I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Live the life you want to live.
A happy interesting person is attractive


What type of bike do you ride?

Personality counts for a lot so if you are all the other things you claim to be then I would start with that.

Personality counts for a lot so if you are all the other things you claim to be then I would start with that.

I was gonna say conceited

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Try getting offline and looking out there in the real world.

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Are you looking for women ages 35 to 42? Or is it 25 to 32?!?! That may be the problem. I see a lot of men in their 40s looking for someone much younger. A lot of women are not into much older men.

What do I Have to Do for a date?

TOO easy.. I'm not even going to bother.. :jerry:

But I'd ask Toppick.. he was in the same situation, and from what I understand pretty damn popular with the ladies..

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?


nope, just you:killingme


my future ex husband NEVER had a problem meeting women... even BEFORE we were separated... WHO KNEW???:killingme

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Yes....now get the hell over it and move on

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

OK brutal truth here..........SUCCESSFUL HANDSOME PROFESSIONAL MAN....and I bet you also talk about your house, cars, bank account...etc?

Women do not need to be told all this......it makes you look vain, arrogrant, selfish and materialist. If you are truly *all that* then you never have to advertise it because it will be apparent in the way you conduct yourself.........it comes across better being confident and self assured instead of LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME.

Ask the ladies what they like, goals, family, hobbies and interact that way......leave the other stuff out and try being yourself.

OK brutal truth here..........SUCCESSFUL HANDSOME PROFESSIONAL MAN....and I bet you also talk about your house, cars, bank account...etc?

Women do not need to be told all this......it makes you look vain, arrogrant, selfish and materialist. If you are truly *all that* then you never have to advertise it because it will be apparent in the way you conduct yourself.........it comes across better being confident and self assured instead of LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME.

Ask the ladies what they like, goals, family, hobbies and interact that way......leave the other stuff out and try being yourself.


Also, women don't like desperate and needy/clingy men. Those type of men don't get ladies and ended up chasing them away rather than gaining a long term girlfriend or wife for lifetime.

If you are happy with your life, love the life, and enjoy being yourself is all you need because women likes men that are happy with their life.

[QUOTE=StrawberryGal;3825366]Also, women don't like desperate and needy/clingy men. Those type of men don't get ladies and ended up chasing them away rather than gaining a long term girlfriend or wife for lifetime.]

Well I don't know about this one, I have seen some pretty butch looking women in this county.....they may like the whimpy type.......:killingme

[QUOTE=StrawberryGal;3825366]Also, women don't like desperate and needy/clingy men. Those type of men don't get ladies and ended up chasing them away rather than gaining a long term girlfriend or wife for lifetime.]

Well I don't know about this one, I have seen some pretty butch looking women in this county.....they may like the whimpy type.......:killingme

They know how to get women.

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Honestly, if you are a decent looking guy on a dating site then the only reason I can think of that you wouldn't get any dates whatsoever is if your profile completely sucks. If you have any female friends I'd suggest talking to them about it and get their advice. There's only so much we can do or say here without knowing some additional details. There's obviously SOME sort of problem because a handsome guy who's a "professional", which I assume means you make decent money, should get at least some dates.

Have some friends look at it or go online and look for tips of what to put in a profile and what should maybe be left out. Or it's possible you think you're handsome but you're just overconfident, like vrai's thread mentioned the other day. I don't know and can't judge, just a couple possibilities. If you give more details maybe we could give you more advice, otherwise I dunno what to tell ya

Honestly, if you are a decent looking guy on a dating site then the only reason I can think of that you wouldn't get any dates whatsoever is if your profile completely sucks. If you have any female friends I'd suggest talking to them about it and get their advice. There's only so much we can do or say here without knowing some additional details. There's obviously SOME sort of problem because a handsome guy who's a "professional", which I assume means you make decent money, should get at least some dates.

Have some friends look at it or go online and look for tips of what to put in a profile and what should maybe be left out. Or it's possible you think you're handsome but you're just overconfident, like vrai's thread mentioned the other day. I don't know and can't judge, just a couple possibilities. If you give more details maybe we could give you more advice, otherwise I dunno what to tell ya

Do you write for Cosmo?

$50 + Great Mills Rd. = "date"

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Get your own house in order and finish your relations with your wife. Divorced is one thing. You've moved on. Separated is another. It's a giant sign on your forehead; "Messy person who jumps from one mess to the next. Inquire within."

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

Please provide link to said dating sites and we will examine your profile and get back with you. TIA

ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Kelb!!!!!!!!!!!! im smelling money here!

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?


I think I found your problem.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Kelb!!!!!!!!!!!! im smelling money here!

Not after his divorce.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Kelb!!!!!!!!!!!! im smelling money here!

professional doesn't mean much. he could be a professional buttwiper for all we know :biggrin:

$50 + Great Mills Rd. = "date"



$50?!?!!!
Are you ####ing serious?


That's about 49 dollars too many, from what I can see.

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

A good pickup line will do wonders for your technique. May I suggest:

"Baby, I'm no Fred Flintstone, but I can make your bed rock."

A good pickup line will do wonders for your technique. May I suggest:

"Baby, I'm no Fred Flintstone, but I can make your bed rock."

You should have added that in the Top 5 list you deleted......:dye:

Are you seperated/filed for divorce/living in your own place or just seperated/still sharing the home with the wife deciding on what to do next?

$50?!?!!!
Are you ####ing serious?


That's about 49 dollars too many, from what I can see.

I was just guessing :shrug: so I will defer to your experience in this matter

You should have added that in the Top 5 list you deleted......:dye:

yeah, I was thinking we coulda referred him to that top 5 list with all the suggestions but most of them got deleted! :cds:

You should have added that in the Top 5 list you deleted......:dye:

But then it would be gone. :shrug:

I was just guessing :shrug: so I will defer to your experience in this matter


I have no experience in the matter.
I submit the fact that my unit is still attached and is not discolored nor frothing as Defense Exhibit 'A'.



I'm just opining on what I think the value of a hypothetical transaction is.

I have no experience in the matter.
I submit the fact that my unit is still attached and is not discolored nor frothing as Defense Exhibit 'A'.



I'm just opining on what I think the value of a hypothetical transaction is.

I'm pretty sure I'd pay $50 to keep one of those chicks AWAY from me.

I am a successful handsome professional man, 40, who is looking for a date. I have been on several dating sites and haven't been able to have anyone even meet me for a drink. I dont get it?

Do separated guys always have this problem?

yes, they do. now go back to being a successful handsome professional and figure out what to do with the wife and kids and the woman you were sleeping with

I would stay off of the dating sites and just get out there and meet people. It will help you to get your confidence back. And don't brag about all you are or have. Be yourself. And be a little humble. It's not easy but it's the only way to move on. Try Toot's. Nice hangout. Friendly people

I would stay off of the dating sites and just get out there and meet people. It will help you to get your confidence back. And don't brag about all you are or have. Be yourself. And be a little humble. It's not easy but it's the only way to move on. Try Toot's. Nice hangout. Friendly people

:buddies:

Personally, if I were not married I would resort to Craigslist for dates. That way I could bypass all the BS and go right for the gusto.

I heard on the news today that some girl got arrested for prostitution from an ad she placed on there that a cop responded to....I tell you some people should not be allowed to use the internet

OK get off the dating websites. They really don't work nearly as often as they try to make it seem, and its really just a money making machine for the people who run it.

Have you tried... you know... ASKING a woman out? In the flesh? Step away from the pc, make some friends, go to parties and get togethers with said friends, and just hang out and relax. Eventually someone will surface without you even having to really look. I found that when I was looking actively, I was either attracting loosers, or not getting any dates at all. The second I stopped looking, wasn't interested in dating anymore, that my beau fell into my lap without me having to do much of anything.

Another thing to look at is instead of dating websites, if you're just too busy to try to cultivate your own personal life, go to a dating SERVICE, where you're dealing one on one with professional match makers, people who do this stuff for a living. If they dont get successes, they don't make their money, so you're a lot more likely to have a shot with them than a website. One of my professors from college admitted to meeting her hubby that way and said it was much better than the websites she tried. I wouldn't know either way, but it logically makes more sense.

no comment.

:bawl:

Get your own house in order and finish your relations with your wife. Divorced is one thing. You've moved on. Separated is another. It's a giant sign on your forehead; "Messy person who jumps from one mess to the next. Inquire within."

I can't believe no one respond to your post Larry, it is right on!:yeahthat:

adrenaline_2068 Get out there-approach people, speak to them, etc.
You don't have to go to clubs/bars to find them-or the Internet. Volunteer, be a part of something larger than yourself, join a fitness club, pursue activities you enjoy-golf, fishing, boating whatever-you'll find another.:dance:

I can't believe no one respond to your post Larry, it is right on!:yeahthat:

adrenaline_2068 Get out there-approach people, speak to them, etc.
You don't have to go to clubs/bars to find them-or the Internet. Volunteer, be a part of something larger than yourself, join a fitness club, pursue activities you enjoy-golf, fishing, boating whatever-you'll find another.:dance:

Nailed it. I'm way to young to give any advice, but this is my vote +1.:yay:

You should go to Buffalo Wings And Beer in Leonardtown
this Saturday Night starting at 8pm! The LIVE "Dance Party"
will be broadcast from there!

I'm hoping to get enough singles to play "The Dating Game"
so maybe we can even get you a date! Listen to the Morning Show on RadioSOMD.fm for all the details!


You may find someone very interesting there!