Can't get over him....

[PricklyGoo]

Originally Posted by tshowusa

After me he turned gay? Well, I went to 'the dark side'........and I'm staying there! I'm not worried at all. There were lessons to be learned for both of us....Life is good. I'm blessed. Good job, great friends and awesome family!

Once you go black....










......we don't want you back.

[signora]

Originally Posted by tshowusa

It's been almost a year now and I can't get over this one guy. We dated for about two years. We connected emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Things were great and then I started getting cold feet about it all ~ I had been married before and was scared to get that involved again.

I wasn't even looking for someone when we met and he was different from anyone else I had ever dated. He was the 'father' type from the beginning and I knew it, I could just feel it. I knew he would be a great dad. He was such a caring man. Well....long story short. I miss him so much even still. It's so hard for me to date. I've tried...I compare them to him, I call them his name. It's the strangest thing. I don't think I ever loved the way I did with him. I just broke up with another boyfriend because I'm just not ready to totally move on. It's not fair to the men I'm dating. It's so difficult because I look back and see where I could have done things differently but more than anything....I want to be able to move on with my life. Does that require moving out of the area or what? any advice ?
thanks

A lot of people have regrets for things they did or should have done differently but you can't keep dwelling on it because in the end it's only going to keep causing problems in any relationship you have. Even though now you think this guy was great, something did stop you from wanting more with him.
It doesn't sound like either of you chose to keep any contact w/each other or have made contact w/each other so could be a sign he has moved on w/his life, while you keep obsessing over him.

But I think the only way you are going to solve your own problems is to contact him and see where he stands. It can either have a positive or negative outcome. If negative then you need to put closure on the past and move on w/your life. I think when a relationship ends in many ways it ended for a reason - so maybe it was just meant to be.

[sweetpea]

Originally Posted by unixpirate

Your invite is in the mail

ty

[Queenofdenile1]

Originally Posted by signora

A lot of people have regrets for things they did or should have done differently but you can't keep dwelling on it because in the end it's only going to keep causing problems in any relationship you have. Even though now you think this guy was great, something did stop you from wanting more with him.
It doesn't sound like either of you chose to keep any contact w/each other or have made contact w/each other so could be a sign he has moved on w/his life, while you keep obsessing over him.

But I think the only way you are going to solve your own problems is to contact him and see where he stands. It can either have a positive or negative outcome. If negative then you need to put closure on the past and move on w/your life. I think when a relationship ends in many ways it ended for a reason - so maybe it was just meant to be.

I believe that too, but this is different. She isn't telling the whole story. I wouldn't keep in contact with someone who dumped me because they had FROSTBITE and who hasn't bothered to try and contact me. She has three choices...Get over it, call him and talk to him or MOVE.

[unixpirate]

Originally Posted by sweetpea

ty

Can you taste the Wrangler jeans in that yellow mus - tard



I never forget good friends..

[AndyMarquisLIVE (Premo)]

Originally Posted by huntr1

Go to the Bridge and give the divers something to do.

[AndyMarquisLIVE (Premo)]

Originally Posted by tshowusa

It's been almost a year now and I can't get over this one guy. We dated for about two years. We connected emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Things were great and then I started getting cold feet about it all ~ I had been married before and was scared to get that involved again.

I wasn't even looking for someone when we met and he was different from anyone else I had ever dated. He was the 'father' type from the beginning and I knew it, I could just feel it. I knew he would be a great dad. He was such a caring man. Well....long story short. I miss him so much even still. It's so hard for me to date. I've tried...I compare them to him, I call them his name. It's the strangest thing. I don't think I ever loved the way I did with him. I just broke up with another boyfriend because I'm just not ready to totally move on. It's not fair to the men I'm dating. It's so difficult because I look back and see where I could have done things differently but more than anything....I want to be able to move on with my life. Does that require moving out of the area or what? any advice ?
thanks

Caitlin? Is that you?

[AndyMarquisLIVE (Premo)]

Originally Posted by bcp

HOLY CRAP!!!

I know the guy you are talking about.
I just figured it out.

do you realize that after you he turned gay?

I dont think you want him back

Originally Posted by tshowusa

After me he turned gay? Well, I went to 'the dark side'........and I'm staying there! I'm not worried at all. There were lessons to be learned for both of us....Life is good. I'm blessed. Good job, great friends and awesome family!

And she bit the bait!!!

[sweetpea]

Originally Posted by unixpirate

Can you taste the Wrangler jeans in that yellow mus - tard

Why'd ya have to ruin it?

[signora]

Originally Posted by Queenofdenile1

I believe that too, but this is different. She isn't telling the whole story. I wouldn't keep in contact with someone who dumped me because they had FROSTBITE and who hasn't bothered to try and contact me. She has three choices...Get over it, call him and talk to him or MOVE.

I agree - there are (3) sides to every story (his, hers and the truth). As for keeping in contact w/people you were involved with everybody is different in how they handle things. It doesn't mean you forgive the person for what they did, but sometimes it's better to be civil then enemies. Like I feel when someone choses to hurt someone else, their day will come. Moving will not solve the problem.