Crying it out

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by Pete

Yup, you have created a monster. Wrapped around his teeny finger.

But he's a cute monster!

[lovinmaryland]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Let him scream. Check on him, make sure he's not choking, etc. But LET HIM SCREAM. I know it's horrible but if you don't, you are going to want to kill yourself when he's two and ruling the roost.

I'm not trying to be mean. My offer still stands as it did early on. If you can't stand to hear him scream, call me, I'll come over and you can go sit outside and I'll make sure he's fine. It may take a week or so, but I guarantee you, you will win.

She is 100% correct :

Believe me my sister did not let her child cry it out... he is almost 3 and he still will not fall asleep on his own. She lived with me for a few months and I'll tell you those were the worst months ever

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by lovinmaryland

Do you use a pacifier/binky?

I let all my kids cry for a few minutes and then check on them but normally did not pick them up and cuddle them I popped the pacifier back in and that cured them

4 months in not to early to start teething so keep that in mind. Maybe a small amount of tylenol before bedtime may help.

We've used a pacifier since day 2 (in the hospital). The paci usually works during the night, but when he gets crying he spits the paci out and wants nothing to do with it.

He's been drooling for weeks and loves to chew on his hands. I do believe he's teething, but he doesn't seem to be uncomfortable from it - yet.

[cattitude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Thanks. But I may have to call Vrai instead. I don't smoke, but I may need a cigarette.

Ah, yes...but I have vodka.

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Ah, yes...but I have vodka.

Hmmm a cigarette AND vodka may be the answer.

[workin hard]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.

Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

Maybe don't pick him up when you go in there. Let him see that your there, fix his blanket, give him his binky and make sure all of the regular stuff is ok (diaper,etc) and then walk out. I put a radio in my baby's room and so far he loves it. Plus it helps block out the noise that is going on in the house too.

[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

But he's a cute monster!

Try this: It is a fact babies cannot cry if their foreheads are not all wrinkled up. If he starts crying just unwrinkle his forehead and he will stop.

[lovinmaryland]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

We've used a pacifier since day 2 (in the hospital). The paci usually works during the night, but when he gets crying he spits the paci out and wants nothing to do with it.

He's been drooling for weeks and loves to chew on his hands. I do believe he's teething, but he doesn't seem to be uncomfortable from it - yet.

Sounds like he is teething
I'd get some baby ambesol and give him tylenol before bed JMO

[Cowgirl]

Ok, well, I don't know anything about babies, because I've never had one...

BUT.....my sis has had 2 little ones, and I thought she mentioned the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age.

[Pete (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Cowgirl

Ok, well, I don't know anything about babies, because I've never had one...

BUT.....my sis has had 2 little ones, and I thought she mentioned the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age.

I didn't discover self-soothing until around 14.