Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

I am not sure how kind people are going to be.


Here is a link that was in another post. It helps you see what you qualify for.

https://www.marylandsail.org/Screening/Default.aspx



but most people's sug will be to downsize bills, continue to work, and pay for things your self. It may be uncomfortable or tough, but then you will be secure in the knowledge that you took care of your child on your own.


congrats on the little one. I hope you and SO are able to find better employment or a better living situation.

Congratulations, children are a blessing.

But.....

Your SO...??? So at this point i'm assuming that you are unmaried and having unprotected sex. Now you have another mouth to feed and you were already having a hard time making ends meet....Not very responsible.

Now you are looking for a handout and I'm(a taxpayer) the one footing the bill.

Excuse me if i'm less than thrilled.

I don't have any advice on financial aid help BUT congrats on your pregnancy!!! :biggrin:

Congrats on the pregnancy!

I predict this is going to be bad.

Congratulations, children are a blessing.

But.....

Your SO...??? So at this point i'm assuming that you are unmaried and having unprotected sex. Now you have another mouth to feed and you were already having a hard time making ends meet....Not very responsible.

Now you are looking for a handout and I'm(a taxpayer) the one footing the bill.

Excuse me if i'm less than thrilled.

wow!!! That was harsh!!! Many of us are having a hard time, the ecomony, with jobs being very hard to find, and prices going up and up, it is really unfair to attack anyone for struggling right now, with or without children..
I hope that things work out for this young couple...asking for help is a responsible thing to do..I pray they recieve support...try the CareNet Center...they can guide and help you..we all worry if we can support our children and give them the best..it is normal....esp with the first...

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

Do you have any friends or family that may be able to help you get baby gear? Also, there are a lot moms that donate gear to thieft shops and yard sales. As far as getting assistance, contact your local Dept. of Social Services. They will be able to help you figure out what, if anything, you qualify for. Are you a member of a church...maybe you can seek help there. There are a lot of other families that are in your same situation and it is frustrasting...but with God all things are possible. I wish you well.

Do you have any friends or family that may be able to help you get baby gear? Also, there are a lot moms that donate gear to thieft shops and yard sales. As far as getting assistance, contact your local Dept. of Social Services. They will be able to help you figure out what, if anything, you qualify for. Are you a member of a church...maybe you can seek help there. There are a lot of other families that are in your same situation and it is frustrasting...but with God all things are possible. I wish you well.

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:eyebrow:Tigger!:drummer:

So at this point i'm assuming that you are unmaried and having unprotected sex.

I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my son. Just an FYI.

Riley, if you need some help, get it - that's what it's there for. But please be a responsible citizen and only use it for as long as you need, and be a good mother to your baby.

Congrats!

I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my son. Just an FYI.

Riley, if you need some help, get it - that's what it's there for. But please be a responsible citizen and only use it for as long as you need, and be a good mother to your baby.

Congrats!

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Thanks Vrai for saying what I was thinking....

Congratulations, children are a blessing.

But.....

Your SO...??? So at this point i'm assuming that you are unmaried and having unprotected sex. Now you have another mouth to feed and you were already having a hard time making ends meet....Not very responsible.

Now you are looking for a handout and I'm(a taxpayer) the one footing the bill.

Excuse me if i'm less than thrilled.

How does it feel to be perfect? :yay:

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

Make an appointment with social services and see what you qualify for. Start saving now. Each paycheck buy a package of diapers, wipes, bottles, an outfit... anything to help support the baby when he/she arrives.

Good luck and congrats!

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I meant thrift...opps

How does it feel to be perfect? :yay:I agree with him.

Staging and planning the arrival of a baby doesn't really cost *that* much. If you can't afford the basics of a baby's arrival, then perhaps you shouldn't be having a baby.

How does it feel to be perfect? :yay:

Don't know, I'm not and never claimed to be.

I agree with him.

Staging and planning the arrival of a baby doesn't really cost *that* much. If you can't afford the basics of a baby's arrival, then perhaps you shouldn't be having a baby.

Then my sister and I, and more than half of the World's population would have never existed.

wow!!! That was harsh!!! Many of us are having a hard time, the ecomony, with jobs being very hard to find, and prices going up and up, it is really unfair to attack anyone for struggling right now, with or without children..
I hope that things work out for this young couple...asking for help is a responsible thing to do..I pray they recieve support...try the CareNet Center...they can guide and help you..we all worry if we can support our children and give them the best..it is normal....esp with the first...

I hope it all works out as well, As I said children are a blessing. I have few and don't regret it one bit.

But if you are already struggling in life you should make sure you dont do things to make it worse, Married or not. So now there is another mouth to feed and a not so good situation gets worse.

Then my sister and I, and more than half of the World's population would have never existed.Listen, she's here asking for assistance for housing assistance and food.....basic necessities. How is having a baby going to IMPROVE her situation?

If you can't afford to care for yourself for THE BASICS then you need to re-think having children.

Do not be afraid of yard sale clothing. Babies grow so fast that the clothes are hardly worn. You can pick up clothing for very little cash, no one has to know that it is second hand (most people wouldn't even care). I have seen too many young mothers say "My baby isn't going to wear second hand clothes". Then they go out and buy cute outfits (think $$$ when they could have the same outfit for cents) and then the baby out grows the outfit after one or two wearings.

I agree with him.

Staging and planning the arrival of a baby doesn't really cost *that* much. If you can't afford the basics of a baby's arrival, then perhaps you shouldn't be having a baby.

Agreed but what's done is done soooo are you suggesting she abort or put the child up for adoption? Or, was your statement made just to make her feel bad?

My thought is she's saying they both work 50+ hours each week and it's not cutting it so she's asking where she might be able to get some type of assistance. Why bash her and/or say things that will make her feel bad? Do you/whoever think she isn't already thinking "WHAT HAVE WE DONE? WE'RE NOT READY"

Unfortunatley, I don't have any helpful advice to give as far as financial help but it sounds like some others here do....it will work out. There's never a PERFECT time as far as finances are concerned, well not for most people anyway.

Listen, she's here asking for assistance for housing assistance and food.....basic necessities. How is having a baby going to IMPROVE her situation?

If you can't afford to care for yourself for THE BASICS then you need to re-think having children.

I realize this is “not only a different time, but a different world” than 30 years ago. But when my sister (three years older than me) and I were brought into this world - my parents, along with a lot of people around the country - were pretty much FLAT broke. I wore my sister’s hand me down cloth diapers. I played with all her old toys. Not to many parents you talk to that had kids in the 70's and 80's won't tell you about how broke they were - but they did what they had to do to make ends meet. Put food on the table. If all those parents decided not to have kids because money was not available to provide then it would be an empty world because a whole lot of kids would not have been born.

Congratulations, children are a blessing.

But.....

Your SO...??? So at this point i'm assuming that you are unmaried and having unprotected sex. Now you have another mouth to feed and you were already having a hard time making ends meet....Not very responsible.

Now you are looking for a handout and I'm(a taxpayer) the one footing the bill.

Excuse me if i'm less than thrilled.

I agree!!!
Another mouth to finance thru government handouts...too many kids on this planet as it is.
Get an abortion, get married, get a real job so that you and your "husband" can plan for and afford a child like most people do.

Nothing worse than bringing a kid into this world on the back of poverty.
(If you have to rely on handouts, it means you are in poverty.)

And big deal on getting knocked up. It is not a skill to brag about, just means you cant afford to use birth control or "SO" cant pick up free condoms from the health department.

I agree!!!
Another mouth to finance thru government handouts...too many kids on this planet as it is.
Get an abortion, get married, get a real job so that you and your "husband" can plan for and afford a child like most people do.

Nothing worse than bringing a kid into this world on the back of poverty.
(If you have to rely on handouts, it means you are in poverty.)

And big deal on getting knocked up. It is not a skill to brag about, just means you cant afford to use birth control or "SO" cant pick up free condoms from the health department.

Now that is what I don't agree with. Instead of coming on here proud of her bundle of joy growing in her belly and asking the questions of where can my "SO" and I find three more jobs it seemed to come out more as - "Where do I sign up for all the FREE S***!!"

Then my sister and I, and more than half of the World's population would have never existed.

You, your sister and more than half the worlds population were not supported by the state because you could not make ends meet.

My issue is not with them having a child, Thats great !!!! And wish them all the happiness. My issue is looking for a handout before they even try to make it on their own.
When my wife was pregnant with our third child I did not go looking for help I helped my self. I got a second job, Had a huge yard sale, sold one car and found a cheaper place to live. I made it work and never got a handout. !!!
This is the time when "Mr. SO" needs to step up and be a man.

You, your sister and more than half the worlds population were not supported by the state because you could not make ends meet.

My issue is not with them having a child, Thats great !!!! And wish them all the happiness. My issue is looking for a handout before they even try to make it on their own.
When my wife was pregnant with our third child I did not go looking for help I helped my self. I got a second job, Had a huge yard sale, sold one car and found a cheaper place to live. I made it work and never got a handout. !!!
This is the time when "Mr. SO" needs to step up and be a man.


Yes. I agree 100% with you.

Make an appointment with social services and see what you qualify for. Start saving now. Each paycheck buy a package of diapers, wipes, bottles, an outfit... anything to help support the baby when he/she arrives.

Good luck and congrats!

I agree with Chasey. It is always better to go in person when asking for help.

Some things I learned with my first child that helped me save money:
-Generic wipes work just as well as name brand.
-Not all diapers are created equal. When you are trying a new type, buy smaller packages. When you find the brands you like, buy bulk.
-Diapers.com is very competitive on formula and you can buy 6 large tubs at a time.
-Vintage Values has $0.35 bins full of clothes. Sometimes the selection is limited, other times you can walk out with a 13 gallon size bag full of clothes.
-Family members whose kids have not yet reproduced tend to want to visit, and typically bring gifts. This is not always reliable but I got a lot of newborn diapers this way.
-When registering for a baby shower, don't be hesitant to ask for expensive items. At least people know you need it and that is step one in getting them to buy.
-Tell everyone you know that you are pregnant. It is amazing how many people have baby items lying around that they no longer need. I was gifted a jumper, a bouncer, a motorized swing, 2 infant car seats, 2 toddler car seats, boxes of clothes ranging from newborn to 12 months, and a tub. Those are just the items that I can remember off hand. Very important to remember to write thank you notes to these people.

Granted, the above doesn't help with housing or food, but it does help lower the initial baby investment.

""if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food"'

Maybe you mis-read this part..

No, I understand. My point being is she needs to do exactly what you posted in your previous statement. Do what they need to do to make ends meet, not sit around waiting for somebody to bring it to their door for them.

""if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food"'

Maybe you mis-read this part..

Wahhh someone talk/respond to me! :lol: j/k

Okay, I agree with you about her asking for housing help specifically....they must already live somewhere so I don't see why they can't make it work where they are. As far as food goes, ummmm Mommy can supply food for awhile naturally (hopefully anyway) but formula, should the baby need it, is expensive. I don't know, now I sorta feel bad about my comment to BadGirl :ohwell: I'm pregnant myself so I'm a little emotional, hehe....I just want Ms Preggers to be happy and know it will work out somehow :smile:

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

I am very sorry. I'm sure I took the air out of your ballon. Unfortunately the welfare/food stamps issue is one I feel very stongly about.

I do hope that your child comes int this world healthy I'm sure after al is said and done you will make wonderful parents.

I agree!!!
Another mouth to finance thru government handouts...too many kids on this planet as it is.
Get an abortion, get married, get a real job so that you and your "husband" can plan for and afford a child like most people do.

Nothing worse than bringing a kid into this world on the back of poverty.
(If you have to rely on handouts, it means you are in poverty.)

And big deal on getting knocked up. It is not a skill to brag about, just means you cant afford to use birth control or "SO" cant pick up free condoms from the health department.

JFC thats a bit harsh dont you think?

I was afraid this was going to get a little nasty.


I didn't get that she was looking for "free ####" but I think it is natural when you have a baby (and an oopsy, like my monster) to worry. especially if you are on shaky ground to begin with...you start counting money, and everyone tells you how expensive babies are, and you start to fear that you will never have a cent to yourself again. And you probably won't. :killingme it may be that things seem much worse when you first get shocking news..but things have a way of working out...esp if you plan ahead and try not to freak out. living here is expensive, but there are rentals on this site that are fairly affordable. Food is very expensive, but if you shop carefully you can get by. keep looking for better jobs. I got hand me downs from friends, some nice things at my baby shower, I nurse (who can afford formula?) and I buy the store brand diapers. it can be done..and I bet it looks so much worse at the moment than it really is. you may have to go back to work sooner than 6 weeks, you may have to forgo a swing and fancy clothes, you may have to rent a small apartment and share a room with the baby, you may have to not eat out for a long time, downgrade your cell minutes, ...struggle.

but it won't seem so bad when you look at your smiley baby and know you are doing it for them :huggy:

How is having a baby going to IMPROVE her situation?


I can only speak for myself, but having my daughter at 18 helped me to get where I am today. It was hard and often I struggled, but I know for a fact I would have taken a different approach on life w/out her.

I can only speak for myself, but having my daughter at 18 helped me to get where I am today. It was hard and often I struggled, but I know for a fact I would have taken a different approach on life w/out her.Now you are taking my words out of context, and you know it.

Many people have children when they are ill-prepared for them, and they (both the parents and the children) turn out beautifully for the most part. I have examples in my own family where this has been proven. I've also been witness to how difficult it is for them to get by with minimal finances and their ability to better themselves.

When I said: "How is having a baby going to IMPROVE her situation?", that was in relation to her current financial situation, and her ability or inability to care for it (the baby).

Asking for help in locating housing and food assistance is a pretty darn clear indicator to me that she is having difficulty hanging on to the fundamentals of her day to day living. When you can't afford to provide a safe place for your child to live or to put diapers on your child, then you have some serious problems to overcome.

Wahhh someone talk/respond to me! :lol: j/k

Okay, I agree with you about her asking for housing help specifically....they must already live somewhere so I don't see why they can't make it work where they are. As far as food goes, ummmm Mommy can supply food for awhile naturally (hopefully anyway) but formula, should the baby need it, is expensive. I don't know, now I sorta feel bad about my comment to BadGirl :ohwell: I'm pregnant myself so I'm a little emotional, hehe....I just want Ms Preggers to be happy and know it will work out somehow :smile:

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cds:

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cds:

Why yes, yes I am :biggrin:

I'm 13 weeks...due Feb 10th :yahoo:

So have S.O. work 70 hours instead of 50, he has a responsibility now and so do you. There is always a way if there is a will. Don't rely on government or handouts. Just sayin.

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free montraey and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

I'm sorry that you are going through this ordeal. The following link may help you in getting assistance in making any of those tough descisions:

Health Services - Waldorf, MD - Planned Parenthood - Waldorf Health Center (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/centerDetails.asp?f=2900&a=90620&v=details)

They can provide assistance in the following areas:


Waldorf Health Center offers the following pregnancy related services:

pregnancy testing
abortion referrals
adoption services
adoption referrals
trained staff to discuss your options with you if you are pregnant
Pregnancy testing and services are available:

during all business hours on a walk-in basisPregnancy testing is not available on Tuesdays.

In 1973, at the age of 18, and still in High School..I got pregnant. My Son is now 38 years old, and I am SO happy that I decided to have him. Life was rough, my Husband worked so many hours that I couldn't even tell you with all honesty..how many he worked. We ate Macaroni, with Tuna, and lived in Subsidized Housing for a year. I worked also, and went back to work 10 days after having our Child. Looking back on all of this, makes me feel for anyone who is in this situation. It's scarey enough to be pregnant for 9 months, having to wonder if you are eating right, and doing the right thing. As stated earlier..it all works out in the end, and if anything..it makes you really appreciate the things you have, and the sacrifices that you made to have this Child. She played, and she's now paying, and I for one, am happy to hear that she is not choosing Abortion...which in MY opinion..is the easy way out. Hang in there!!

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!
I'm not able to provide much in the way of advice, but I'd like to say congratulations though.

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

First of all, congratulations! It is so nice that you are both excited. Every baby deserves to be wanted. Please ignore posters who are criticizing and (even worse) trying to encourage you to abort or give up that baby. (I can't believe the insensitivity of some people!). It is responsible to start thinking about finances and living arrangements now (especially since you just found out that you have to move), so good for you!

When I had my first child years ago, my husband and I were both laid off at that time. Luckily, we were able to keep health insurance and lived somewhere where the cost of living was pretty low. We ate alot of tuna noodle casserole, got used baby things from family members, and shopped for baby stuff at the dollar store. We eventually ended up moving to another state for jobs. It was tough but we managed to make it without any public assistance -- we didn't even quality for WIC because we made too much money with our unemployment checks.

You are getting some good suggestions here from some of our forumites. Yes, go in person to Social Services just to explore that option. You are currently working so you are currently paying taxes and your taxes are helping to support others who may be worse off than you, just like my taxes might end up helping you and that little baby. It's okay -- use it as long as you need it and then get off of it to give someone else worse off a chance. That's how it's supposed to work. And I've been where you are. There was time when hubby and I were each working 2 jobs, had 2 small kids and still ended up owing the IRS more taxes in April because we didn't have enough deductions! We made it through and so will you.

If you can, breastfeed that baby. It's healthier for them and cheaper for you but you do have to make sure that you are eating right while you do it (that's what WIC was designed to do -- help expectant Moms & babies eat more nutriciously).

Let people give you hand-me down baby clothes and other baby items. Start saving now to buy a crib as used ones may not be safe. Whoever suggested buying a few baby things with each paycheck had a great idea. Whoever suggested buying diapers in small packages until you found a brand you liked is an absolute genius! Shop the yard sales, the thrift stores, and the dollar stores to save money where you can.

Yes, babies are expensive and they will definitely change your life but it is SO worth it! Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to stress too much. Things will work out. It may be rough for a while but things will get better, really!

Good luck to you!

:huggy::huggy::huggy:First of all, congratulations! It is so nice that you are both excited. Every baby deserves to be wanted. Please ignore posters who are criticizing and (even worse) trying to encourage you to abort or give up that baby. (I can't believe the insensitivity of some people!). It is responsible to start thinking about finances and living arrangements now (especially since you just found out that you have to move), so good for you!

When I had my first child years ago, my husband and I were both laid off at that time. Luckily, we were able to keep health insurance and lived somewhere where the cost of living was pretty low. We ate alot of tuna noodle casserole, got used baby things from family members, and shopped for baby stuff at the dollar store. We eventually ended up moving to another state for jobs. It was tough but we managed to make it without any public assistance -- we didn't even quality for WIC because we made too much money with our unemployment checks.

You are getting some good suggestions here from some of our forumites. Yes, go in person to Social Services just to explore that option. You are currently working so you are currently paying taxes and your taxes are helping to support others who may be worse off than you, just like my taxes might end up helping you and that little baby. It's okay -- use it as long as you need it and then get off of it to give someone else worse off a chance. That's how it's supposed to work. And I've been where you are. There was time when hubby and I were each working 2 jobs, had 2 small kids and still ended up owing the IRS more taxes in April because we didn't have enough deductions! We made it through and so will you.

If you can, breastfeed that baby. It's healthier for them and cheaper for you but you do have to make sure that you are eating right while you do it (that's what WIC was designed to do -- help expectant Moms & babies eat more nutriciously).

Let people give you hand-me down baby clothes and other baby items. Start saving now to buy a crib as used ones may not be safe. Whoever suggested buying a few baby things with each paycheck had a great idea. Whoever suggested buying diapers in small packages until you found a brand you liked is an absolute genius! Shop the yard sales, the thrift stores, and the dollar stores to save money where you can.

Yes, babies are expensive and they will definitely change your life but it is SO worth it! Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to stress too much. Things will work out. It may be rough for a while but things will get better, really!

Good luck to you!

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm not an idiot, I knew posting on here I would recieve numerous, unhelpful posts. Thank you to those who gave thoughtful insight. First and foremost abortion and adoption are absolutely not an option for me. They may be the perfect choices for some one else but they will never be mine. Programs like the ones I am seeking were designed to help people in need. The people most of you have a problem with are the ones that mooch and never try to advance. I know a women right now who has been on unemployment for over a year and a half, hasn't even looked for a job, goes drinking everynight, sleeps till noon etc... people like that are absolutely disgusting to me! I absolutely have no issues with second hand items. I am and have been a freecycle member for years. I used to work in childcare so I know how big of a waste of money buying first hand expensive things for children are! Just because I'm seeking out help does not mean I'm worthless. I work 50+ hours a week, I have health insurance, I graduated high school with some college, I do not use drugs, or drink. I'm 24 years old which beats the hell out of those 15 year olds in all the high schools right now 8 months along! Thank you for all the advice :)

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm not an idiot, I knew posting on here I would recieve numerous, unhelpful posts. Thank you to those who gave thoughtful insight. First and foremost abortion and adoption are absolutely not an option for me. They may be the perfect choices for some one else but they will never be mine. Programs like the ones I am seeking were designed to help people in need. The people most of you have a problem with are the ones that mooch and never try to advance. I know a women right now who has been on unemployment for over a year and a half, hasn't even looked for a job, goes drinking everynight, sleeps till noon etc... people like that are absolutely disgusting to me! I absolutely have no issues with second hand items. I am and have been a freecycle member for years. I used to work in childcare so I know how big of a waste of money buying first hand expensive things for children are! Just because I'm seeking out help does not mean I'm worthless. I work 50+ hours a week, I have health insurance, I graduated high school with some college, I do not use drugs, or drink. I'm 24 years old which beats the hell out of those 15 year olds in all the high schools right now 8 months along! Thank you for all the advice :)


:clap: Good Luck and Congrats!

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm not an idiot, I knew posting on here I would recieve numerous, unhelpful posts. Thank you to those who gave thoughtful insight. First and foremost abortion and adoption are absolutely not an option for me. They may be the perfect choices for some one else but they will never be mine. Programs like the ones I am seeking were designed to help people in need. The people most of you have a problem with are the ones that mooch and never try to advance. I know a women right now who has been on unemployment for over a year and a half, hasn't even looked for a job, goes drinking everynight, sleeps till noon etc... people like that are absolutely disgusting to me! I absolutely have no issues with second hand items. I am and have been a freecycle member for years. I used to work in childcare so I know how big of a waste of money buying first hand expensive things for children are! Just because I'm seeking out help does not mean I'm worthless. I work 50+ hours a week, I have health insurance, I graduated high school with some college, I do not use drugs, or drink. I'm 24 years old which beats the hell out of those 15 year olds in all the high schools right now 8 months along! Thank you for all the advice :)

Keep trying. :yay: I have no issues with those that try to help themselves. With that said, I may have a few left over baby items if you are interested. I know for a fact that I just pulled out a pack and play from the closet this past weekend. I was going to take it to the thrift store.

First of all...Congratulations!!!:yahoo: I think twinoaks pretty much said it best and Libertytyranny gave you an excellent link to get you started...right now just breath and put priorities in order. I assume you are only a few weeks along since you stated you just found out so you have plenty of time to make plans, get your 'ducks in a row' and figure out how to make things work. You will do fine and things will fall into place.:flowers:

Besides..."free money" as you call it isn't as "sweet" as you think it is!!!

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm not an idiot, I knew posting on here I would recieve numerous, unhelpful posts. Thank you to those who gave thoughtful insight. First and foremost abortion and adoption are absolutely not an option for me. They may be the perfect choices for some one else but they will never be mine. Programs like the ones I am seeking were designed to help people in need. The people most of you have a problem with are the ones that mooch and never try to advance. I know a women right now who has been on unemployment for over a year and a half, hasn't even looked for a job, goes drinking everynight, sleeps till noon etc... people like that are absolutely disgusting to me! I absolutely have no issues with second hand items. I am and have been a freecycle member for years. I used to work in childcare so I know how big of a waste of money buying first hand expensive things for children are! Just because I'm seeking out help does not mean I'm worthless. I work 50+ hours a week, I have health insurance, I graduated high school with some college, I do not use drugs, or drink. I'm 24 years old which beats the hell out of those 15 year olds in all the high schools right now 8 months along! Thank you for all the advice :)

Congratulations on the pregnancy. I am glad to hear you are working and your SO also. I have no problem with someone asking for help when they are trying to help themselves. I'm sure there is not one of us on this forum who couldnt have used a little help now and then, myself included. I had my two daughters 11 months apart, I was on B/C, for those of you who are ready to comment. My husband was working for the PG County school board at the time. After my 2nd daughter was born, he left me for a school teacher. I made minimum wage, was having a hell of time getting child support, This was 30 years ago so things were a little different. I could've used some help myself, but, didnt qualify. Thats why I think the whole welfare/foodstamp system needs to be revamped. It was originally set up to help those who were working but needed a little extra to get by for a temporary time. It was never meant to be a way of life passed down from one generation to the next. I hope you get the help you need for a while and will be able to care for your little one without the help of any government assistance soon.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm not an idiot, I knew posting on here I would recieve numerous, unhelpful posts. Thank you to those who gave thoughtful insight. First and foremost abortion and adoption are absolutely not an option for me. They may be the perfect choices for some one else but they will never be mine. Programs like the ones I am seeking were designed to help people in need. The people most of you have a problem with are the ones that mooch and never try to advance. I know a women right now who has been on unemployment for over a year and a half, hasn't even looked for a job, goes drinking everynight, sleeps till noon etc... people like that are absolutely disgusting to me! I absolutely have no issues with second hand items. I am and have been a freecycle member for years. I used to work in childcare so I know how big of a waste of money buying first hand expensive things for children are! Just because I'm seeking out help does not mean I'm worthless. I work 50+ hours a week, I have health insurance, I graduated high school with some college, I do not use drugs, or drink. I'm 24 years old which beats the hell out of those 15 year olds in all the high schools right now 8 months along! Thank you for all the advice :)
:yay: Congrats and good luck! Sometimes babies do just happen so enjoy!

Keep in mind babies don't require the accumulation of stuff advertisers say they do. Every baby shower I attend leaves me shaking my head at the money spent of stuff the mother will never get around to using. I hope you stick around... you strick me as a good addition to our forums...:clap:

The Calvert County fairgrounds has a yard sale every Saturday. I was able to purchase all the items for a baby in just two weekends. Check out the yard sale ads in your area for the ones that list baby items. You can get gently used and new items for pennies at these sales.

Thank you all for the supportive posts! I completely agree that welfare, food stamps, or any government help needs to monitered extremely close! I have run accross a few people who have food stamps that sell the cards for cash. I know people whos parents have used the system and in return they do so as well. I am simply looking for a little help to get on our feet being as days before I found out I was pregnant we were told (by the unemployeed, lazy, government money moocher roommate) that we have less then a month to move. If that makes you think less of me then so be it, my success is not dependant on someone else's feelings about me :) I will definitely look in to all the suggestions! Thank you all!

The Calvert County fairgrounds has a yard sale every Saturday. I was able to purchase all the items for a baby in just two weekends. Check out the yard sale ads in your area for the ones that list baby items. You can get gently used and new items for pennies at these sales.


You may also want to go to Leprechaun Lilly's if you are in St. Mary's. It's a baby/childrens consignment that is held twice a year and you can find very reasonable clothes and baby items. Leprechaun Lilly's Children's Consignment Sale | Serving Southern Maryland MD (http://www.leprechaunlillys.com/)

Also, plan to buy the carseat and crib new since used ones could have been in accidents or not meet current safety standards.

Good luck and Congratulations!

The Calvert County fairgrounds has a yard sale every Saturday. I was able to purchase all the items for a baby in just two weekends. Check out the yard sale ads in your area for the ones that list baby items. You can get gently used and new items for pennies at these sales.

No offense, but I think she has bigger issues than finding inexpensive baby stuff. She has 9 months to figure that part out but right now she needs a place to live and a way to put food on the table for her and "SO". Just trying to keep the conversation focused.

Thank you all for the supportive posts! I completely agree that welfare, food stamps, or any government help needs to monitered extremely close! I have run accross a few people who have food stamps that sell the cards for cash. I know people whos parents have used the system and in return they do so as well. I am simply looking for a little help to get on our feet being as days before I found out I was pregnant we were told (by the unemployeed, lazy, government money moocher roommate) that we have less then a month to move. If that makes you think less of me then so be it, my success is not dependant on someone else's feelings about me :) I will definitely look in to all the suggestions! Thank you all!

Not sure of your circumstances, could family help with giving you a place to stay until you can find your own place? I'm sorry you have to go thru this now instead of being able to enjoy your good news.

Sooo... I just found out I'm pregnant!!! My SO and I are extremely excited and extremely unprepared!! I was wondering if anyone could give me some information about getting financial assistant for housing and/or food. We both have full time jobs but income is not that great and we just found out days before getting my BFP that we need to move out of our current living situation!!! Any information would be great. I seriouly think we will be over qualified for any help but its worth a shot! Pretty sickening that we both work our butts off (50+ hours a week each!), but still can't afford anything and so many others are not working but getting free money and and living sweet, but we'll get nothing, arrgg I digress! I'm a little overwhelmed and I don't even know where to begin!! Thanks!

I have an older Graco Quattro stroller you're welcome to have if you like. The pattern is a blue plaid. PM me if you're interested. If you find out you're having a boy, I can help you with some clothes as well. Let me know. :smile: