doesn't mean you have to leave the spouse.

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:jet: Wow, that would totally suck! I think there are a lot of people holding off on getting divorced because they can't afford to get divorced. But to get divorced and still live together? :yikes:

My grandparents did that.

:jet: Wow, that would totally suck! I think there are a lot of people holding off on getting divorced because they can't afford to get divorced. But to get divorced and still live together? :yikes:

What's the difference? It's still two people who don't particularly like each other living together.

I think it makes good sense, why let your finances go in the crapper over the end of a relationship? :shrug:

My ex and I couldn't even live together while we were married much less once we were divorced! I do know of people who get along great now that they are divorced and that's got to be a whole lot easier!

My ex and I couldn't even live together while we were married much less once we were divorced!

I don't think they're doing it because it's fun. :lol: Sometimes ya just gotta suck it up and do what is practical, which is what I think the point of the piece was.

I don't think they're doing it because it's fun. :lol: Sometimes ya just gotta suck it up and do what is practical, which is what I think the point of the piece was.

My grandparents did it because she knew he couldn't survive without her. They got divorced in 76 and lived together, in seperate beds til his death in 98.

My grandparents did it because she knew he couldn't survive without her. They got divorced in 76 and lived together, in seperate beds til his death in 98.

Well that was awfully nice of her.

Well that was awfully nice of her.

Sometimes you do what you gotta do, as much as it may suck...:lol:

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

She seems like a nice lady, aps.........:huggy:

Sometimes you do what you gotta do, as much as it may suck...:lol:

Don't I know it! :lol:

What's the difference? It's still two people who don't particularly like each other living together.

I think it makes good sense, why let your finances go in the crapper over the end of a relationship? :shrug:

I guess that really depends on how much a couple hates one another. I can see where it makes sense financially but when I think of being "stuck" with my Ex in a house, I think I'd strangle either myself or him. :lol:

I guess that I don't see a point in getting a divorce if I still have to live with the guy. But to each his own, whatever works for them.

I guess that really depends on how much a couple hates one another. I can see where it makes sense financially but when I think of being "stuck" with my Ex in a house, I think I'd strangle either myself or him. :lol:

I guess that I don't see a point in getting a divorce if I still have to live with the guy. But to each his own, whatever works for them.

But you have to ask yourself, if you were in their situation where they couldn't sell the house because of the decline in home values, would you just walk away and let the house go into foreclosure and wreck your credit, or would you suck it up and try not to murder each other for the greater good in the end? :coffee:

I guess that really depends on how much a couple hates one another. I can see where it makes sense financially but when I think of being "stuck" with my Ex in a house, I think I'd strangle either myself or him. :lol:


There is no way I'd have been able to do that. Somebody would have eventually ended up stabbed or shot.

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

I think I know her...

But you have to ask yourself, if you were in their situation where they couldn't sell the house because of the decline in home values, would you just walk away and let the house go into foreclosure and wreck your credit, or would you suck it up and try not to murder each other for the greater good in the end? :coffee:

This may work for some people, but not for me. It really depends on the reason for the relationship failing, I guess. Why bother to get a divorce when they still plan to live together? It's confusing for their kids & could certainly cause issues in new relationships or stop them from moving on to a healthy new relationship. Money/credit aren't everything, although I'm thankful my credit score is really good or hubby & I wouldn't have this house.

My ex-fiance has anger mgmt/control issues, which is why I ended our relationship & called off the wedding. There's no way in hell I would have lived with him after leaving, whether we owned a home together or not. Luckily, I didn't marry him & we hadn't purchased a home yet as planned. So that made it a lot easier for me. As it was, I dealt with 2 yrs of stalking & threats after I left him even after I had moved out of state. Live with him? No way!

My hubby's Ex is a psycho. During the last few months before he left her & filed for divorce, he slept in the guest room with a dresser in front of the door because he was worried that she'd kill him in his sleep. She then tried to run him over with her truck in their front yard. No amount of money or saving his credit was worth living with her. His credit did suffer for a while because of the divorce but he's still alive & now has a much happier life.

She seems like a nice lady, aps.........:huggy:

Very limber too :yay:

Don't I know it! :lol:

I hope that if you find yourself in a similar situation that you're able to get along with the Ex. That just wouldn't have been possible in my past relationship. Too much resentment & too many emotional issues there. :banghead: :smile:

Very limber too :yay:

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:huggy:

I'm in a similar situation now. we bought peak market, things declined, we declined...the kids got to see us grow apart. He got to go to anger management.

It's easy to say what I think I'd do, but right now, from where I sit, I know I need to model peace for my kids, and help them to deal with the uncertainty of our future. I'm trying to give them some coping skills, keep the peace, and show them that two people can end a relationship, or change it, and we chose to change it. At least, for all my suffering and the craziness of going through this, I know my kids are seeing us behave in a healthy manner, with respect, courtesy and cooperation.

I'm pretty sure there are more than five stages of grief, though.

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

Just remember the "Testicles can't touch" rule..

Like someone already said, what's the point of divorcing if you're still going to live together? Sucking it up for whatever reason is all well and good, people do it all the time, but why bother divorcing?

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

Isn't that called a "basement"?

Very limber too :yay:

Is it a PITA getting her in and out of the chair?





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Like someone already said, what's the point of divorcing if you're still going to live together? Sucking it up for whatever reason is all well and good, people do it all the time, but why bother divorcing?

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together? :wink:

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together? :wink:

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

Good point.

In Maryland you have to prove that you have not lived together for a year before the Court will grant your divorce.

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together?

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements. :lol:

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements. :lol:


it should be law. haha

I'm sure everyone's circumstances are different.

For me, this is going to take time. We can't legally divorce until we separate for a year, and the cost would seriously diminish our standard of living and our children's standard of living.

Just remember the "Testicles can't touch" rule..

:killingme That made me laugh out loud.

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements. :lol:

:high5: It sure keeps the domestic violence calls to the police to a minimum.

Good point.

In Maryland you have to prove that you have not lived together for a year before the Court will grant your divorce.
Only if there are minor children involved. Even if there are minor children involved and adultery is proven, you can get an immediate divorce.

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together? :wink:

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

Only if there are minor children involved. Even if there are minor children involved and adultery is proven, you can get an immediate divorce.

You are right about the adultery, but not about the other circumstances divorces. It its still "separated for 1 year". At least in 1995 it was.

I think this is alot more common then people think. My husbands mother and step father were married for only 8 years and got divorced but lived together for the rest of his life. He passed away at there home. They made it work out and it was odd seeing how they got along pretty well. My good friend from school her parents did the same thing. They were divorced and still lived together. After many, many years she FINALLY moved out. I dont think I would know how to handle a situation like that cause I havent been put in it.