ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

let it go, let them get closer, then when he start s"working late" stalk him, get evidence of him cheating on you. then take his sorry cheating butt to court and suck every penny out of that bastage!

Are you sure you aren't being hypersensitive? At this point I'm on his side. Perhaps your sister isn't trustworthy of his music collection, but your friend is. Also if it was an open publically viewed conversation - what was so "secretive" and inappropriate about it? If he was cheating with your friend, it wouldn't be poste don facebook.

Maybe you need to not get into a fight with your husband, nor your friend, but let him know you are feeling left out, possibly even jealous and insecure, and that you love him and would like for him to have these conversations with you and include you.

Yelling and fighting won't solve anything but push him further away from you.

I think you should consider a truly open conversation where you aren't accusing him of anything. Maybe you'll find out that he's been feeling neglected by you and your jealousy issues have made him not want to talk to you for fear of an argument. Meanwhile you've been feeling hurt and left out and jealous and by fighting with him are making things worse.

A relationship isn't just about one person's feelings. Try some open calm conversation instead of angry accusations.

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

Don't be looking for clues if you can't handle the truth. :cds:

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?


Get the book "Not 'Just Friends' " - the very first signs - having to hide stuff - changing his password?? and did either of them tell you about their "friendship" ?

If she is also your friend, I would confront them both head on right now. Tell them exactly what it appears to you and how you feel. If she is truly your friend, she will understand and back off, and if your hubby truly cares about your marriage, he will also apologize and knock the crap off - that is if it is innocent - if it is not, they will keep on and it will grow and grow until it is too late....

let it go, let them get closer, then when he start s"working late" stalk him, get evidence of him cheating on you. then take his sorry cheating butt to court and suck every penny out of that bastage!
but i love my husband and don't believe in divorce!

Are you sure you aren't being hypersensitive? At this point I'm on his side. Perhaps your sister isn't trustworthy of his music collection, but your friend is. Also if it was an open publically viewed conversation - what was so "secretive" and inappropriate about it? If he was cheating with your friend, it wouldn't be poste don facebook.

Maybe you need to not get into a fight with your husband, nor your friend, but let him know you are feeling left out, possibly even jealous and insecure, and that you love him and would like for him to have these conversations with you and include you.

Yelling and fighting won't solve anything but push him further away from you.

I think you should consider a truly open conversation where you aren't accusing him of anything. Maybe you'll find out that he's been feeling neglected by you and your jealousy issues have made him not want to talk to you for fear of an argument. Meanwhile you've been feeling hurt and left out and jealous and by fighting with him are making things worse.

A relationship isn't just about one person's feelings. Try some open calm conversation instead of angry accusations.
You are always so smart! :huggy:
Get the book "Not 'Just Friends' " - the very first signs - having to hide stuff - changing his password?? and did either of them tell you about their "friendship" ?

If she is also your friend, I would confront them both head on right now. Tell them exactly what it appears to you and how you feel. If she is truly your friend, she will understand and back off, and if your hubby truly cares about your marriage, he will also apologize and knock the crap off - that is if it is innocent - if it is not, they will keep on and it will grow and grow until it is too late....

I like this answer too!

Post a link to his myspace so we can analyze the messages. :popcorn:

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

You should call your friends husband and tattle on her. That'll make things better.

You should call your friends husband and tattle on her. That'll make things better.

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

How can you see chatting on Myspace?

what should i say?

As I understand it, spitting in your spouses face is the new "I wanna talk" communication tool for couples.

:jameo: sounds just like my ex best friend and my husband. They've now been unhappily married to each other since the day after MY divorce was finalized. :jerry:

You sent your husband an email? :eyebrow:

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"

As I understand it, spitting in your spouses face is the new "I wanna talk" communication tool for couples.

:roflmao:

We need a :hocktooey: smiley. :yay:

but i love my husband and don't believe in divorce!
haha, i was kidding.

well you can get a key logger, then log into his account and see whats going on.

You sent your husband an email? :eyebrow:

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"

:killingme

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.
:high5: you are awesome!

:yeahthat:And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

Excellent suggestion.

:yeahthat:

Did you see Lisa squeeze C_Jo's butt the other day? I think there's something going on between them. :frown:

Excellent suggestion.

All I had to do is ask myself, "What would otter do?"

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

What if he is ugly hmmm :tap: Think K_Jo think!

:roflmao:

We need a :hocktooey: smiley. :yay:

I support this initiative as an integral part of the national economic recovery. :buddies:

All I had to do is ask myself, "What would otter do?"

Amen.

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

I think you need to quit stopping by my house when I'm not there. :eyebrow:

What if he is ugly hmmm :tap: Think K_Jo think!

Double bag it? :shrug:

I think you need to quit stopping by my house when I'm not there. :eyebrow:

:lmao:

I said so that is why you changed your passwords then you do have something to hide from me.

hmmmmmmmmm...


Hey KVF, what's your passwords? :killingme

I think you need to quit stopping by my house when I'm not there. :eyebrow:

It's one thing when she stops by when you aren't there and you could pop in at any moment, it's another when you're out of town and she's spending the weekend :popcorn:

hmmmmmmmmm...


Hey KVF, what's your passwords? :killingme
im trying to change it back for oyu but gmail wont let me.

but i love my husband and don't believe in divorce!

dumb ass


Post a link to his myspace so we can analyze the messages. :popcorn:

You should call your friends husband and tattle on her. That'll make things better.

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

You sent your husband an email? :eyebrow:

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"


I'm so proud of all of you! Excellent responses! :yay:

It's one thing when she stops by when you aren't there and you could pop in at any moment, it's another when you're out of town and she's spending the weekend :popcorn:

Dammit! :cds:

dumb ass


I'm so proud of all of you! Excellent responses! :yay:

:howdy: :huggy:

:howdy: :huggy:

:howdy:

You sent your husband an email? :eyebrow:

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"

:killingme

:killingme

See you tonight? How's girl feeling?

Did you see Lisa squeeze C_Jo's butt the other day? I think there's something going on between them. :frown:

:duel: Then you must go bag her husband.

but i love my husband and don't believe in divorce!

Then don't worry about what he's doing. It wouldn't make a difference anyhow.

:duel: Then you must go bag her husband.

No effin way! :lmao:

Not that he's not a very nice fella...

Then don't worry about what he's doing. It wouldn't make a difference anyhow.
:yeahthat: turn a blind eye.

you suspect nothing :jedi mind trick:

:huggy: Honey, just go out and bang half of St. Mary's County and all of Calvert County... that'll show him what he's missing out on at home! Oh, and be sure to not use a condom, give him an STD because nothing says "I Love You" like Herpes and Syphillis!

Big Ole :yawn:

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?


If you were serious you wouldn't be on here seeking advice from us...

Good way to pass time though!!

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?
Whats to help? you have reason to believe he is cheating. You already know he is talking to her and saying things to her that are hurting you. If he doesnt respect you enough to stop talking to her (if thats all he is doing) then you either deal with a man that has no respect for you or your feelings or you kick his arse and make his life a living hell till he gets it. OR D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Oh or you can do everything he is doing and toss it in his face so he knows how you feel. If he doesnt care then well that should tell you something.

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?

Does he also have his own website devoted to super heroines? :shrug:

And then start banging the friend's husband for revenge.

I like this answer.

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?

No. If you don't believe in divorce then what's the point of helping you? You're not going to help yourself. What if he beats the crap out of you? Would you divorce him then? Such a healthy environment for your kids. :yay:

Does he also have his own website devoted to super heroines? :shrug:

:roflmao: :high5: :roflmao:

No. If you don't believe in divorce then what's the point of helping you? You're not going to help yourself. What if he beats the crap out of you? Would you divorce him then? Such a healthy environment for your kids. :yay:

She'd probably still kiss his ass if he spit on her. :rolleyes:

Post a link to his myspace so we can analyze the messages. :popcorn:

oh YEAH, now we're talking. that could be fun:popcorn:

She'd probably still kiss his ass if he spit on her. :rolleyes:
I spit on KVF :shrug:

I spit on KVF :shrug:
yeh but only in my mouth or :gossip:

:huggy: Honey, just go out and bang half of St. Mary's County and all of Calvert County... that'll show him what he's missing out on at home! Oh, and be sure to not use a condom, give him an STD because nothing says "I Love You" like Herpes and Syphillis!

why only half of st. mary's? and why leave out charles? and whats with banging all of Calvert?

why only half of st. mary's? and why leave out charles? and whats with banging all of Calvert?
Well if she bangs even half of Charles County she's bound to get a Waldorfian and we all know that place is crime laden, she sleeps with some other woman's man and she'll be dead before she can sleep with half of St. Mary's and all of Calvert. Charles County should be slept with only as a last resort :yay: It's a safety precaution, I was looking out for her best interests.

Well if she bangs even half of Charles County she's bound to get a Waldorfian and we all know that place is crime laden, she sleeps with some other woman's man and she'll be dead before she can sleep with half of St. Mary's and all of Calvert. Charles County should be slept with only as a last resort :yay: It's a safety precaution, I was looking out for her best interests.

I think she lives here: http://forums.somd.com/life-southern-maryland/178502-rte-261-rte-4-intersection.html#post3748119

All I had to do is ask myself, "What would otter do?"

:yay:

Well if she bangs even half of Charles County she's bound to get a Waldorfian and we all know that place is crime laden, she sleeps with some other woman's man and she'll be dead before she can sleep with half of St. Mary's and all of Calvert. Charles County should be slept with only as a last resort :yay: It's a safety precaution, I was looking out for her best interests.

oh, okay. now it makes sense.

you all are mean! this is serius! we have kids and I dont wanna chaet on him or stalk him, Im not pyscho!

wont anyone please help me?

I did. You choose not to listen. Which is probably part of the problem. You are not a very good communicator and only want to hear what you want to hear. I wouldn't want to talk to you either. :drama:

You are always so smart! :huggy:


BTW, I do sometimes exchange an email with your hubby. It's usually jokes or a conversation about tools...:eyebrow: Got a problem with that?

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So.... Um.... is the thread :dead: now? :shrug:

So.... Um.... is the thread :dead: now? :shrug:
It would appear so. Maybe the obvious MPD got bored :shrug:

It would appear so. Maybe the obvious MPD got bored :shrug:
I must be stupid I dont know who that was? or are you just saying it was an obvious MPD but who it was is a :confused:

I just think its B.S. if your S.O. is doing something that upsets you and if you confront them on this and they still dont care that it hurts then eff em. seriously. its just not worth it some times. I can understand if its something stupid but from what I gathered from this thread it was something a little more serious and the guy didnt give a damn so that should say something.

I must be stupid I dont know who that was? or are you just saying it was an obvious MPD but who it was is a :confused:

I just think its B.S. if your S.O. is doing something that upsets you and if you confront them on this and they still dont care that it hurts then eff em. seriously. its just not worth it some times. I can understand if its something stupid but from what I gathered from this thread it was something a little more serious and the guy didnt give a damn so that should say something.
I have no idea who it is/was... but usually when people come out with sob stories like that and they're got less than 20 posts under their belt they're simply trying to make a cover story for an MPD... which is why no one takes them seriously and gives them crappy replies.

If I thought for a minute this wasn't an MPD, I'd have given serious advice like talking to their friend non-confrontationally and just plant the seed that you know something's up and you're asking them to cut the crap. If the husband is truly being a dink and flirting/dinking around, then he needs to have his ass handed to him too, but more than likely the husband is reacting to the wife who got really upset, and is probably just making it more than it is because he likes the idea of his wife being jealous, because it's a screwed up way to make him think she cares.

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?
lose weight, buy a pretty dress, lose the attitude.

it will all work out for the best.
after all that, if he moves on you should be able to pick up another guy pretty quick.
if he sticks around, wait till you are sure that the "friend" is out of the picture, then celebrate with a 30lb tub of Ben and Jerrys double chocolate protien chunk ice cream.

You sent your husband an email? :eyebrow:

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"

Now that is funny!!
Thank you Nacho, I truly needed that laugh!!

lose weight, buy a pretty dress, lose the attitude.

it will all work out for the best.
after all that, if he moves on you should be able to pick up another guy pretty quick.
if he sticks around, wait till you are sure that the "friend" is out of the picture, then celebrate with a 30lb tub of Ben and Jerrys double chocolate protien chunk ice cream.

I love this answer!!!

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

I have no idea who it is/was... but usually when people come out with sob stories like that and they're got less than 20 posts under their belt they're simply trying to make a cover story for an MPD... which is why no one takes them seriously and gives them crappy replies.


:dye:

Mandora!!!! :lmao:

(1) This is a relationship that requires more than email.
(2) If we can't solve difference by actually talking to eachother then I am willing to show you the door.
(3) It's not the other person. It's you and me. And it's your call because now I've been very clear as to where I stand.

And be ready for this loser to walk out.

She needs to bangbang more often with an occasional *ahem* thrown in.
Oh and talk face to face without interruption from kids, myspace (who uses ms anyway) or FB status alerts.

Tell your husband that if he screws around on you, your not going to say anything to him. He will know that you know when he discovers one arm cut off all of his shirts and jackets, one pant leg cut off all of his pants, the crotch cut out of all of his underwear, the end of all of his sox removed, a needle will be run across every cd he owns, his toothbrush will clean the toilet, all shoelaces will disappear, and tell him your friend has that incurable gonorhea she got in Baltimore.:evil:

I think you should just invite your said friend over and lay in bed with her before your husband gets home from work or whatever and surprise him. That way you're getting some too and so is this girl he is flirting with. 3 somes! :yay:

I think you should just invite your said friend over and lay in bed with her before your husband gets home from work or whatever and surprise him. That way you're getting some too and so is this girl he is flirting with. 3 somes! :yay:
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