Fate and Your SO

[Cowgirl]

A conversation with my coworker (about how it's easier to meet people if you go out and do things on your own) got me thinking about how I met hubby (D). We met at a bar () and I was there with my male roommate. My male roommate got up to go play pool, and I stayed at the bar by myself. D's dorky friend tried to talk to me, then D sat down to talk to me and the rest is history.

I was wondering if my roommate had stayed at the bar with me if D would have ever started talking to me. Or if I'd gotten up to play pool with roomie, would D and I have ever met?

So, how did you meet your spouse, and have you ever thought how a teeny, seemingly-insignificant detail could have changed things? Do you think you'd have met your SO another way? Is it truly fate? Coincidence?

[mizteresa1965]

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[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Cowgirl

A conversation with my coworker (about how it's easier to meet people if you go out and do things on your own) got me thinking about how I met hubby (D). We met at a bar () and I was there with my male roommate. My male roommate got up to go play pool, and I stayed at the bar by myself. D's dorky friend tried to talk to me, then D sat down to talk to me and the rest is history.

I was wondering if my roommate had stayed at the bar with me if D would have ever started talking to me. Or if I'd gotten up to play pool with roomie, would D and I have ever met?

So, how did you meet your spouse, and have you ever thought how a teeny, seemingly-insignificant detail could have changed things? Do you think you'd have met your SO another way? Is it truly fate? Coincidence?

It was a dark stormy night and I was hanging out at my favorite bar in Maine. I decided I had not suffered enough misery and angst in my life and I was just too damn happy. I struck up a conversation with a woman who was introduced to me by a mutual acquaintance and decided if I was going to get the proper level of misery, anger and overwhelming regret she was the woman who could provide it. 10 months later we got married and my dream had come true. She did not disappoint because little did I know she was the Olympic Gold Medalist in the 1988 summer games in the 400 meter freestyle misery. Now after we were married and I was sufficiently miserable, adrift in a sea of despair I got drunk and climbed to the top of the super structure of a local drawbridge and was contemplating flinging myself into the icy water and ending it all a magic talking pigeon with a pink mohawk landed on a cross member and said "Don't do it, just divorce the biatch! Oh by the way, I knew she was an insufferable loser, if you had asked me I would have told you."

So see if I had met that magic talking pigeon with the pink mowhawk FIRST I would not have gotten married.

[SoccerMom2]

Originally Posted by Cowgirl

A conversation with my coworker (about how it's easier to meet people if you go out and do things on your own) got me thinking about how I met hubby (D). We met at a bar () and I was there with my male roommate. My male roommate got up to go play pool, and I stayed at the bar by myself. D's dorky friend tried to talk to me, then D sat down to talk to me and the rest is history.

I was wondering if my roommate had stayed at the bar with me if D would have ever started talking to me. Or if I'd gotten up to play pool with roomie, would D and I have ever met?

So, how did you meet your spouse, and have you ever thought how a teeny, seemingly-insignificant detail could have changed things? Do you think you'd have met your SO another way? Is it truly fate? Coincidence?

I met my Hubby in 200. He doesn't remember he was way to drunk...lol! In 2003 we met through a friend. He was in the navy and always out to sea so i didn't see him again until the day after St. Pattys day in 2004. I was like we met before. You were friends with so and so. He didn't remember. Two days later he asked me out. 6 weeks later we were living together. Well by week 8 i told him he was going to marry me and he did on September 26 2004. We are celebrating our 5 year anniversary this year. We have been through more crap in 5 years then people in their life time. We fight but at the end of the day we are each other soul mates.

[RoseRed (Premo)]

Originally Posted by SoccerMom2

I met my Hubby in 2001 he doesn't remember he was way to drunk...lol! In 2003 we met through a friend. He was in the navy and always was out to sea so i didn't see him again until the day after St. Pattys day in 2004. I was like we met before. You were friend with so and so. he didn't remember. Two days later he asked me out. 6 weeks later we were leaving together. Well by week 8 i told him he was going to marry me and he did on September 26 2004. We are celebrating our 5 year anniversary this year. We have been through more crap in 5 years then people in their life time. We fight but at the end of the day we are each other soul mates.

Where did you two go?

[baileydog]

If mine had just made the green light at the corner of Chancellors and 235, we probably wouldnt be together.

[vraiblonde]

I think about stuff like that sometimes. One little incident does or doesn't happen, and suddenly my life is very different.

Had my ex-husband not gotten a speeding ticket 27 years ago, there would be no Somd.com.

He got the speeding ticket.
His folks wouldn't let him drive their car.
Instead of going out, we stayed home and created our son.
Got married.
Moved to MD, by way of several duty stations.
Divorced.
I needed to figure out a way to make more money to support my kids.
Southern Maryland Online was born.

No speeding ticket, I'd have probably stayed in NE and never met David, never met and married Larry.

Or maybe I'd have met someone at UNL and we'd have moved to Paris. Or I'd have joined the Peace Corps and gotten killed in a third-world civil war.

Weird to think about.

[SoccerMom2]

Originally Posted by RoseRed

Where did you two go?

On our first date or anniversary?

[Nickel]

My mom met D at a NYE party at Christy's house and they (my mom and Christy) decided we (D and I) should go out. Under normal circumstances I would never agree to a blind date, and definitely wouldn't agree to go out with someone my mom picked out (the horror ). I knew that they'd mentioned it to him, so when Christy asked if she could give him my number I said yes because I didn't want to seem rude. We went out and clicked instantly. I'm glad I took a chance when I otherwise wouldn't have.

[DoWhat]

Originally Posted by SoccerMom2

On our first date or anniversary?

Go and re-read your post.