Can anyone recommend a Divorce Lawyer?

[ocean733]

Originally Posted by charlesctygal

If you are looking in St. Mary's County, I would recommend Bryan Dugan or Sam Baldwin. But make sure you get Sam Baldwin, and not the young associate, Troy Hansen, as he only has about 2 years of experience. In Charles County, I highly recommend John Mudd or John Ray!

[Chain729]

Originally Posted by Cyrano

I think cougars are a myth perpetuated by Hollywood. Most mature women I know would rather curl up with a romance novel and the cat than “get busy” with their hard working husbands or boyfriends. Those Glamazons of Wisteria Lane only exist in the minds of the writers.

That's called men on pause, not having the patience to wait for the viagra to kick in, or a lie.

[Mongo53]

Originally Posted by PrchJrkr

WTF I can't understand is why someone WOULD marry an absolute jerk.

Did they know each other before the ceremony?

JC, it's no wonder people are surprised to see a couple still together after 20+ years.

I suppose "Until death do us part" is just words. :disgusted:

Read up on Abusive Relationships, very often the abuser is very different in the courtship then after marriage. Wether it is conscience or unconscience effort, the abuser finds a personality they believe they can control and they come on strong and puts up their best face during the courtship. Then after the marriage, lets the real person out. Especially after having children, when the victim is even less likely to leave, that is often when the real abuse starts.

Yes, you'd be right that the victim should have seen the warning signs, and often you see victims of abuse need to do some work on themselves as to why they couldn't recognize and avoid, or leave after it became obvious, that it was a bad relationship, of at least the few slip up clues their potential abuser gave away before marriage. It doesn't change the fact they are an innocent victim that has every right to get out of the marriage.

Even if it wasn't the case of an abusive person sweeping her off her feet and then becoming a very different person after marriage; and it was purely foolish and impulsive marriage to someone she knows is a jerk; well yea, she deserves some criticism, but it still doesn't change that she marriaded a guy that treats her badly, she needs to get out of the bad marriage, even if it was just as much her fault.

[huntr1]

Originally Posted by Mongo53

Read up on Abusive Relationships, very often the abuser is very different in the courtship then after marriage. Wether it is conscience or unconscience effort, the abuser finds a personality they believe they can control and they come on strong and puts up their best face during the courtship. Then after the marriage, lets the real person out. Especially after having children, when the victim is even less likely to leave, that is often when the real abuse starts.

Yes, you'd be right that the victim should have seen the warning signs, and often you see victims of abuse need to do some work on themselves as to why they couldn't recognize and avoid, or leave after it became obvious, that it was a bad relationship, of at least the few slip up clues their potential abuser gave away before marriage. It doesn't change the fact they are an innocent victim that has every right to get out of the marriage.

Even if it wasn't the case of an abusive person sweeping her off her feet and then becoming a very different person after marriage; and it was purely foolish and impulsive marriage to someone she knows is a jerk; well yea, she deserves some criticism, but it still doesn't change that she marriaded a guy that treats her badly, she needs to get out of the bad marriage, even if it was just as much her fault.

for the 4 year old bump.

[huntr1]

Originally Posted by huntr1

for the 4 year old bump.

[kwillia]

Originally Posted by huntr1

for the 4 year old bump.

Originally Posted by huntr1

And 4 years later the response was relevant. Why so bent?

[Mongo53]

It was the result of a search, I didn't spot the age of the post. I didn't take huntr1's post as malicious, just sarcastically pointing out I dredged up something 4 years old.

And yes the point is still valid, that was never brought up. What people sometimes don't understand, abusers (both men and woman, whether its physical, controlling, manipulative, verbal, emotional, etc) don't start out that way, they often charm their victim into a relationship, and only after they have enough of a commitment that the victim won't leave do they actually reveal who they really are and the abuse starts.