across as insecure and unreasonable. And again, if that works for you, great. But I think that's an unproductive way to live your life.

I suspect you have been cheated on, which can certainly blow a person's paradigm. Trust me, I know. But blame the cheaters and dickheads, not the harmless flirts.

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy

:roflmao: :cds: :roflmao:

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE

Well..she is a pretty effective debater.


:killingme

Nuked the Shark ........ Jumping the Fridge

Or in classic form;

"It's dead, Jim."

No one can "make" you (figuratively) insecure. You do that on your own - not one single person on this earth is powerful enough to "make" anyone feel anything.

You, LadyWolf, come across as insecure and unreasonable. And again, if that works for you, great. But I think that's an unproductive way to live your life.

I suspect you have been cheated on, which can certainly blow a person's paradigm. Trust me, I know. But blame the cheaters and dickheads, not the harmless flirts.

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy
Look what you did now vrai, you drove this young lady to start drinking in the middle of the day, are you happy now?

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I

:shrug: She's right. Nobody makes you feel that way. You choose to feel that way.

Originally Posted by Lance
Read em & Weep.

Take the $ & Run



:loser:

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy now you get it

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy

Dang :shocking:

Dang :shocking:

She's hurting, hubby left her for the waitress that was only being nice and flirting a bit to get a larger tip. :whistle:

u r in no way @ this level 4 a challenge. have w/e day u have. b smart now. no time 4 chump change. no name callin...Implied git It?

Yeah..be vewy vewy careful. I got careless once and Lance 'keylogged me'*.





*No..I've no clue how that is a bad thing. But it sounded like a bad thing the way he typed it.:killingme

She's hurting, hubby left her for the waitress that was only being nice and flirting a bit to get a larger tip. :whistle:

yeah, but did you see the [fill in favorite here] on that waitress??? Who could blame him?

For Lady Wolf:

How to Build Self Esteem Forever | PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-build-self-esteem-forever/)

How to Stop Feeling Insecure | eHow.com (http://www.ehow.com/how_4709176_stop-feeling-insecure.html)

Feeling Insecure about Relationships | 2KnowMySelf (http://www.2knowmyself.com/relationship_breakups/feeling_insecure_relationships)

For Lady Wolf:

How to Build Self Esteem Forever | PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-build-self-esteem-forever/)

How to Stop Feeling Insecure | eHow.com (http://www.ehow.com/how_4709176_stop-feeling-insecure.html)

Feeling Insecure about Relationships | 2KnowMySelf (http://www.2knowmyself.com/relationship_breakups/feeling_insecure_relationships)

It's not her!!! It's everyone else!! :mad: :jameo: :cds:







:lol:

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy

You tell her, Schmoopy:love:

You tell her, Schmoopy:love:

Did you bat your eyelashes when you posted that? :wink: :wink:

She's hurting, hubby left her for the waitress that was only being nice and flirting a bit to get a larger tip. :whistle:

large tip....ah..that is the problem....

large tip....ah..that is the problem....

:killingme

It's not her!!! It's everyone else!! :mad: :jameo: :cds:




:lol:

Thanks for the links, as far as feeling what ever I had a relationship where the person told me that they loved me but not in that way any more and they couldn't help they way they felt
And by the way " Nice fur"

Women get away with so much stuff, money, jobs, drinks, etc etc etc,,, just because they got T and A. I am going to get a sex change dammit :mad:. Umma get a butt like Ines Sainz, breast like Pamel Anderson and lips Gina Gershon.

GOOD GOD! THERE'S an image I'll have a tough time getting out of my head now!

I just remembered those, If so-and-so and what's-his-name had a child what would it look like?.....the one's that Howdy Doody, I mean, Conan O'Brien used to do.

My personal opinion on flirting as a single person, it's fine. Flirt w/single people. As a married person, why do you feel the need to flirt? You can view it as being "CONFIDENT" which is a load of crap. All it does is CREATE insecurities in your SO. It means you need attention from someone other than your spouse OR you aren't getting any attention from your spouse! It means you really aren't that happy in the relationship and there are some issues. Sometimes...there are those people who just do it to get a reaction from their spouse. They WANT them to be jealous... perhaps to show they care and give a damn. One sure way to make your SO insecure, flirt with other people. Think about it people. You should be "CONFIDENT" that your spouse is true blue and has absolutely no reason to flirt with other people. As soon as the flirting begins...it raises a red flag!!! DUH!! :smack:

Hey.....how YOU doin'? /:-) :-D

:roflmao:

I thinks someone fell off the rocker and hit her head badly on the porch floor. :whistle:

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy

You keep that up and the doc is gonna up your meds... :coffee:

You tell her, Schmoopy:love:

:lmao:

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy

You're broken.

Well..she is a pretty effective debater.

That's master debater, dear. :coffee:

You're broken.

How you doin' :really:



Wait, aren't you my neice? And I'm flirting with you?!?! :cds:

That's master debater, dear. :coffee:

I'm not worthy.

I need a lot more practice before I reach that level.

Vrailblonde....Really? You think? Are you that secure? Hmmm!!! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE? I WOULDN'T BET ON THAT!!! You come across as being arrogant and have a "I don't give a damn" attitude. People who who believe they are THAT SECURE generally are proven wrong at some point in life. I believe it's called "TAKING PEOPLE FOR GRANTED".

So, since Vrailblonde is right and everyone is in agreement, lets all look at flirting AS ACCEPTABLE and we should ALL FLIRT w/EVERYONE ELSES HUSBAND AND WIFE because it makes us feel like we haven't lost our touch. It boosts OUR SELF-ESTEEM (oh wait, thats right, WE ALREADY HAVE SELF-ESTEEM because were secure w/ourselves). Oh well, then we flirt to just upset the innocent people WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Hey, it's a good reason to flirt. Right? That way it gives all of us FLIRTS a reason to beat over the head how Joe/Jane Schmo's spouse is SO INSECURE, while Joe/Jane Schmo is batting their eyes at us and humiliating their spouse. Makes great sense to me. Hail to Vrai :notworthy
This was an AWESOME meltdown!

:yay:

A touch of any kind (verbal or not) can do wonders for married people who aren't getting what they need at home. Some of us are starving for anything we can get. Look at the idea of a spouse whose paralysis clamps her legs together, or a spouse whose disease makes his noodle shrink beyond revival. Serious business, not fun and games. There are no meds to undo some things. Those of us who married healthy mates and now are married to those who can do nothing, are a bit sensitive about this stuff. Flirting is stimulating and entertaining when you're sitting in the many-years-long waiting room next to the one who used to be your spouse.

So if your SO is having friendly conversation to be lets say be "Polite" and you asked them to stop and they do not. Its time to be jealous or get a divorce or break up or have an argument because you think the friendly conversation is "Flirting" or the other person could be "flirting" with your SO. And that would be OK to have a problem with them too. Because you don't trust your SO???:shrug:

WOW! You used a wonderful basis for thought: Trust. Unfortunately, I'll bet that most mates don't have 100% trust in each other. Being protective of your relationship is not the same as jealousy because the latter has written into it your desire to BE the "intruder." (Think about that for awhile). Being protective of the relationship involves helping your mate get back in touch with the terms of your relationship (originally spoken or not). This should be done in a loving but firm way.

The seemingly contradictory reaction is when one mate is no longer able to give what the other needs. Over a long period of time, it will be beneficial to the fully-functioning mate to be bolstered by what someone outside the marriage might say. Preferably the source is God, speaking through a friend, but sometimes the source is dangerous to say the least.

Remember that marriage is a sacred union which is not to be broken; flirting is inherently dangerous, but like some poisons, in small doses, can be very beneficial.

That's masterbaiter, dear. :coffee:



:faint:

Is flirting acceptable when someone is married? Man or woman. Would you flirt with someone who is married?

Since I am married, I think of me flirting with another woman as betrayal. At least, open, obvious and intentional flirting. The kind where you imply you're open to the possibility.

On the other hand....

I think it's totally ok to compliment a woman (or man) in a way appropriate to their relationship to you. My best gauge for such a situation is, if I am sure my wife wouldn't be bothered by it if she were present, it's probably ok.

However --

Things sure got easier once I got married. For me, and from me. It seemed when I was single, it was very hard to be sure my polite behavior wasn't seen as bumbling flirtation, even from my end. When a woman was VERY nice to me, I wasn't sure if she was flirting or just fishing for a compliment. Now that I am married, it's a pretty safe bet that the ring on my finger ensures a lot of it stays tame. It's just an awkward kind of thing I don't need to think about any more.

Flirting can lead to transgression, NOt good, us men are so weak ladies, please don't flirt with us :cds:

:coffee:

I've been married so long I think my flirt is broken.

You looking good in them jeans today, oh have you lost weight also?

:coffee:

:whistle:




:really:

:coffee:

this tread is :roflmao:

There are people in my workplace that are incredibly flirtatious... But I don't think they realize they are flirting. :coffee:

It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!!

This was the quote of the year :lmao: We should make that our forum motto.

:roflmao:

She's hurting, hubby left her for the waitress that was only being nice and flirting a bit to get a larger tip. :whistle:
I'm thinking her hubby must have gotten at least one sugar packet... maybe more...:shocking:

I'm thinking her hubby must have gotten at least one sugar packet... maybe more...:shocking:

Ask libby how many sugar packets her hubby got.

I think he liked mine the best. :coffee:

okay, but flirting is not harmless, although it may start that way. where would you draw the line?:shrug:

I think that Naturally some people have a very flirtatious personality... I am one of those... and so is the hubby... But we NEVER go out without each other, and we rarely go out anyways.

Think it just depends on what you as a serious relationship put importance on... Some people are pretty judgmental when it comes to things like this but a lot of times family and friends wont care because that is just how someone is... It really can be a personality thing ... especially since most of the time we do not even know we are doing it until someone points it out. (Normally someone who does not know us etc.... )

That's what I was thinking too..but I've lost the moral high ground in this particular argument since my flirty ex wife took it the other direction to the extreme. That I 'let the flirting go' as long as I did?..because I believed there is a middle ground where flirtation and security are well balanced. I thought I was being 'enlightened..secure..non-possesive" I still believe that...I'm just a lot more realistic about where it can and does 'go wrong'.

I Think it also depends on whether or not you are randomly talking to someone you will never see again, and if there is alcohol involved... Alcohol automatically seems to make most people louder, not just in verbal but in nonverbal language as well... Sorry about your wife though.. that sucks...

:coffee:

:lmao:

Guess this particular age-old question is yet to be definitvely answered, huh?

I did find this.....

Clair Huxtable (Character) - Quotes (http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0021135/quotes)

"The Cosby Show: Cliff in Love (#2.4)" (1985)
[while Elvin waits for Sondra, Clair offers coffee for him and Cliff; Elvin is surprised]
Elvin Tibideaux: I'm sorry, Mrs. Huxtable, I didn't think you did that kind of thing.
Clair Huxtable: What kind of thing?
Elvin Tibideaux: You know... serve.
Clair Huxtable: Serve whom?
Elvin Tibideaux: [indicating Cliff] Serve him.
Clair Huxtable: [with a tense smile] Oh, serve *him*. As in "serve your man"?
Elvin Tibideaux: Well, yeah.
Clair Huxtable: [now visibly indignant] Let me tell you something, Elvin. You see, I am not "serving" Dr. Huxtable, okay?
Elvin Tibideaux: Okay.
Clair Huxtable: That's the kind of thing that goes on in a restaurant. Now I am going to bring him a cup of coffee just like he brought me a cup of coffee this morning. And *that*, young man, is what marriage is made of: it is give-and-take fifty-fifty. And if you don't get it together, and drop these macho attitudes, you are never gonna have anybody bringing you anything anywhere any place any time EVER.
[pauses, then smiles graciously]
Clair Huxtable: Now, what would you like in your coffee?
Elvin Tibideaux: [shaken] Maybe I can get *you* some coffee.
Clair Huxtable: Elvin, that's alright. I don't mind getting it. But thanks for offering.
[Clair takes the tray to the kitchen; Elvin slowly sits down and looks at Cliff, scared]
Cliff: Elvin?
Elvin Tibideaux: Yes, sir?
Cliff: When she brings the coffee back, if I were you, I wouldn't drink it.

Guess this particular age-old question is yet to be definitvely answered, huh?

I did find this.....

Clair Huxtable (Character) - Quotes (http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0021135/quotes)

"The Cosby Show: Cliff in Love (#2.4)" (1985)
[while Elvin waits for Sondra, Clair offers coffee for him and Cliff; Elvin is surprised]
Elvin Tibideaux: I'm sorry, Mrs. Huxtable, I didn't think you did that kind of thing.
Clair Huxtable: What kind of thing?
Elvin Tibideaux: You know... serve.
Clair Huxtable: Serve whom?
Elvin Tibideaux: [indicating Cliff] Serve him.
Clair Huxtable: [with a tense smile] Oh, serve *him*. As in "serve your man"?
Elvin Tibideaux: Well, yeah.
Clair Huxtable: [now visibly indignant] Let me tell you something, Elvin. You see, I am not "serving" Dr. Huxtable, okay?
Elvin Tibideaux: Okay.
Clair Huxtable: That's the kind of thing that goes on in a restaurant. Now I am going to bring him a cup of coffee just like he brought me a cup of coffee this morning. And *that*, young man, is what marriage is made of: it is give-and-take fifty-fifty. And if you don't get it together, and drop these macho attitudes, you are never gonna have anybody bringing you anything anywhere any place any time EVER.
[pauses, then smiles graciously]
Clair Huxtable: Now, what would you like in your coffee?
Elvin Tibideaux: [shaken] Maybe I can get *you* some coffee.
Clair Huxtable: Elvin, that's alright. I don't mind getting it. But thanks for offering.
[Clair takes the tray to the kitchen; Elvin slowly sits down and looks at Cliff, scared]
Cliff: Elvin?
Elvin Tibideaux: Yes, sir?
Cliff: When she brings the coffee back, if I were you, I wouldn't drink it.

VenusDoom told you "NO"... it makes sense now...

VenusDoom told you "NO"... it makes sense now...

Ah, well....... :shrug:

Hey warnutz, since you are convinced that I am after VenusDoom; and I know what she looks like; can you verify who I think "she" is?.....meaning a picture? Can't, can ya.

Ah, well....... :shrug:

At least you can afford a K&N air filter for your Cruze now...

At least you can afford a K&N air filter for your Cruze now...

:snort: