My stepson lived with us until finally he moved out on his own. However, when he was a teen, he and I use to fight so badly...it was horrible. (no help from his father either) Well, come to find out he called his exwife about me and his son not getting along. Yes this was about 10 years ago but I feel so betrayed and just....don't know.

Let me give the pre-reason. Years ago when we were dating he has spoke to her about a problem he and I were having....(we lived together) I left and when we talked I told him if he ever disrespected like that again I would leave. Well, now that we are married, I find this out and want to leave. I can't even think.....I just keep wondering what else.

I believe this person 100%, no buts about it either. I have not talked to my husband about it and feel like he has betrayed everything. We have been have a few glitches, no communicaiton....and I feel like this is the icing on the cake. I have a 7 year old with him who adores her daddy and do not want to hurt her. Should just stay and get over it? Some advice would be great.

My stepson lived with us until finally he moved out on his own. However, when he was a teen, he and I use to fight so badly...it was horrible. (no help from his father either) Well, come to find out he called his exwife about me and his son not getting along. Yes this was about 10 years ago but I feel so betrayed and just....don't know.

Let me give the pre-reason. Years ago when we were dating he has spoke to her about a problem he and I were having....(we lived together) I left and when we talked I told him if he ever disrespected like that again I would leave. Well, now that we are married, I find this out and want to leave. I can't even think.....I just keep wondering what else.

I believe this person 100%, no buts about it either. I have not talked to my husband about it and feel like he has betrayed everything. We have been have a few glitches, no communicaiton....and I feel like this is the icing on the cake. I have a 7 year old with him who adores her daddy and do not want to hurt her. Should just stay and get over it? Some advice would be great.

It sounds to me like we aren't talking a minor head butting here or there so he had every right to discuss your volatile relationship with his son's mother. It became her business because it directly involved her son. Get over it.

So you want to leave because 10 years ago he called and consulted with his ex about how you and their son did not get along?

Why are you so threatened by his previous lover?

It sounds to me like we aren't talking a minor head butting here or there so he had every right to discuss your volatile relationship with his son's mother. It became her business because it directly involved her son. Get over it.

I :heart: Kwillia. :love:

Yes, you should leave, but leave your daughter with him. She needs someone loving and mentally stable, and that is not you.

He owed it to his Ex to stay in contact about the boy. He did nothing wrong at all.

It sounds to me like we aren't talking a minor head butting here or there so he had every right to discuss your volatile relationship with his son's mother. It became her business because it directly involved her son. Get over it.



No the problem was his teenage son would cuss me out, call me a bit**, f-u, your my mother...blah blah blah, then when his father would come home from work, would lie and say he never said that and that I was going off on him for no reason. Almost left because of it, however, it finally happened when my husband had pulled in the driveway and heard everthing. His son was graduating so husband told him to move out.

No the problem was his teenage son would cuss me out, call me a bit**, f-u, your my mother...blah blah blah, then when his father would come home from work, would lie and say he never said that and that I was going off on him for no reason. Almost left because of it, however, it finally happened when my husband had pulled in the driveway and heard everthing. His son was graduating so husband told him to move out.

This has nothing to do with the issue you raised in your first post. You have an issue with him discussing it with his son's mother. It shouldn't be an issue with you as he had the right to do so without having to clear it with you.

Yes, you should leave, but leave your daughter with him. She needs someone loving and mentally stable, and that is not you.


How many times have you been married?

We are both mentally stable and if anything were to happen with our marriage, she comes first....your an idiot!

How many times have you been married?

We are both mentally stable and if anything were to happen with our marriage, she comes first....your an idiot!

:pete:

This has nothing to do with the issue you raised in your first post. You have an issue with him discussing it with his son's mother. It shouldn't be an issue with you as he had the right to do so without having to clear it with you.

EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.

My stepson lived with us until finally he moved out on his own. However, when he was a teen, he and I use to fight so badly...it was horrible. (no help from his father either) Well, come to find out he called his exwife about me and his son not getting along. Yes this was about 10 years ago but I feel so betrayed and just....don't know.

Let me give the pre-reason. Years ago when we were dating he has spoke to her about a problem he and I were having....(we lived together) I left and when we talked I told him if he ever disrespected like that again I would leave. Well, now that we are married, I find this out and want to leave. I can't even think.....I just keep wondering what else.

I believe this person 100%, no buts about it either. I have not talked to my husband about it and feel like he has betrayed everything. We have been have a few glitches, no communicaiton....and I feel like this is the icing on the cake. I have a 7 year old with him who adores her daddy and do not want to hurt her. Should just stay and get over it? Some advice would be great.

so are you mader that he talked to her, or that he told her you are a B? :lmao:

How many times have you been married?

We are both mentally stable and if anything were to happen with our marriage, she comes first....your an idiot!

Honestly, it is not mentally stable to be upset that Dad talked to the mother of his child.

It shouldn't be an issue with you as he had the right to do so without having to clear it with you.

I disagree with that. If there was a problem, all three adults should have sat down and discussed it. Stylin should have the opportunity to present her side and suggest solutions to the problem, not just have her husband and his ex ganging up on her.

However, Stylin, you need to talk to your husband and get the whole story, not just believe things you "hear". Communication works two ways.

EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.

Are you upset that he talked the boy's mother about you two not getting along? I just want to make sure this is the issue.

I disagree with that. If there was a problem, all three adults should have sat down and discussed it. Stylin should have the opportunity to present her side and suggest solutions to the problem, not just have her husband and his ex ganging up on her.

However, Stylin, you need to talk to your husband and get the whole story, not just believe things you "hear". Communication works two ways.

I'm betting that Dad did not consider the situation serious enough for all of that drama.

How many times have you been married?

We are both mentally stable and if anything were to happen with our marriage, she comes first....your an idiot!


Are you implying that my opinion is not valid if I haven't been married multiple times?

Guess what: multiple divorces are not the sign of somebody who is mentally stable.

To answer your question, I have been married once, and plan to remain married to the same person until one of us dies. Why would you bother getting married if that isn't your goal?

I'm betting that Dad did not consider the situation serious enough for all of that drama.

It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.

I'm betting that Dad did not consider the situation serious enough for all of that drama.

He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

My opinion, you have more serious underlying issues with your husband and you are using a 10 year old discussion as an excuse to bail out now.

Are you upset that he talked the boy's mother about you two not getting along? I just want to make sure this is the issue.

Yeah thats the part im gathering. He doesnt have a right to her his EX on whats going on in their relationship, sounds like he has a communication problem with stylin and not talking to her about it.

It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.

well considering its their child, he has every right and responsibility to discuss things like this with her. If it was your kid you would want your ex to inform you if he was calling step mom names and generaly acting disrespectful. This lady is just getting her panties in a wad because dad talks to mom and she is jealous.

It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.


That is exactly how i feel. His ex up and left his child with us. why discuss anything with her. I just found out about all this, this past weekend. Still a little fresh. It is just shocking to me.

Thanks VRAI

He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

gee, do you think your attitude is part of the probelm?

He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

If I were you, I would question why he was walking on egg shells. Vrai has a nice solution for a stable situation but in reading your posts I get the feeling things have been tenuous for quite some time.

EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.

I said he DIDN'T have to clear it with you first since the emotional dramas in his son's life were his mother's business too.

Age has nothing to do with common sense, BTW I've been married 17 years and will be 41 this year.

well considering its their child, he has every right and responsibility to discuss things like this with her. If it was your kid you would want your ex to inform you if he was calling step mom names and generaly acting disrespectful. This lady is just getting her panties in a wad because dad talks to mom and she is jealous.


NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.

It was 10 years ago.

He has never after that even contacted her.

Then let it go. He made a mistake 10 years ago, one that hasn't been repeated. So why are you still upset and what do you want him to do about it?

So you want to leave because 10 years ago he called and consulted with his ex about how you and their son did not get along?

:pete: Clearly no grudges are held in that relationship. Wow.

NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

Difficult teenagers are a dime a dozen... Sounds like you engaged the kid and that wasn't smart.

NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

you dont know what he told her, but if thats what he said i am willing to bet its true. (judging from your posts)

Then let it go. He made a mistake 10 years ago, one that hasn't been repeated. So why are you still upset and what do you want him to do about it?

I don't know. I guess because I feel betrayed? I just found out about it. I know I should talk to him about it but whats the sense, what is done is done. Yes there have been problems lately, like I said in my first post...icing on the cake I guess.

I do not have an attitude about it. People are misreading my posts...I am very upset not angry...if that makes sense

NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:

I'd divorce if she posted my business on the internet.

THis book will definitely help...

It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:

:yeahthat: It was 10 years ago. I'm sure he's done a lot worse things since then :whistle:

It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:

Great Post! Read that one twice sugar pants!

THis book will definitely help...
I can hear him saying that....:killingme:lmao:

I don't know. I guess because I feel betrayed?

I can understand that - I would feel the same way if I were in your shoes. BUT, as you said, what's done is done. If it was a one-time thing, I think you should chalk it up to temporary insanity and let it go.

Again, what can he do to make right an error from 10 years ago that hasn't been repeated?

No.

I can hear him saying that....:killingme:lmao:

Yeah with the mini pausing he does.

I disagree with that. If there was a problem, all three adults should have sat down and discussed it. Stylin should have the opportunity to present her side and suggest solutions to the problem, not just have her husband and his ex ganging up on her.

However, Stylin, you need to talk to your husband and get the whole story, not just believe things you "hear". Communication works two ways.

I agree with you!:high5:

I think you should really think about your daughter. Do you really want to ruin her with a divorce? I don't care what people think, divorce damages children. I think you and your husband should sit down and discuss this. You need to let him know how you feel and then let it go. Communication is the key to any relationship. If that doesn't work maybe you need some professional counseling. I think there is a counseling center in LP that is either free or very little money. Please work things out for your daughters sake. FYI I have been married almost 14 years and have four children.

I think you should really think about your daughter. Do you really want to ruin her with a divorce? I don't care what people think, divorce damages children...... FYI I have been married almost 14 years and have four children.

So, you've never been divorced? How is your statement credible?

EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.

I think he should leave you because you are airing your dirty laundry to strangers without going to him first.

Get to packing.

You are a dumb #####. Go and get a hamster and learn how to be social and not a mentaly unstable whining little kid.

You are a dumb #####. Go and get a hamster and learn how to be social and not a mentaly unstable whining little kid.

:smack:

I got a hamster.......:blushing:

:smack:

I got a hamster.......:blushing:


So does my daughter!

You are a dumb #####. Go and get a hamster and learn how to be social and not a mentaly unstable whining little kid.

:lmao:

I think he should leave you because you are airing your dirty laundry to strangers without going to him first.

Get to packing.

:roflmao:

So, you've never been divorced? How is your statement credible?

Have you ever read any of the studies they have done on children and divorce? I don't have to have been divorced to know that it harms children. Look at society, talk to people who's parents got divorce. I bet you a majority will say it has had a negative impact on their lives.

You are a dumb #####. Go and get a hamsterGet to packing. I got a hamster.......:blushing:So does my daughter!:yikes::Richard Gere::yikes:

:jerry:

Have you ever read any of the studies they have done on children and divorce? I don't have to have been divorced to know that it harms children. Look at society, talk to people who's parents got divorce. I bet you a majority will say it has had a negative impact on their lives.

Divorce can actually be beneficial to children in cases of abuse or substance dependency.

I have 3 children (grown) from my first marriage and am now married to a man who has custody of his 2 children. He talks to his ex-wife about their children and so do I. Vrai's suggestion was an excellent one - we have actually sat down in a restaurant and talked about a problem that needed to be resolved. I realize you couldn't do that because the woman was in another state. The main thing now is to talk to your husband. The son is gone so that issue is over. There are other issues involved as you have said - this was the "icing on the cake". Now you have to decide if you are better off with or without him. Good luck - just make sure you don't decide in haste and repent at leisure.

I have 3 children (grown) from my first marriage and am now married to a man who has custody of his 2 children. He talks to his ex-wife about their children and so do I. Vrai's suggestion was an excellent one - we have actually sat down in a restaurant and talked about a problem that needed to be resolved. I realize you couldn't do that because the woman was in another state. The main thing now is to talk to your husband. The son is gone so that issue is over. There are other issues involved as you have said - this was the "icing on the cake". Now you have to decide if you are better off with or without him. Good luck - just make sure you don't decide in haste and repent at leisure.


thanks, between you and Vria, it was an easy decision. My husband is a wonderful man and I am sure we can work this out. I just thought that maybe someone on these boards, who really can't judge a stranger would give some good advice....I see I was wrong. Sometimes it is hard to speak to friends without them lashing out and being unbiased, I see that goes for strangers on this board...(funny too, I know some of you and you don't even realize it - don't judge me especially with some of yalls situations). thanks again.

I don't know. I guess because I feel betrayed? I just found out about it. I know I should talk to him about it but whats the sense, what is done is done. Yes there have been problems lately, like I said in my first post...icing on the cake I guess.

I do not have an attitude about it. People are misreading my posts...I am very upset not angry...if that makes sense

I can understand being a little upset, but as you say what's done is done. You should talk to him about it, it's probably unfair not to let him in on what's bothering you and besides, unless you talk about it you can't resolve it and remember there is always two sides to every story. I must say too me, it sounds like there are other problems and it wouldn't hurt to talk to someone who could help. JMO

My husband is a wonderful man and I am sure we can work this out.

Atta girl :yay:

Atta girl :yay:

:yeahthat:

I'm a little late on this one but it just sounds like he made one little "mistake" (which I wouldn't consider a real mistake...but in your mind it was so thats what we're going by) and he realized later on he should talk to you about stuff and that is why you are together today. :yay:

Contrary to popular belief: People change. Lets take an example. Cheating. Would I ever expect a SO to forgive for/respect me after cheating? Hell no. That would be a major eff up on my part. Would I expect some lack of trust from a new SO if I cheated on someone in my past? Sure. But I would also expect them to get over it and move on after I prove myself to be trustworthy. The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" most definitely doesn't apply to all cases. The same goes for your situation. He did something much less detrimental than cheating and he realized later it probably crossed your threshold of trust and thus he never did it again...even ten years into a relationship he is feeling out some things that were never encountered and how you feel about his actions. He was in the wrong, changed, and moved on. I hope you can too :yay:

Have you ever read any of the studies they have done on children and divorce? I don't have to have been divorced to know that it harms children. Look at society, talk to people who's parents got divorce. I bet you a majority will say it has had a negative impact on their lives.

:killingme "read any of the studies" :killingme

Let me give you another "study" to read....My mutts have no "negative impact" as a result to me and my ex getting divorced....for that matter they are better now than they were when he and I were together....they don't have the "negative impact" of me and my ex's somewhat strained relationship

It is all in how the kids are treated while going threw the whole divorce process

:killingme "read any of the studies" :killingme

Let me give you another "study" to read....My mutts have no "negative impact" as a result to me and my ex getting divorced....for that matter they are better now than they were when he and I were together....they don't have the "negative impact" of me and my ex's somewhat strained relationship

It is all in how the kids are treated while going threw the whole divorce process

situations differ :shrug:

I would say that a majority of kids dealing with parental divorces probably DO experience negative impacts...if nothing else...there is extra stress. :shrug:

Divorce can actually be beneficial to children in cases of abuse or substance dependency.

I am talking about parents who just decide that they don't want to work at the marrriage and just give up. I'm talking about the selfish ones that only think of themselves. And believe me just because you have kids does not mean you become an unselfish person.

Of course a child should be taken out of a situation that has abuse. Just because I think divorce hurts children doesn't mean I am stupid. I just think parents should think twice about what how the divorce will affect their children. Most children will probably want their parents to work at the marriage and try to work things out so they can stay together as a family. And by the way, I am not juding people who have gotten divorced. I realize we live in an imperfect world with imperfect people. Including myself

My Gosh....I was just looking for a little advice.

What I think most of you mistook was, yes it happened 10 years ago, I just found out this morning.......Gosh...

Yes I have discussed it with him, of course....his memory fails him, to save an arguement. I told him how I felt that I feel betrayed and hurt, not angry and that he sould have come to me.

You guys are something...

My Gosh....I was just looking for a little advice.

What I think most of you mistook was, yes it happened 10 years ago, I just found out this morning.......Gosh...

Yes I have discussed it with him, of course....his memory fails him, to save an arguement. I told him how I felt that I feel betrayed and hurt, not angry and that he sould have come to me.

You guys are something...

I can't remember much from 10 years ago :shrug:
Maybe it really WASN'T that big of a thing to him? But you would think that his last conversation (as I take it) with his ex would be somewhat memorable :shrug:

My Gosh....I was just looking for a little advice.

What I think most of you mistook was, yes it happened 10 years ago, I just found out this morning.......Gosh...

Yes I have discussed it with him, of course....his memory fails him, to save an arguement. I told him how I felt that I feel betrayed and hurt, not angry and that he sould have come to me.

You guys are something...

I'm confused as to why you seem upset you received several different takes on what you posted... I thought the purpose of your thread was to get feeback based on opinions....:confused:

You asked for opinions and you got them....some were harsh but hey you asked and you should know some people just lack tact.

Onto your questions, I personally think you are being a little over dramatic about this. I don't feel that your hubby should be discussing your relationship with his ex that is a huge no no, however he can and should talk to his ex about their child's issues. You need to live learn and accept that good bad or otherwise.

If he is having issues with you then he should be talking to YOU about them because frankly that is the ONLY way they will get resolved. And you need to do the same, posting on here to get advice while good isn't the cure all and if anyone got divorced over what some people on an internet forum said I'd kind of have to laugh. Sit your hubby down tell him your frustrations and work it out, it sounds like you two have a good relationship just are going through trials and tribulations lately which happens in ANY relationship.

I know I should talk to him about it but whats the sense, what is done is done.

WOOT WOOT WOOT ... Alert ... radar indicates a communication problem.

Divorcing over something he did 10 years ago may not be called for, but that doesn't mean that -- once you're over your initial feelings of anger/betrayal/et al -- that you don't sit him down and let him know that you found out about it, that you realize he hasn't done it again since, but that you feel x,y,z about it, and just want to make clear that going forward, you'd prefer he first discuss issues directly with you vs. someone else, at least giving you a chance to explain your position/actions before running to someone else about them. Now granted, sometimes, people need to vent to their guy/girl-friends about small issues, but even those small ones can build up into larger ones if you don't address the problem with the person pissing you off from the get-go.

If you keep brushing "what's done is done" under the carpet without talking about it, they'll build up and having you wanting to debut your life on Divorce Court every time the crap hits the fan. Stop ignoring problems and deal with/discuss them. :yay:

It is all in how the kids are treated while going threw the whole divorce process

:yeahthat: And how much like adults the two people divorcing can act throughout the process. Typically, the kids who end up going postal and blaming it on their parents divorcing are the ones who have parents who continued the arguing/fighting/hatred/grudge-holding looooooong after the ink was dry on the papers.

DQ is a socially well-adjusted, happy, healthy child with two loving homes with both her parents. Yes, I think her dad is a ####head on occasion, but I don't let her hear me say/talk about that. We all (me, fiance, ex and ex's wife) get along well, and DQ adores my fiance and vice versa ... everyone is living a happy life.

What's better -- having a child happy and seeing his/her parents happy and in healthy relationships, or having him/her see the parents still married, fighting and at each other's throats for "the kids' sake", and seeing that as an example of what marriage is supposed to be and harboring that guilt later in life when they realized they stayed that way all for the kid? :shrug:

thanks, between you and Vria, it was an easy decision. My husband is a wonderful man and I am sure we can work this out. I just thought that maybe someone on these boards, who really can't judge a stranger would give some good advice....I see I was wrong. Sometimes it is hard to speak to friends without them lashing out and being unbiased, I see that goes for strangers on this board...(funny too, I know some of you and you don't even realize it - don't judge me especially with some of yalls situations). thanks again.

My two cents here. Your husband had a blatently disrespectful little boy who grew to be a disrespectful young man. Imagine that? No offense here but as a parent myself anything that goes on between the ages of 4- close to 25 is all self serving BS as far as kids go. Your husband kept you out of the loop beacause the issue was about YOU. He didn't want to make it worse so he bounced the situation off of bebe mama. Just be glad he's grown and gone and keep one thing in mind. You may have clothed him, fed him and wiped his brow when he was ill but when it comes down to it there may have been years between dad & the mom's break up but that child who is I myself would not fret over crap of ten years ago. Don't scrape the crust off the cowpie because in this case it has surely dried up. I hope it all works out for you though.

My two cents here.

This thread deserves a "POOF."

whoever sent me the karma calling me a "stupid ho" I hope you feel real proud of yourself. A very intelligent response.

He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

You've already survived the hardest part and remained married. Boy is gone and your daughter is the most important issue, just you and he now to discuss her:howdy:. Get over it, not worth being pissed off now. I have a major blended family, it's not easy but hey,,, our two now at home are ours...enjoy the somewhat peace!!!

When I saw these posts, I saw 73 damn good reasons to never get married. :yahoo:

When I saw these posts, I saw 73 damn good reasons to never get married. :yahoo:

Doubt you will have to worry about it.




















I couldn't help myself :roflmao:

Doubt you will have to worry about it.
You never know.

I've had excruciating luck with dating anyways :lol:, no way any relationship I'm in will ever go to "Will you marry me?" :roflmao:

You never know.

I've had excruciating luck with dating anyways :lol:, no way any relationship I'm in will ever go to "Will you marry me?" :roflmao:

I believe you. I figure most of your relationships will go "That will be $35 baby .....up front."

I believe you. I figure most of your relationships will go "That will be $35 baby .....up front."

:roflmao:
Don't pick on Andy, its too easy :lol: (he honestly made this one way too ez :lmao:)

:roflmao:
Don't pick on Andy, its too easy :lol: (he honestly made this one way too ez :lmao:)

And I am supposed to put the bat on my shoulder and let a nice fat softball like that pass?

And I am supposed to put the bat on my shoulder and let a nice fat softball like that pass?

Good point. He asked for that one :lmao:

At least you knocked it out of the park :shrug:

My Gosh....I was just looking for a little advice.

What I think most of you mistook was, yes it happened 10 years ago, I just found out this morning.......Gosh...

Yes I have discussed it with him, of course....his memory fails him, to save an arguement. I told him how I felt that I feel betrayed and hurt, not angry and that he sould have come to me.

You guys are something...

It was 10 years ago, I am sure that it upset you since you just found out.... but I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. You have to learn to pick the fight worth fighting over..... otherwise just let it go.

If you husband goes to work, treats you and the kids good, isn't a drunk or a drug addict, a cheat or liar then count your lucky stars and count your blessings and move on......