Ken King
12-20-2004, 06:31 PM
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I’ll start off by wishing a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to everyone on SOMD. May you each experience a wonderful holiday season and I wish all of you nothing but the best for the future. In case none of you have caught on I love this time of year, especially since it’s finally cooled down and beginning to feel like the time of year that it is. It isn’t because of the holidays or anything like that, I simply like the weather.
But since it is the holiday season I will offer up a lighthearted and hopefully moving offering this time. The topic I will write about is in direct response to comments a couple of the ladies that post here regularly made recently (like today). They are two that I also know and like a lot in real life too.
Well, to the meat of it, one of these lovely ladies made a remark in a post about wanting some of what “Ken’s been having lately” and the other wanted “a double”. Well, I’m not sure if they knew what they meant exactly. But they know something is up with me as we have been communicating on here for years. I guess you could say they know me. Or do they? Let me assure you that I’m still sober (14 years to the day as a matter of fact) and I’m not intentionally being “kinder and gentler” either, but they are right, something has happened. Actually, quite a lot has happened but I’ll only go into the something. You guys can thank Cattitude and Sharon for this.
For the past several months I have had a few house guests. Some of you met one of them, the lady that accompanied the wife and I out to a Halloween party at Jabba’s, and some of you might have kids that know the others, as they are students in the local schools. Just so everyone is clear I will not be using any of their names and will neither offer the names up nor answer any questions about them other then what I place here.
The lady and her two grandsons (7 and 11 year olds) had hit upon some tough times and needed a place to stay. The wife, a long time friend of the lady, got wind of their plight and offered our home as we had several unused rooms anyhow.
This was a lot like my garage that out of nowhere became her shop (we won’t go any farther into that one either). Anyway, I guess she felt that there was no need to discuss it with me because this just happened one day back in September. I would have said yes no matter what if she had asked me (she knows that too), I just think it would have been nice to have been asked. After all it was going to have a great impact on our lives.
Knowing my wife, I don’t think she even thought of that because she has always had the care-taker mentality and she certainly wasn’t going to see them living on the street. It’s how she is, probably how she will always be. But the transitioning from just her and me to a houseful with kids and another woman has been different to say the least. Having already moved three kids through here I was all set for just an occasional visit from the grandbabies, a couple of days tops and poof, they would be gone.
Well, no such luck, now I have to juggle everything around and modify all my behaviors for the sake of these boys. It’s been different for these boys too. After they had been here for a few weeks the oldest told me how much he enjoyed having a bed to sleep in instead of being on a couch.
They haven’t had a stable father type figure in their lives since they were born. I’m their first and let me tell you it’s a lot of work because these boys are lacking a ton of knowledge and experience in how a family works and what family means. But that is how it is going to be around here, family. We don’t have to be related to one another as long as we are living under the same roof we will function as a family. They both are adapting quickly to that concept and they appear to be thriving on it. They also are keeping my wit and humor exercised as only two hardheaded boys can do.
I truly don’t mind, honestly, but this has impacted other aspects of my life as well, like here on the forums. And it is this, I believe, that is what some of you might be experiencing or noticing in my “style” on the forums. At times the boys use my computer or watch me as I peck away at the keyboard, not to mention my general interaction with them. Thus, while they are around I suspect that my style on here, like at home, will just be a tad different.
So there you go, that is what is up with me and not knowing the duration of this arrangement there is no telling how long it will last and I can’t say when I will get back to being my good old self. One day I hope, one day. Thanks for caring enough to notice.
I’ll start off by wishing a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to everyone on SOMD. May you each experience a wonderful holiday season and I wish all of you nothing but the best for the future. In case none of you have caught on I love this time of year, especially since it’s finally cooled down and beginning to feel like the time of year that it is. It isn’t because of the holidays or anything like that, I simply like the weather.
But since it is the holiday season I will offer up a lighthearted and hopefully moving offering this time. The topic I will write about is in direct response to comments a couple of the ladies that post here regularly made recently (like today). They are two that I also know and like a lot in real life too.
Well, to the meat of it, one of these lovely ladies made a remark in a post about wanting some of what “Ken’s been having lately” and the other wanted “a double”. Well, I’m not sure if they knew what they meant exactly. But they know something is up with me as we have been communicating on here for years. I guess you could say they know me. Or do they? Let me assure you that I’m still sober (14 years to the day as a matter of fact) and I’m not intentionally being “kinder and gentler” either, but they are right, something has happened. Actually, quite a lot has happened but I’ll only go into the something. You guys can thank Cattitude and Sharon for this.
For the past several months I have had a few house guests. Some of you met one of them, the lady that accompanied the wife and I out to a Halloween party at Jabba’s, and some of you might have kids that know the others, as they are students in the local schools. Just so everyone is clear I will not be using any of their names and will neither offer the names up nor answer any questions about them other then what I place here.
The lady and her two grandsons (7 and 11 year olds) had hit upon some tough times and needed a place to stay. The wife, a long time friend of the lady, got wind of their plight and offered our home as we had several unused rooms anyhow.
This was a lot like my garage that out of nowhere became her shop (we won’t go any farther into that one either). Anyway, I guess she felt that there was no need to discuss it with me because this just happened one day back in September. I would have said yes no matter what if she had asked me (she knows that too), I just think it would have been nice to have been asked. After all it was going to have a great impact on our lives.
Knowing my wife, I don’t think she even thought of that because she has always had the care-taker mentality and she certainly wasn’t going to see them living on the street. It’s how she is, probably how she will always be. But the transitioning from just her and me to a houseful with kids and another woman has been different to say the least. Having already moved three kids through here I was all set for just an occasional visit from the grandbabies, a couple of days tops and poof, they would be gone.
Well, no such luck, now I have to juggle everything around and modify all my behaviors for the sake of these boys. It’s been different for these boys too. After they had been here for a few weeks the oldest told me how much he enjoyed having a bed to sleep in instead of being on a couch.
They haven’t had a stable father type figure in their lives since they were born. I’m their first and let me tell you it’s a lot of work because these boys are lacking a ton of knowledge and experience in how a family works and what family means. But that is how it is going to be around here, family. We don’t have to be related to one another as long as we are living under the same roof we will function as a family. They both are adapting quickly to that concept and they appear to be thriving on it. They also are keeping my wit and humor exercised as only two hardheaded boys can do.
I truly don’t mind, honestly, but this has impacted other aspects of my life as well, like here on the forums. And it is this, I believe, that is what some of you might be experiencing or noticing in my “style” on the forums. At times the boys use my computer or watch me as I peck away at the keyboard, not to mention my general interaction with them. Thus, while they are around I suspect that my style on here, like at home, will just be a tad different.
So there you go, that is what is up with me and not knowing the duration of this arrangement there is no telling how long it will last and I can’t say when I will get back to being my good old self. One day I hope, one day. Thanks for caring enough to notice.