Crying it out

[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

I hope K_Jo sees this thread and learns from our mistake.

When Boy was a baby and I was a rookie single dad that part was the worst. I would put him to bed and then sit on the stairs waiting for him to stop. It was torture but we got through it is a couple weeks.

[Speedy70]

Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.

Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by K_Jo

We're going to have our kid's barker removed.

[Bronwyn]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Just wondering what other parents think of this? If you are for it, at what age do you think is appropriate?

If you are against it, why?

I'm not asking to start a debate, I just want honest opinions.

When my children cried, I just checked the basics... diaper? Hungry? Anything else obvious? No? let them cry for a little bit.

[Speedy70]

Oh, and we're also still swaddling him at night. Monday night we tried to "de-swaddle". Another disaster.

We're going to attempt again Friday night.

[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.

Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

Because screaming works

[cattitude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.

Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

Let him scream. Check on him, make sure he's not choking, etc. But LET HIM SCREAM. I know it's horrible but if you don't, you are going to want to kill yourself when he's two and ruling the roost.

I'm not trying to be mean. My offer still stands as it did early on. If you can't stand to hear him scream, call me, I'll come over and you can go sit outside and I'll make sure he's fine. It may take a week or so, but I guarantee you, you will win.

[lovinmaryland]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.

Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

Do you use a pacifier/binky?

I let all my kids cry for a few minutes and then check on them but normally did not pick them up and cuddle them I popped the pacifier back in and that cured them

4 months in not to early to start teething so keep that in mind. Maybe a small amount of tylenol before bedtime may help.

[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Oh, and we're also still swaddling him at night. Monday night we tried to "de-swaddle". Another disaster.

We're going to attempt again Friday night.

Yup, you have created a monster. Wrapped around his teeny finger.

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Let him scream. Check on him, make sure he's not choking, etc. But LET HIM SCREAM. I know it's horrible but if you don't, you are going to want to kill yourself when he's two and ruling the roost.

I'm not trying to be mean. My offer still stands as it did early on. If you can't stand to hear him scream, call me, I'll come over and you can go sit outside and I'll make sure he's fine. It may take a week or so, but I guarantee you, you will win.

Thanks. But I may have to call Vrai instead. I don't smoke, but I may need a cigarette.