So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

Tell him not to go to sleep.

Tell him not to go to sleep.

:yeahthat: OR drug his azz so is sound asleep as you make your escape!

So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?
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So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

Post your business in a public forum :yay:

Ask Tammy Wynette -

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

Are you friends with Anita Mann?

Are you friends with Anita Mann?

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It's hard to give someone specific advice without knowing their specific situation - but generally speaking, I'd say bad threats = bad situation. And I can't imagine that it's a relationship worth trying to save, if he could spit in your face.

He would seem to have no respect whatsoever for you, and if he hadn't learned to respect you by the time you got married, I wouldn't expect that he ever will. That's probably not easy to hear or accept - but, you'll probably be better off if you do - and sooner rather than later.

So, specific advice? Hard to give any. General advice? It's probably time to get away from the relationship.

Are you friends with Anita Mann?
She's my next door neighbor :yay:

Call the cops.. He spit in your face.. While he's in jail pack your chit and leave...

Call the cops.. He spit in your face.. While he's in jail pack your chit and leave...

Mentioned that - he said go ahead that he will just cut himself and put blood all over and tell the cops I cut him - not idle threats -he has done crap like that before - once even whacked himself in the leg with a sledgehammer and told the cops I kicked him!

Mentioned that - he said go ahead that he will just cut himself and put blood all over and tell the cops I cut him - not idle threats -he has done crap like that before - once even whacked himself in the leg with a sledgehammer and told the cops I kicked him!

You are still with him WHY? :shrug:

Mentioned that - he said go ahead that he will just cut himself and put blood all over and tell the cops I cut him - not idle threats -he has done crap like that before - once even whacked himself in the leg with a sledgehammer and told the cops I kicked him!

You should back over yourself with the car and tell the cops he did it to you.

You should back over yourself with the car and tell the cops he did it to you.

Ooooh, good one! :yay:

- sometimes it is far easier to duck and cover and protect yourself from stuff you can see coming most of the time than to imagine watching the rear view mirror your entire life - is probably one of the reasons

- sometimes it is far easier to duck and cover and protect yourself from stuff you can see coming most of the time than to imagine watching the rear view mirror your entire life - is probably one of the reasons

I don't have time for your drama. If you want help or sincere advice, phone number's of places you can call to get things done let us know.

The only person that has the power to change your life is YOU!

I don't even know you but I can guess that you are more afraid of what you are going to lose that you put up with the shiat because of it.

I will not placate you or feed into your deal if you are truly not ready for a real change. I don't mean to be harsh but it's your choice. Do you want to stay and exist or do you want to live your life? What are your hopes and dreams?

http://forums.somd.com/dating-marriage/178312-married-couples-sleeping-apart.html#post3744030

- sometimes it is far easier to duck and cover and protect yourself from stuff you can see coming most of the time than to imagine watching the rear view mirror your entire life - is probably one of the reasons

why do you come around asking for help and suggestions, just to make excuses and justify things that are clearly absurd? When you're ready for actual help, come on back. Until then, why waste our time?

I don't have time for your drama. If you want help or sincere advice, phone number's of places you can call to get things done let us know.

The only person that has the power to change your life is YOU!

I don't even know you but I can guess that you are more afraid of what you are going to lose that you put up with the shiat because of it.

I will not placate you or feed into your deal if you are truly not ready for a real change. I don't mean to be harsh but it's your choice. Do you want to stay and exist or do you want to live your life? What are your hopes and dreams?

http://forums.somd.com/dating-marriage/178312-married-couples-sleeping-apart.html#post3744030


Then don't read it and don't spend the time-

I am not afraid of what I would "lose" - everything I own materially I have bought myself with my own 6 figure income.

I don't expect people to understand anything and the forums are just as for me as they are for you. (I bet when I look I will see that you have probably posted in the thousands?)

for the non-mean people

We have 4 children between us, and I have left before - just about 3 years ago. Then he "convinced" me - the fool I am - that he wasn't unfaithful, wouldn't be abusive, went to counseling, etc - I tried - like a fool. We even built a new house together.

Now, he is back in his "comfort zone" if you will thinking that being an absolute mean SOB is the way to get people to love you - I have gone through feeling sorry for him, I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped

why do you come around asking for help and suggestions, just to make excuses and justify things that are clearly absurd? When you're ready for actual help, come on back. Until then, why waste our time?


Anyone ever seen the move Gaslight ??
very tame in comparison

Then don't read it and don't spend the time-

I am not afraid of what I would "lose" - everything I own materially I have bought myself with my own 6 figure income.

I don't expect people to understand anything and the forums are just as for me as they are for you. (I bet when I look I will see that you have probably posted in the thousands?)

for the non-mean people

We have 4 children between us, and I have left before - just about 3 years ago. Then he "convinced" me - the fool I am - that he wasn't unfaithful, wouldn't be abusive, went to counseling, etc - I tried - like a fool. We even built a new house together.

Now, he is back in his "comfort zone" if you will thinking that being an absolute mean SOB is the way to get people to love you - I have gone through feeling sorry for him, I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped

Wow, your penis must be GIGANTIC.

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I smell an MPD. :yawn:

Wow, your penis must be GIGANTIC.

hahahahaha - sure - my "dick" (hubby) is a pretty big guy in stature

I smell an MPD. :yawn:

:captainobvious:

:captainobvious:

:bawl:

:bawl:

ok - over my head - what is "MPD" ?

ok - over my head - what is "MPD" ?

:killingme

Then don't read it and don't spend the time-

I am not afraid of what I would "lose" - everything I own materially I have bought myself with my own 6 figure income.

I don't expect people to understand anything and the forums are just as for me as they are for you. (I bet when I look I will see that you have probably posted in the thousands?)

for the non-mean people

We have 4 children between us, and I have left before - just about 3 years ago. Then he "convinced" me - the fool I am - that he wasn't unfaithful, wouldn't be abusive, went to counseling, etc - I tried - like a fool. We even built a new house together.

Now, he is back in his "comfort zone" if you will thinking that being an absolute mean SOB is the way to get people to love you - I have gone through feeling sorry for him, I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped


First of all I will read it if I choose.

Second if I responded I maybe thought that you could use some help.

Third, Apparently your big six income figure check couldn't keep your man in your bed only.

My last thought on your drivel is that if you choose to come to a public forum and WHINE about how you have been wronged and you are not willing to do anything to change it then my response will be to tell you to pack sand.

You are a Drama Mamma. If you really wanted help or advice you would take or seek it when it was offered.

Have a great nights sleep in the spare room while your pig husband of a man (as you have proclaimed him to be) is dreaming of his next trist with his lover.

Who in your house is really the spineless weasel?

First of all I will read it if I choose.

Second if I responded I maybe thought that you could use some help.

Third, Apparently your big six income figure check couldn't keep your man in your bed only.

My last thought on your drivel is that if you choose to come to a public forum and WHINE about how you have been wronged and you are not willing to do anything to change it then my response will be to tell you to pack sand.

You are a Drama Mamma. If you really wanted help or advice you would take or seek it when it was offered.

Have a great nights sleep in the spare room while your pig husband of a man (as you have proclaimed him to be) is dreaming of his next trist with his lover.

Who in your house is really the spineless weasel?



hmmmm, you sound just like the "HO" would sound - interesting -
pretty darn defensive there for someone "not interested" in the "drama" ??

hmmmm, you sound just like the "HO" would sound - interesting -
pretty darn defensive there for someone "not interested" in the "drama" ??

Call me whatever names you like. I have lived an learned. I maybe thought you were looking for some advice from those that may have been through it.

Your responses have indicated otherwise so personally I could give two shiats and a grin. Have a great night.:flowers:

DUR LEAVE! I'm not understanding why posting this on a forum will help you make a choice? It's kind of obvious that you know what you should do. Yet, you want to share your effed up life with the world.

Edit: MPD sorry I fell for it... even as stupid as it was... :faint:

Call me whatever names you like. I have lived an learned. I maybe thought you were looking for some advice from those that may have been through it.

Your responses have indicated otherwise so personally I could give to shiats and a grin. Have a great night.:flowers:

Well - that is certainly not how you come across - you have a great night, too!

....you know, it is really amazing how people think they know someone and their whole personality & story etc, from a few posts on SOMD - I'm just sayin -

Well - that is certainly not how you come across - you have a great night, too!

I responded to you in the first thread that I linked to this thread. I am not trying to bash you. If you want advice fine. You posted your situation, then we commented. Then it seems you want to back off and try to justify/ defend him.

I have kids too. Having kids does not excuse bad, rude, disrepectful or abusive behavior. I have walked over hot coals in my past and to be honest I put the lighter fluid on many of those fires.

When the day is over and the kids are asleep it all boils down to how much of your sanity are you willing to foresake before you lose your mind or make a change?

This is your life and your choice. The cards are in your hand. You can fold or you can let it ride. Good luck to you all.

So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

You already know the answer to your question.

So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

I'm sorry.. did you say he spit in your face??

And he still has his testicles?

You're a moron.

ok - over my head - what is "MPD" ?
You :shrug:

...I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped

This is simple; if he wants to change and is actually doing it, you have your reasons for hanging in there. If he doesn't want to change, he's not going to and you get to decide what you're going to do based on that. Yes, he's got a disorder.

People decide to accept dealing with abusive spouses all the time and make the best of it. It's a life and we all get to decide what's acceptable and what's not. Just understand this; his issues, whatever they are, are not your fault. Some of your personality traits may exacerbate his problems, but that's not a disorder.

Personality is one thing. What's actually messed up about us as individuals is another.

This is simple; if he wants to change and is actually doing it, you have your reasons for hanging in there. If he doesn't want to change, he's not going to and you get to decide what you're going to do based on that. Yes, he's got a disorder.

People decide to accept dealing with abusive spouses all the time and make the best of it. It's a life and we all get to decide what's acceptable and what's not. Just understand this; his issues, whatever they are, are not your fault. Some of your personality traits may exacerbate his problems, but that's not a disorder.

Personality is one thing. What's actually messed up about us as individuals is another.


:flowers:

threads only get interesting when i have friggin work to do :jerry:

how do you handle the situation????

with a really really big heavy baseball bat!

and hey- he has cried wold before, just tell the cops he beat the crap out of himself to frame you :yay:

So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

Begin planning to move out while he is at work. Do not leave anything in the house that you would ever want or need. Gather your friends and rent a truck and move all of your belongings out in one day as quickly as you can. Do not waste anymore time with such a person.

First of all I will read it if I choose.

Second if I responded I maybe thought that you could use some help.

Third, Apparently your big six income figure check couldn't keep your man in your bed only.

My last thought on your drivel is that if you choose to come to a public forum and WHINE about how you have been wronged and you are not willing to do anything to change it then my response will be to tell you to pack sand.

You are a Drama Mamma. If you really wanted help or advice you would take or seek it when it was offered.

Have a great nights sleep in the spare room while your pig husband of a man (as you have proclaimed him to be) is dreaming of his next trist with his lover.

Who in your house is really the spineless weasel?




Did someone wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

Did someone wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

As harsh as that statement was, there's truth to it. If someone in my house spits on me, either I will leave, or they will. Kicking & screaming if necessary. I can't think of any reasons good enough to put up with that behavior.

staying there is also not the thing to do "for" the children. The violence they are exposed to is doing more harm than if you did leave. I am sure they can hear the yelling.

I would suggest that you buy one of those mini recorders that are voice activated... have it all on tape then that "cut myself and blame it on you" stuff isn't gonna fly!

So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?

I feel sorry for your kids. The fact that you left and came back shows how stupid and selfish you are. You are only thinking about yourself and not the kids. You deserve whatever you get because you keep coming back for more. I really hope i don't read in the newspaper anytime soon about a crazy guy killing his family.

hmmmm, you sound just like the "HO" would sound - interesting -
pretty darn defensive there for someone "not interested" in the "drama" ??

This makes no sense at all!