Hey,

I'm currently separated from my wife with the intention of getting divorced. We were only together for 5 months.

Before we started dating, I bought a house and it's still only in my name. Same with my bank accounts and vehicles. She has a college degree, but when we separated, she quit her job and moved back in with her parents, so she is currently unemployed. After a year, I plan on filing for an absolute divorce on the grounds of voluntary separation for a year.

Now, she filed for a limited divorce and wants alimony, my house to be sold and half of the money from that, plus my bank accounts and retirement.

After researching Maryland divorce laws, I am still unclear on some things. I have a lawyer, but since she recently filed, there isn't much activity with the case yet.

I was wondering if I have to worry about losing my house, and if I would have to pay her any alimony? I'm thinking that I have nothing to worry about, but it's still a stressful situation and I've never been in this situation before.

Thanks!

. I have a lawyer,

Thanks!

That is who you should be asking

That is who you should be asking

:yeahthat: If she already has a lawyer, you'd better get one now and ask all those questions.

Anything you had BEFORE the marriage is yours. She gets none of the house or your retirement as it was attained before marriage.

Anything you had BEFORE the marriage is yours. She gets none of the house or your retirement as it was attained before marriage.

Even if the house is considered the marital home, since we both lived there before we separated?

Even if the house is considered the marital home, since we both lived there before we separated?
Well this is where your lawyer takes over but my understanding is if it's in your name and was bought before the marriage, it's yours.

Well this is where your lawyer takes over but my understanding is if it's in your name and was bought before the marriage, it's yours.

Well, you almost got it right....If you bought it before the marriage and you didn't put her name on the deed, she has no claim to it

Because you've been married a short amount of time, she isn't intitled to anything and if your lawyer says she is, get a new one

I think I should go into law instead of Accounting :biggrin:

Well, you almost got it right....If you bought it before the marriage and you didn't put her name on the deed, she has no claim to it Excuse me, what did I say?? :tap:



Because you've been married a short amount of time, she isn't intitled to anything and if your lawyer says she is, get a new one

I think I should go into law instead of Accounting :biggrin:e-n-t-i-t-l-e-d you big dummy

If you have no children from the union, ask your lawyer about getting an annulment. That way it's as if the marriage never happened and she gets nothing.

Excuse me, what did I say?? :tap:



e-n-t-i-t-l-e-d you big dummy

grammar nazi

I have been doing accounting all freaking weekend....ask me about debits and credits and I'm good....spelling, I could care less about

Yeah my lawyer said she shouldn't get anything, maybe a little bit of rehabilitative alimony, but he said you never know - depends on the judge.

Yeah my lawyer said she shouldn't get anything, maybe a little bit of rehabilitative alimony, but he said you never know - depends on the judge.

Oh, well if it depends on the judge, you have nothing to worry about. I've read a lot of articles that say divorce courts are much fairer these days. :sarcasm:

Anything you had BEFORE the marriage is yours. She gets none of the house or your retirement as it was attained before marriage.

This is the way it's supposed to work but the Judge can decide anyway he/she wants to, they have guidelines but are not binded to follow them;cost me 10k for a divorce that I was quoted about 2k would cover it, my own fault for not cutting ties when I felt screwed........ be aware, be very aware. Hope you dont have S.B. as your counsel.

prenup = $850 of great investment

Baja is correct in his assessment of your situation......

Yeah my lawyer said she shouldn't get anything, maybe a little bit of rehabilitative alimony, but he said you never know - depends on the judge.

You were married for five months? Tell her to get a job.:lol:

If you were married for 5 months and she's so vindictive that she wants all that, I'm thinking you probably shouldn't have boned her best friend!! :lmao:

In all seriousness, you should talk to another lawyer if your current one says she's entitled to anything at all. She's not, at least in Maryland (where are you located?). Also, while smdavis is a bit sarcastic about courts being more fair these days, it's actually true. Courts are viewing men/fathers a LOT differently than they did even a few years ago. Child support tables, court ordered schedules, and property laws have ALL had changes in the last 5 years. Keep your chin up bro!

Thanks for your input. Just so I understand correctly, are you saying the laws are actually more fair now?

And I live in Calvert, she moved back to Washington County with her parents.

grammar nazi

I have been doing accounting all freaking weekend....ask me about debits and credits and I'm good....spelling, I could care less about
He corrected your SPELLING not your grammar you big dummy! :lol:

If you were married for 5 months and she's so vindictive that she wants all that, I'm thinking you probably shouldn't have boned her best friend!! :lmao:

:killingme

The annulment idea I read seems like it may not be too bad. 5 months of marriage? Your marriage has hardly been constipated...errr I mean consummated :whistle:

The annulment idea I read seems like it may not be too bad. 5 months of marriage? Your marriage has hardly been constipated...errr I mean consummated :whistle:[/QUOTE]





Haha yeah I thought so too, but once you say "I do," it's hard to get an annulment, there would have to be evidence of fraud or some other evidence to prove the marriage never happened.

Haha yeah I thought so too, but once you say "I do," it's hard to get an annulment, there would have to be evidence of fraud or some other evidence to prove the marriage never happened.

That she immediately quit her job upon your separation and is now trying to soak you financially should be enough evidence that her intentions were not pure when she married you. A good lawyer would rip her to shreds.

Haha yeah I thought so too, but once you say "I do," it's hard to get an annulment, there would have to be evidence of fraud or some other evidence to prove the marriage never happened.
I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.

The annulment idea I read seems like it may not be too bad. 5 months of marriage? Your marriage has hardly been constipated...errr I mean consummated :whistle:





Haha yeah I thought so too, but once you say "I do," it's hard to get an annulment, there would have to be evidence of fraud or some other evidence to prove the marriage never happened.[/QUOTE]

That she immediately quit her job upon your separation and is now trying to soak you financially should be enough evidence that her intentions were not pure when she married you. A good lawyer would rip her to shreds.

I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.

I was married for 2 months and couldn't get an annulment through the state.

I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.

Similar here. Ex had to get a church annulment from her previous marriage before we could get married in NY, but it didn't take much to get it done. $100 went a long way back then....

Hey,

I'm currently separated from my wife with the intention of getting divorced. We were only together for 5 months.

Before we started dating, I bought a house and it's still only in my name. Same with my bank accounts and vehicles. She has a college degree, but when we separated, she quit her job and moved back in with her parents, so she is currently unemployed. After a year, I plan on filing for an absolute divorce on the grounds of voluntary separation for a year.

Now, she filed for a limited divorce and wants alimony, my house to be sold and half of the money from that, plus my bank accounts and retirement.

After researching Maryland divorce laws, I am still unclear on some things. I have a lawyer, but since she recently filed, there isn't much activity with the case yet.

I was wondering if I have to worry about losing my house, and if I would have to pay her any alimony? I'm thinking that I have nothing to worry about, but it's still a stressful situation and I've never been in this situation before.

Thanks!

After recently obtaining my Law Degree at Devry, I can tell you that she will be getting the coal mine and you will be getting the shaft. That will be 100 dollars please.

Thanks in advance

That she immediately quit her job upon your separation and is now trying to soak you financially should be enough evidence that her intentions were not pure when she married you. A good lawyer would rip her to shreds.

i don't know why, but that part just cracks me up for some reason. i don't know either party. it just sounds funny:killingme

I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.

I know someone who was married for a few years (not ten though) and was able to get an annulment. Not sure if there was a fee/cost...possibly.

I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.

You're confustiing the church with court...

Will a COURT annul a marriage post copulation??

I know someone who was married for a few years (not ten though) and was able to get an annulment. Not sure if there was a fee/cost...possibly.

You're confustiing the church with court...

Will a COURT annul a marriage post copulation??It was definately through the church only. We got a legal divorce first.

The church asked a ton of VERY personal questions. I refused to fill it out and a few months later I received a letter stating they granted her the annulment. :lmao:

I was married for 10 years and the Catholic Church annuled it at her request.
They just want your money. They'll give anyone an annulment

You're confustiing the church with court...

Will a COURT annul a marriage post copulation??
Yeah it's pretty tough. It just depends on the circumstances and how well the lawyer can swing things.

The courts will see through her so I wouldn't worry about alimony etc (based on what you described).

The church will give you an annulment (for a price) but my opinion is if you get your way with the divorce and the state of MD then why pursue an annulment? You're gonna spend big $$$ with the divorce just because she's gonna try all kinds of crap. Save your money to break it off in her a$$ during the divorce. Make her pay you alimony and charge her with fraud.

Sounds like she certainly isn't what she was BEFORE the marriage.

Yep, nothing like she was before the marriage. Now, she's all about the money and how much she can get from me.

It's very stressful when all I want is to be done with it and move on.

Yep, nothing like she was before the marriage. Now, she's all about the money and how much she can get from me.

It's very stressful when all I want is to be done with it and move on.

So were you married for 5 months or together for 5 months? :popcorn:

Got married in July, separated at the end of December, so lived together for 5 months.

all I want is to be done with it and move on.

I hate to remind you but your dealing with a women. Also I think only the Church will recognize an annulment not the State. You'll still need to get a Divorce. Your life will suck for like a year but you'll forget all about her in two and by three you'll be in "Love" all over again.

Yep, nothing like she was before the marriage. Now, she's all about the money and how much she can get from me.

It's very stressful when all I want is to be done with it and move on.

You could always screw her over and not do anything.. just continue on with your life as if you were never married.

She can't get a dime from you unless you divorce her right?? What can she force you to do if you are still married to her?

I hate to remind you but your dealing with a women. Also I think only the Church will recognize an annulment not the State. You'll still need to get a Divorce. Your life will suck for like a year but you'll forget all about her in two and by three you'll be in "Love" all over again.

I'll bet he's in love again by June.

You could always screw her over and not do anything.. just continue on with your life as if you were never married.

She can't get a dime from you unless you divorce her right?? What can she force you to do if you are still married to her?

Bad idea.

If they are married he is legally obligated for any debt she accumulates during the marriage. She could go buy $100K worth of crap and not pay and screw up his credit for years.

You could always screw her over and not do anything.. just continue on with your life as if you were never married.

She can't get a dime from you unless you divorce her right?? What can she force you to do if you are still married to her?

Actually, if she submits paperwork for a divorce, and you do nothing, don't respond at all, the divorce can go thru without your signature. I had that situation, I filed, she didn't respond until the last day allowed. One more day and I would have been granted the divorce anyway.