Discussing Marriage

forever jewel · 09-25-2007, 08:35 AM

A friend of mine has been dating her bf for little over a year. They've been joking about marriage for a while now, but haven't really discussed it seriously. He seems to think discussing the possibility of marriage is equivalent to proposing.

I think you should at least discuss it to determine if the relationship is right for you. What do you all think?

Vince · 09-25-2007, 08:39 AM

Marriage??!!

No!! Don't do it!!

*Bronwyn* ^(Premo) · 09-25-2007, 08:46 AM

No way! He needs to do it right!

Chasey_Lane · 09-25-2007, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Bronwyn

No way! He needs to do it right!

And what is the "right" way?

*Bronwyn* ^(Premo) · 09-25-2007, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Chasey_Lane

And what is the "right" way?

I myself, like the romantic way. Something creative would be better too. Someone I know wrote it in the sand on the beach by their house and then asked his g/f to go for a walk with him.

But I guess there is no "one" right way.

*Larry Gude* ^(Premo) · 09-25-2007, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by forever jewel

A friend of mine has been dating her bf for little over a year. They've been joking about marriage for a while now, but haven't really discussed it seriously. He seems to think discussing the possibility of marriage is equivalent to proposing.

I think you should at least discuss it to determine if the relationship is right for you. What do you all think?

...your friend and her BF should be in this thread.

Chasey_Lane · 09-25-2007, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Bronwyn

I myself, like the romantic way. Something creative would be better too. Someone I know wrote it in the sand on the beach by their house and then asked his g/f to go for a walk with him.

But I guess there is no "one" right way.

Do you think discussing marriage is the same as proposing? Personally, I don't think they're the same.

*Bronwyn* ^(Premo) · 09-25-2007, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Chasey_Lane

Do you think discussing marriage is the same as proposing? Personally, I don't think they're the same.

No, if I was engaged to every bf that talked about marriage

...

I think couples should discuss marriage to see if they have the same ideas and goals in life. They may find that they don't and that's good so they can move on. Talking about it doesn't make it written in stone!

Nickel · 09-25-2007, 09:09 AM

They're obviously not the same thing, but from what you say, it sounds like he's not comfortable discussing marriage at this point.

Maybe he's afraid that if he tells her he doesn't want to get married any time soon, she'll bail. Either way, no good can come from her forcing him to talk about something he doesn't want to talk about.

mAlice · 09-25-2007, 09:12 AM

I don't think men should propose in public. Don't make us wimmens humiliate you if we don't want to get married.

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Bronwyn ^(Premo) My sweetest Friend Member Since: Jul 2006 Location: Lusby Posts: 6,687 Blog Entries: 34	No way! He needs to do it right! __________________ My Grandpa http://slstudiosonline.com/ "eye'm sorry eye'm ugly all that i am and i can never live up" OTEP - Blood Pigs
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09-25-2007, 09:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
Nickel curiouser and curiouser Member Since: Jan 2004 Location: somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 16,902	They're obviously not the same thing, but from what you say, it sounds like he's not comfortable discussing marriage at this point. Maybe he's afraid that if he tells her he doesn't want to get married any time soon, she'll bail. Either way, no good can come from her forcing him to talk about something he doesn't want to talk about. __________________ Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. -Omar Khayyam
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09-25-2007, 09:12 AM	#10 (permalink)
mAlice professional daydreamer Member Since: Mar 2001 Location: Wonderland Posts: 31,963	I don't think men should propose in public. Don't make us wimmens humiliate you if we don't want to get married. __________________ #### you. I have enough friends. “I do not feel that I deserve to be in the company of so many of the transformative figures” ~BHO
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