Say a prayer for hubby

[Pasofever (Premo)]

Originally Posted by KAT20619

Paso, you need to cut yourself some slack...reschedule some of these dogs. Whether you realize it or not you must take care of yourself if your to continue to take care of you husband and mother. This is the time to take all the help you can get and allow yourself as much rest and relaxation as possible. I went down a similar road many years ago and I can tell you it's gonna be a long slow haul and your gonna need every ounce of strength you can get. I am very familiar with closed head injuries, pm my if you like. I don't want to discourage you but I also would hate to hold out false hope....just take it one day at a time, sometimes that will have to be five minutes at a time, but you can do it. You have many friends to help you and lend you strength. BIG HUGS

I did all my dogs .....the night went smoothly even with 2 full coated chows...anyway got so wound up I ended up in the jacuzzi and taking a benedryl at 2 am so I could sleep...and before I worked I was tired as shiat...

I have no false hope...I think he will be a window licker at best..he may suprise me...I am sure if he knew what was going on if he could make it harder on me he would..he always told me when mom was gone I was going to be taking care of him and he was going to be more vocal then mom and demanding...I am sure he will keep his promise..At times he was great others he was horrible...drugs and always in pain and high blood sugar make for a very irritable person..

Mom is great she is easy to get along with and causes NO problems at all..

[belvak (Premo)]

Here's another to help you through the day.

I wish to God I could hug you in person. I am so sorry for all your hurt and turmoil. God knows if I could I would take it all away. God bless you and hang in there, you are doing a great job. You are one hell of a woman!

[Nanny Pam (Premo)]

[KAT20619]

Originally Posted by Pasofever

I did all my dogs .....the night went smoothly even with 2 full coated chows...anyway got so wound up I ended up in the jacuzzi and taking a benedryl at 2 am so I could sleep...and before I worked I was tired as shiat...

I have no false hope...I think he will be a window licker at best..he may suprise me...I am sure if he knew what was going on if he could make it harder on me he would..he always told me when mom was gone I was going to be taking care of him and he was going to be more vocal then mom and demanding...I am sure he will keep his promise..At times he was great others he was horrible...drugs and always in pain and high blood sugar make for a very irritable person..

Mom is great she is easy to get along with and causes NO problems at all..

Paso.....If he does not come out of this to some reasonable degree they you will probably need to put him in a long term care facility. As you have said your house is in his fathers name there should be no problem in getting maryland medicaid to help. They only count his assets and not knowing for sure but with the drugs and other problems I am aware of, I do believe the state would pick up the tab. There are just some that can not and should not be cared for at home. From what you have described he falls into that catagory. Don't even try to take that on yourself or you will be six feet under long before he is. You deserve a life to and just because he has said these things to you does not mean they will come true. There are many in his condition in local nursing homes...if he is not recognizing you or being responsive you may want to consider your options. I pray for you, you deserve to be happy. Big Hugs

[Pasofever (Premo)]

Thanks I said to his father that two would be hard to take care of ..he said mom will not be forever and then I should be able to handle Bill....he has a discharge date of Aug 2 from the rehab..not sure then how long his insurance will pay for something like St Marys ...We will see...Time will tell...

[Dougstermd (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Pasofever

Yeah but last time she asked for that bull whip..I am thinking with volunteers not paid personnel we should not let her use the bull whip


Headed to the hosp they are talking about releasing Bill to the rehab...

well the wip might be fun after the work is done

[KAT20619]

Originally Posted by Pasofever

Thanks I said to his father that two would be hard to take care of ..he said mom will not be forever and then I should be able to handle Bill....he has a discharge date of Aug 2 from the rehab..not sure then how long his insurance will pay for something like St Marys ...We will see...Time will tell...

Forget what his father says....this is your life we are talking about. You are one person and doing the best you can. When his insurance runs out the social worker at the NH will most likely walk you thru the necessary steps to get him on medicaid. Let it happen. I to have an elderly mother and would put her care ahead of any man I have ever known and when the time comes to let her go you will hurt enough, you don't need the added burden of this man on your shoulders. Da*n it S. for once in your life think of yourself.

[Dougstermd (Premo)]

this fread gets harder and harder to read every time.
Hey paso:hugs:

[red_explorer]

Originally Posted by Dougstermd

this fread gets harder and harder to read every time.
Hey paso:hugs:

I totally agree.