Help!!!!!

Originally Posted by 4d2008

I must be stupid I dont know who that was? or are you just saying it was an obvious MPD but who it was is a

I just think its B.S. if your S.O. is doing something that upsets you and if you confront them on this and they still dont care that it hurts then eff em. seriously. its just not worth it some times. I can understand if its something stupid but from what I gathered from this thread it was something a little more serious and the guy didnt give a damn so that should say something.

I have no idea who it is/was... but usually when people come out with sob stories like that and they're got less than 20 posts under their belt they're simply trying to make a cover story for an MPD... which is why no one takes them seriously and gives them crappy replies.

If I thought for a minute this wasn't an MPD, I'd have given serious advice like talking to their friend non-confrontationally and just plant the seed that you know something's up and you're asking them to cut the crap. If the husband is truly being a dink and flirting/dinking around, then he needs to have his ass handed to him too, but more than likely the husband is reacting to the wife who got really upset, and is probably just making it more than it is because he likes the idea of his wife being jealous, because it's a screwed up way to make him think she cares.

[bcp (Premo)]

Originally Posted by AmandaHugNKiss

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

lose weight, buy a pretty dress, lose the attitude.

it will all work out for the best.
after all that, if he moves on you should be able to pick up another guy pretty quick.
if he sticks around, wait till you are sure that the "friend" is out of the picture, then celebrate with a 30lb tub of Ben and Jerrys double chocolate protien chunk ice cream.

[tygrace]

Originally Posted by nachomama

You sent your husband an email?

What did it say?

"Hey hun, I was thinking about making some steaks on the grill tonight - how does that sound? Oh by the way, are you banging LaShonda? My sis saw some not so cool stuff on your myspace and now everyone's talking about it.

See you at home. I love you!"

Now that is funny!!
Thank you Nacho, I truly needed that laugh!!

[tygrace]

Originally Posted by bcp

lose weight, buy a pretty dress, lose the attitude.

it will all work out for the best.
after all that, if he moves on you should be able to pick up another guy pretty quick.
if he sticks around, wait till you are sure that the "friend" is out of the picture, then celebrate with a 30lb tub of Ben and Jerrys double chocolate protien chunk ice cream.

I love this answer!!!

[FromTexas]

Originally Posted by AmandaHugNKiss

ok trying to make a long story short.

I have suspected my husband of having a "thing" for my/our friend who is married w/ kids too... I know him I know when he is flirting and she is too.

Well my sister hadnt checked hers myspace in a month or so and went on yesterday went to his page and noticed that my husband and my "friend" have been chatting a lot back n forth via myspace... to the point she thought it was a little innapropriate (one example my husband is very anal about his music collection and wouldn't even let my sister borrow any of it...) so there was comments on there that my "friend" said "you never offered to let me use your cd's" and he responded "you never asked"

plus last wednesday he and i got into a HUGE fight. and the next day... rather than being concerned w/ me... he is asking why she wasnt at the gym wed night

I confronted him by sending him an email... then we got into at home... I told him it was innapropriate etc and he said if it was something innapropritate i would have moved it to private messages... adn I said so that is why you changed you password then you have something to hide from me.

I know it seems pshyco of me to think that I should send an email to her and cc him ... but i shouldnt just be upset w/ him she is my friend and shouldnt be doing that... she should flirt w/ her own damn husband.

what should i say?

Originally Posted by kris31280

I have no idea who it is/was... but usually when people come out with sob stories like that and they're got less than 20 posts under their belt they're simply trying to make a cover story for an MPD... which is why no one takes them seriously and gives them crappy replies.

[Black-Francis]

Mandora!!!!

[Rosehaven]

(1) This is a relationship that requires more than email.
(2) If we can't solve difference by actually talking to eachother then I am willing to show you the door.
(3) It's not the other person. It's you and me. And it's your call because now I've been very clear as to where I stand.

And be ready for this loser to walk out.

[kom526]

She needs to bangbang more often with an occasional *ahem* thrown in.
Oh and talk face to face without interruption from kids, myspace (who uses ms anyway) or FB status alerts.

[craberta]

Tell your husband that if he screws around on you, your not going to say anything to him. He will know that you know when he discovers one arm cut off all of his shirts and jackets, one pant leg cut off all of his pants, the crotch cut out of all of his underwear, the end of all of his sox removed, a needle will be run across every cd he owns, his toothbrush will clean the toilet, all shoelaces will disappear, and tell him your friend has that incurable gonorhea she got in Baltimore.

[FaP]

I think you should just invite your said friend over and lay in bed with her before your husband gets home from work or whatever and surprise him. That way you're getting some too and so is this girl he is flirting with. 3 somes!