Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!

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Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!Sounds like he should give you up.

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Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!

We never argue over them. We kind of were left the caretaker of the first horse and so we purchased another to keep her company. One time we even had a mini donkey also. Hubby has been the one that has to provide all of the muscle when it comes to haying and keeping up the stalls.
We knew the costs involved and have never looked back.

Why is your hubby so against you having horses? Is it the time you are with them or is it because of the money?

Which came first...hubby or horsies? If he married you knowing that you were a horsenut then ignore him. If he married you before you became one...then blow him more. :shrug:

...then blow him more. :shrug:

I like the way you think

Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!

I woudn't say my husband hates them, but he would be okay if I didn't have them. When I bought my first horse, we had an understanding that it was a permanent situation, although that doesn't apply to the other two I have added since..

Now I work full time so I try to provide as much financiallly so they don't become an issue, although I'm not sure how our "new" farm plays into that, because he pays the larger bills we have but we still share accounts when we need to.

I am their caretaker, cleaning stalls, waking early to feed, ect... and I try not to ask him for help otherwise but he does help when asked. There are just some things I know he does better than me! I think the only time they might be a kink in our relationship is when we want to "spur of the moment" leave town for the weekend...

It can be difficult to find babysitters!

June

I like the way you think

Fair is fair. :shrug:

Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!

Get rid of the hubby. Horses are more important. Plus Socki needs a new man. :)

Get rid of the hubby. Horses are more important. Plus Socki needs a new man. :)

:nono: Socki is more than happy with the man she's had for awhile now. :dance:

As a previous husband of a horse-wife, the horses always win. No contest. But if he was smart, he'd bail before you kicked him to the curb.

[QUOTE=sockgirl77;4666135]:nono: Socki is more than happy with the man she's had for awhile now. :dance:[/QUOTE

See maybe if you called your friends once in a while I would know that!!!!!!!!!! Dumb!

See maybe if you called your friends once in a while I would know that!!!!!!!!!! Dumb!
Hijack CL's FB page. :smile:

We never argue over them. We kind of were left the caretaker of the first horse and so we purchased another to keep her company. One time we even had a mini donkey also. Hubby has been the one that has to provide all of the muscle when it comes to haying and keeping up the stalls.
We knew the costs involved and have never looked back.

Why is your hubby so against you having horses? Is it the time you are with them or is it because of the money?

Both money and time, but I work off board (feed in the am mon-fri but doesn't affect or take time from him) so I only pay for farrier, occasionally a vet bill. He always complains about me going to the farm. I may trail ride once a week and he gets mad about that. Oh and he met me when I was teaching lessons and a barn manager. I owned a horse then and of course he talked me into selling when I was pregnant with my first daughter. So no surprises on the horses!

My X and I used to fight over the horses..It was "my" thing..I came across my new man (almost 3 yrs already can you believe that) on an online dating service for horse lovers (lets see how many of you all actually read the horse forums lol) and we merged two farms into one...double the horses lol..I do the daily maintenance and we do the big stuff together...going to get hay...putting round bales out with the tractor...fences...etc....Oh and we ride together too...lol..Its great...I am the one now that is always saying lets sell something lol... Oh what was the question again lol

see no blows needed either...lol that would be just icing on the cake for something else...

My X and I used to fight over the horses..It was "my" thing..I came across my new man (almost 3 yrs already can you believe that) on an online dating service for horse lovers (lets see how many of you all actually read the horse forums lol) and we merged two farms into one...double the horses lol..I do the daily maintenance and we do the big stuff together...going to get hay...putting round bales out with the tractor...fences...etc....Oh and we ride together too...lol..Its great...I am the one now that is always saying lets sell something lol... Oh what was the question again lol

see no blows needed either...lol that would be just icing on the cake for something else...

LOL guess that's what I need to do, find me a man who loves horses!! My kids love them too so it's very frustrating!

LOL guess that's what I need to do, find me a man who loves horses!! My kids love them too so it's very frustrating!

Or find something for the hubby to do to keep him occupied while you're tending to the horses. He sounds needy.

Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies...Maybe he doesn't want the horses over there, he wants them nearby. :shrug:



He always complains about me going to the farm. I may trail ride once a week and he gets mad about that.Probably thinks you are cheating on him. :popcorn:

Both money and time, but I work off board (feed in the am mon-fri but doesn't affect or take time from him) so I only pay for farrier, occasionally a vet bill. He always complains about me going to the farm. I may trail ride once a week and he gets mad about that. Oh and he met me when I was teaching lessons and a barn manager. I owned a horse then and of course he talked me into selling when I was pregnant with my first daughter. So no surprises on the horses!

I am sorry for this BUT Oh hell no! He went into the marriage with both eyes open. How can he now demand that you now give them up?
Something else is wrong and I don't think it has anything at all to do with the horses or you going to ride once a week. He seriously sounds like a control freak and a very selfish and needy one at that. An occasional vet bill or a farrier bill is a very little price to have to pay for a hobby that you and your whole family can enjoy. You & I both know getting a child involved with riding is a very rewarding hobby to keep them off the streets when they are teens.

Doesn't he have any hobbies?

Tell him you will get rid of the horse and take up a new hobby..and you think you will go bar hopping till 2 am a few days a week.....

We both got into this because of the horses...they will always be here ...

I am sorry for this BUT Oh hell no! He went into the marriage with both eyes open. How can he now demand that you now give them up?
Something else is wrong and I don't think it has anything at all to do with the horses or you going to ride once a week. He seriously sounds like a control freak and a very selfish and needy one at that. An occasional vet bill or a farrier bill is a very little price to have to pay for a hobby that you and your whole family can enjoy. You & I both know getting a child involved with riding is a very rewarding hobby to keep them off the streets when they are teens.

Doesn't he have any hobbies?

I agree 100%!! He is into racing cars and works late alot anyways on cars, that's what is so frustrating and unfair!!! Plus my daughter is in love with our horse and I am doing all I can to keep her.

I agree 100%!! He is into racing cars and works late alot anyways on cars, that's what is so frustrating and unfair!!! Plus my daughter is in love with our horse and I am doing all I can to keep her.

hmmm your marriage is a partnership and you both are going to have to give a little bit. You have to come to an agreement that you both can have your hobby w/o each other nagging the other. Maybe set aside a monetary allowance for each for their own hobby for each pay period. Keep the money safe and if you don't need it, save it for the vet bill, that way you wont have to ask for it when that rolls around. The farrier appt only happens every 6 - 8wks so that would also be covered.
Good luck, sounds like there might be other issues also.

hmmm your marriage is a partnership and you both are going to have to give a little bit. You have to come to an agreement that you both can have your hobby w/o each other nagging the other. Maybe set aside a monetary allowance for each for their own hobby for each pay period. Keep the money safe and if you don't need it, save it for the vet bill, that way you wont have to ask for it when that rolls around. The farrier appt only happens every 6 - 8wks so that would also be covered.
Good luck, sounds like there might be other issues also. I hate to sound too harsh, but I think maybe a Marriage Counselor might help with this. As mentioned before..I think there is an underlying issue here. My saying is..."The only SH!T I get from my animals is BROWN". My Husband knew before we were married, that I am an Animal lover. For better, or worse! Ya know?? Good luck!

Thanks guys, and yeah we have issues. The horse thing though is something he new about and told me he thought I would "Grow out of it". Not so much. Counsler would be a good idea. We will see!

Thanks guys, and yeah we have issues. The horse thing though is something he new about and told me he thought I would "Grow out of it". Not so much. Counsler would be a good idea. We will see!

Hey prep...I'm 48 when will I grow out of this?? :ohwell:

Thanks guys, and yeah we have issues. The horse thing though is something he new about and told me he thought I would "Grow out of it". Not so much. Counsler would be a good idea. We will see!

My first horse was an issue but it was so long ago...
He got upset because of the time I spent at the ranch training or being hi-jacked to help bring a herd in. Then he was flying a lot and our schedules were in conflict most of the time.. We got through it but it took a long time and almost killed our marriage completely..

We talked about counseling but didn't which is probably why it took us so long to get through it. We were and still are really lousy at communicating! But you know even after all we went through, I would do it all over again!
I love my husband and my horses....

I hope you can come back and say the same thing a few years from now...
Good luck to you!

June

This may sound really bad.....but here it goes....Hubby knew you had horses. If he expected YOU to change he is WRONG. He can either get over it and understand that you have always and will always have and/or love horses, or can get gone.

My husband knew from the moment he met me that horses are part of my soul. We had a few moments in the beginning of "you need to get rid of them" "they cost to much money" "they take to much of your time". I left. He found out real quick that horses are #1 in my life. My horses and my students come first. Point Blank! And now that I have a daughter, its my daughter, horses and my students. I love my husband, but I refuse to change who I am to make him feel better about himself. End of discussion.

My husband finally caved and said "your right honey". He occassionally throws small temper tantrums, but he gets over it. I told him a long time ago that if he didnt want to do the horse thing with me he should find his own hobby. He chose Nascar.

Counseling may be an option for you both. But I think you just need to look at him and say point blank "You knew this about me when you met me. If your intent was to change me, your being selfish and quite frankly stupid. Get over yourself. You have your hobby, let me have mine. If you dont like it, there's the door!"

I know, I know. Easier said then done. But in the end, if you dont stand up for yourself, who will???

Horse are a part of my soul to and I will never be happy without them in my life. I have been there and was depressed. He will have to except it. Things are very rocky with us anyways, this is just yet another reason for us to end it. Horses are the only thing that keeps me sane! Take that away and I have nothing.

He always complains about me going to the farm. I may trail ride once a week and he gets mad about that.



Do you spend more time with the Horse than you do with your husband .... or are Horses an excuse to spend more time out of the home away from him ....

I knew 6 months before a friend of mine announced she was splitting up with her husband of 16 yrs .... it was very obvious, she spent every waking moment away from the house ...... sure 2 teen age boys in sports - Football and Ice Hockey - ... daughters involved in after school activities .... when she wasn't running a child somewhere, she played hockey herself, had evening work outs, drum lessons business trips for the job .... never was it mentioned her and the hubby were going somewhere ........ they were always passing each other never together


Which came first...hubby or horsies? If he married you knowing that you were a horsenut .... then blow him more. :shrug:

No he usually isn't home anyways or when I want to go trail riding for a couple hours on the weekend he gets mad, but if I am home he lays around anyways. He never wants to do anything with me and the kids so I started doing my own thing. When I work off board it's during the week before work so it doesn't affect him.

No he usually isn't home anyways or when I want to go trail riding for a couple hours on the weekend he gets mad, but if I am home he lays around anyways. He never wants to do anything with me and the kids so I started doing my own thing. When I work off board it's during the week before work so it doesn't affect him.



well that is just ignorant ......... he is a dumbass

My husband has told me repeatedly that he knew I was "the one" because I was the first girl who didn't demand he give up his '78 Trans AM that he's had since he was a teen-ager. To tell the truth, it never crossed my mind because it was his and I knew how he felt about it and often joke that he'd get rid of me and the kids before that car. They were a package deal and your husband should have seen you and the horses as one too and made up his mind whether or not he'd continue on in the relationship long before getting married. Good luck though as it seems that the horses are just an excuse for what's really wrong in the relationship.

What do you do when your husband hates horses???

Get a divorce. The child support he'll have to pay will cover your board for the horse :lmao:

HAHA!!! That is funny! Never thought of that!

HAHA!!! That is funny! Never thought of that!

You are welcome. Save a cowboy, ride a horse.

Need numbers for a divorce attorney?

You are welcome. Save a cowboy, ride a horse.

Need numbers for a divorce attorney?

Sure pm me!!!

Well I am going through a separation but it has nothing to do with the horses.

I told him when we got married that when I no longer travel anymore and can afford it. I will get horses again, and if he didn't like it, there was going to be no marriage.

I also pay for my horse and all his expenses myself. I have a job that gives me the financial ability to afford the horse. He never paid for anything horse related. No vet bills, no farrier bills, nothing.

Sure pm me!!!

Sue Ann Armitage

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Lexington Park, MD 20653-5510
(301) 862-2430

So sorry to hear about this situation... That's absolutely ridiculous.

My boyfriend and I have a mutual understanding. On our first date (well, the ones I planned), I covered that my horse would always be in my life and I'd always have horses.

On the second, I took him to meet/ride my horse.

On the third, we went to Piscataway Stables.

Now, for this next one.. I'm thinking that he should experience horse shows. ;)

And if he still wants me after that, I think he'll be a keeper. :P

Which came first...hubby or horsies? If he married you knowing that you were a horsenut then ignore him. If he married you before you became one...then blow him more. :shrug:

:shocking::faint:

Both money and time, but I work off board (feed in the am mon-fri but doesn't affect or take time from him) so I only pay for farrier, occasionally a vet bill. He always complains about me going to the farm. I may trail ride once a week and he gets mad about that. Oh and he met me when I was teaching lessons and a barn manager. I owned a horse then and of course he talked me into selling when I was pregnant with my first daughter. So no surprises on the horses!

Well then he has no right to complain at this point then. My animals come before anything else because they can't feed themselves, but men can.

:shocking::faint:



you have a problem with that .......... :elaine:

you have a problem with that .......... :elaine:

Well let's see, maybe if he had his own hobbies, he wouldn't have as much TIME to spend controlling what she does in her spare time. He probably sleeps with her every night, so that also is quality time, despite the snoring LOL

I spent many years doing for others FIRST, and in time the people around me EXPECTED me to make THEM FIRST. I like being helpful and supportive, but when I am not allowed to have a life separate from him, then that's a problem.

I want to ride my HORSE - I'm not out trolling the bars looking for new "experiences" ..... so get over it dear. :elaine:

I like being helpful and supportive, but when I am not allowed to have a life separate from him, then that's a problem.





I was referring to the blow him more part ......... :razz:

I was referring to the blow him more part ......... :razz:

:lol:


Hey OP...attach a TV to your horse's ass (the actual horsie, not your hubby) and turn on racing. Tell him to ride behind you. Problem solved. :yay:

:lol:


Hey OP...attach a TV to your horse's ass (the actual horsie, not your hubby) and turn on racing. Tell him to ride behind you. Problem solved. :yay:

:lmao:

:yay::yay:This may sound really bad.....but here it goes....Hubby knew you had horses. If he expected YOU to change he is WRONG. He can either get over it and understand that you have always and will always have and/or love horses, or can get gone.

My husband knew from the moment he met me that horses are part of my soul. We had a few moments in the beginning of "you need to get rid of them" "they cost to much money" "they take to much of your time". I left. He found out real quick that horses are #1 in my life. My horses and my students come first. Point Blank! And now that I have a daughter, its my daughter, horses and my students. I love my husband, but I refuse to change who I am to make him feel better about himself. End of discussion.

My husband finally caved and said "your right honey". He occassionally throws small temper tantrums, but he gets over it. I told him a long time ago that if he didnt want to do the horse thing with me he should find his own hobby. He chose Nascar.

Counseling may be an option for you both. But I think you just need to look at him and say point blank "You knew this about me when you met me. If your intent was to change me, your being selfish and quite frankly stupid. Get over yourself. You have your hobby, let me have mine. If you dont like it, there's the door!"

I know, I know. Easier said then done. But in the end, if you dont stand up for yourself, who will???

I was referring to the blow him more part ......... :razz:

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what is the last thing a woman swallows ......



why does a bride smile some much on her wedding day, going up the isle ......


























the wedding cake


she has given her last BJ










:lalala:

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what is the last thing a woman swallows ......



why does a bride smile some much on her wedding day, going up the isle ......

the wedding cake


she has given her last BJ


:lalala:

It's not the wedding that stops the extra fun ..... it usually is the settling of time in which he does less for her and she reciprocates by doing less for him?

OR she has been doing more for him than he does for her and she realizes he's never going to do more?

Although lets be honest - when men cheat, it's usually to get that which is lacking in their current partner. Sometimes all they are lacking is variety. AND if that's the case, why did they get married/settle down?

Don't get me started LOL

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what is the last thing a woman swallows ......



why does a bride smile some much on her wedding day, going up the isle ......
























the wedding cake


she has given her last BJ










:lalala:


Your woman sucked. Or well...didn't suck. But anyways...you had a horrible woman if you're referring to an ex.




Momma always said that it wasn't very ladylike to spit. :dance:

Your woman sucked. Or well...didn't suck. But anyways...you had a horrible woman if you're referring to an ex.

:doh:


Momma always said that it wasn't very ladylike to spit. :dance:


:lmao:

No he usually isn't home anyways or when I want to go trail riding for a couple hours on the weekend he gets mad, but if I am home he lays around anyways. He never wants to do anything with me and the kids so I started doing my own thing. When I work off board it's during the week before work so it doesn't affect him.

Breezy, I'm sorry. He sounds like a piece of work.

So sorry to hear about this situation... That's absolutely ridiculous.

My boyfriend and I have a mutual understanding. On our first date (well, the ones I planned), I covered that my horse would always be in my life and I'd always have horses.

On the second, I took him to meet/ride my horse.

On the third, we went to Piscataway Stables.

Now, for this next one.. I'm thinking that he should experience horse shows. ;)

And if he still wants me after that, I think he'll be a keeper. :P

You're my hero! And don't skip the horse show part, I think that's what sent the last one packing in my case :whistle:

Public Service Announcement: If a woman has made it through her teens without trading horses for boys, then don't expect her to 'outgrow' them. Ever.

Breezy, I'm sorry. He sounds like a piece of work.



You're my hero! And don't skip the horse show part, I think that's what sent the last one packing in my case :whistle:

Public Service Announcement: If a woman has made it through her teens without trading horses for boys, then don't expect her to 'outgrow' them. Ever.

Thanks duckz! Yeah he is something else, and I agree that he cant change something that I have done my whole life. Especially since it's my passion :)

Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone else argues over there horsies with thier husband/wife? SO frustrating and I will never give it up!!!

My EX used to tell me I loved my horse more than him; we were married for 12 years, and my horse lived to 30. I used to tell the ex, "the s--- I get from the horse can be recycled to use on the flowers, but the s--- I get from you I can't use. Guess who stayed and who was gone? My current SO used to ride (he's the one who wanted to "raise horses and dogs" and we moved down here). After his favorite horse died of old age, and his knees went out, he no longer wanted anything to do with horses. I went without a horse for 3 years and couldn't stand it any longer. I now have another horse, but I'm totally responsible for it, no matter how sick or hurting I am. So be it, I'm happier now than ever.

What I'm trying to say is: If you try to make someone else happy at your own expense, you will only wind up resenting the other person and being totally unhappy with yourself. They don't understand this, but you have to do what's best in the long run. They will either come around or be gone, and you won't have to "make a decision." Good Luck.