The long-distance relationship.

[Beelzebaby666]

I've never seen anything on the forums about this. Tonight's phone call from the BF was difficult and made me wonder about how distance stresses and helps you get to know a person without the flood of sexual tensions and smothering that might come from dating someone who lives in the same town.

[Beelzebaby666]

That's what I've heard. Have you ever been in one? But I know a few folks who have one partner working OTR and they've lasted years. We met when he was here over a year ago and after one bump in the road have been doing really well since June

I just hate it when he calls me and tells me something is wrong and I'm not there for him. A tree fell on his 73 year old father today and he just happened to arrive there to store his Harley for the winter a few hours later. He's upset, and now I'm upset. His dad is lucky Kenny showed up.

This is pretty tough, but I love him a lot.:fingerscrossed:

[Kerad (Premo)]

How far away...and for how long?


I've got some experiences in the extreme long distance relationships.


I mean...

[Beelzebaby666]

Originally Posted by Kerad

How far away...and for how long?


I've got some experiences in the extreme long distance relationships.


I mean...

Protective orders do not count Lovebug

[Beelzebaby666]

But seriously, he was here for a year and he has 5 months in Michigan, two in PA and who knows after that.

The plan is to keep this job for about 15 more years. He makes great money with great benefits. My kids will both be 18 before then, and I would love to live on the road. Afterwards, he lives in WV and that's where I want to live, so it's perfect in the long term.

If only I could get him to rollerskate

[Kerad (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

Protective orders do not count Lovebug

That's what I get for trying to be helpful?




It'll never work. You're doomed. And the Poconos suck , too. Polar Bears eat bad skiiers.

[Beelzebaby666]

[Kerad (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

But seriously, he was here for a year and he has 5 months in Michigan, two in PA and who knows after that.

The plan is to keep this job for about 15 more years. He makes great money with great benefits. My kids will both be 18 before then, and I would love to live on the road. Afterwards, he lives in WV and that's where I want to live, so it's perfect in the long term.

If only I could get him to rollerskate

So your "here" is Southern Maryland...where you are, now. And now he's in Michigan until...???

I'm guessing this question was geared to those who know you and your situation.



For what it's worth, you're willing to travel. And if you have a set plan as to when you can get together...and it's not "too" far down the road, I think you can work it.

Alot of things I don't know, but I DO think with a set timetable, along with good visits and solid communication until then, I think you can be okay.







Unless a Polar Bear eats you first.

[Beelzebaby666]

Originally Posted by Kerad

So your "here" is Southern Maryland...where you are, now. And now he's in Michigan until...???

I'm guessing this question was geared to those who know you and your situation.



For what it's worth, you're willing to travel. And if you have a set plan as to when you can get together...and it's not "too" far down the road, I think you can work it.

Alot of things I don't know, but I DO think with a set timetable, along with good visits and solid communication until then, I think you can be okay.



Unless a Polar Bear eats you first.

I'm in St Mary's and he'll be in MI 'til the end of the month. PA 'til Christmas and he's supposed to be back here to build a new tank at the beginning of 2010.


There's not really a question, per se. I just noticed there was no thread devoted to long distance relationships in here. I figured with this being a military town and there always being people coming and going, it was relative to the board.

We make time to visit and sooner or later things will progress further, if ti's meant to.


Polar bears don't like me BTW, witches taste like absinthe and smoke

[Kerad (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

I'm in St Mary's and he'll be in MI 'til the end of the month. PA 'til Christmas and he's supposed to be back here to build a new tank at the beginning of 2010.


There's not really a question, per se. I just noticed there was no thread devoted to long distance relationships in here. I figured with this being a military town and there always being people coming and going, it was relative to the board.

We make time to visit and sooner or later things will progress further, if ti's meant to.


Polar bears don't like me BTW, witches taste like absinthe and smoke

I dated a witch. She tasted like smoke and whiskey.

Anyways....


I've been in many "long distance realtionships", due to my time in the Air Force. And none of them really worked out...as far as "happily ever after" or that kind of stuff.

Though, my long distances were from the US to Germany,, or more extremely the US to Australia. That US to Australia...that's as far as you can get.

Never had a chance. Though we've been friends for years...which is worth everything.



I think...just me, thinking out loud...you have a shelf life of getting together on a daily basis. Because, sooner or later, both you and he will start to look for someone who you can hang out with, consistently. Regularly. And eventually that will lead to more.

I think you can make it work for a bit, with a clear plan. But if you go longer...and more ambiguously, with no dates but a "sooner or later" thing...it may be tough.

But like said....what do I know? I'm a big dummy.