Crying it out

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by Cowgirl

Ok, well, I don't know anything about babies, because I've never had one...

BUT.....my sis has had 2 little ones, and I thought she mentioned the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age.

A lot of "specialists" say not to start CIO until 4-6 months. Supposedly before that age they are learning to trust you.

[cattitude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

A lot of "specialists" say not to start CIO until 4-6 months. Supposedly before that age they are learning to trust you.

That's all fine and good but they don't live with the babies.

What does your mom say? I'd listen to her more than I'd read about what the experts say or aren't you happy with how you turned out?

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by cattitude

That's all fine and good but they don't live with the babies.

What does your mom say? I'd listen to her more than I'd read about what the experts say or aren't you happy with how you turned out?

Ahhh, don't get me started on what my mom says. She's all for him crying. However, whenever she's holding him and he starts crying, she immediately hands him to me.

She is getting on me everyday to feed him cereal. She's been doing this for at least a month. She showed me my baby book and I was fed cereal with a spoon at two weeks old!

[lovinmaryland]

Originally Posted by Cowgirl

the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age.

I have 4 and let them all CIO before 6 months, I guess it depends on the situation.

I look at it this way if nothing you are doing is soothing them then rather than get frustrated yourself lay them in the crib where they are safe and go in the other room for a few minutes then go back.

[Cowgirl]

Originally Posted by Pete

I didn't discover self-soothing until around 14.

[vraiblonde]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

She is getting on me everyday to feed him cereal.

Mom may be onto something. Dougie was 2 weeks old and would cry his head off. If I didn't put him down and walk outside, I'd have thrown him out the window (of course, now I don't even hear babies crying because I'm used to teenagers shouting at each other ).

Anyway, my Mom came to visit and gave him a bit of cereal in his formula - he corked right off and slept for a miraculous 5 hours.

[cattitude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

Ahhh, don't get me started on what my mom says. She's all for him crying. However, whenever she's holding him and he starts crying, she immediately hands him to me.

She is getting on me everyday to feed him cereal. She's been doing this for at least a month. She showed me my baby book and I was fed cereal with a spoon at two weeks old!

Exactly. Everyone used to feed babies cereal earlier years ago...guess what, you didn't die, did you? Are you fat?

I still think he's just working you. He may be drooling but they all do that. Mine "teethed" for 4 months, both cut their first teeth around 8 months. The longer you put off letting him cry, the worse it will be. Right now you can control the situation. Once he's up and around, forget it. And then he'll fling himself on the ground and act like an ass.

[lovinmaryland]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Once he's up and around, forget it. And then he'll fling himself on the ground and act like an ass.

Sounds a lot like

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Exactly. Everyone used to feed babies cereal earlier years ago...guess what, you didn't die, did you? Are you fat?

I still think he's just working you. He may be drooling but they all do that. Mine "teethed" for 4 months, both cut their first teeth around 8 months. The longer you put off letting him cry, the worse it will be. Right now you can control the situation. Once he's up and around, forget it. And then he'll fling himself on the ground and act like an ass.

Now they say cereal before 6 months can lead to allergies. I'm sure we'll be starting it soon. As long as the pedi okays it.

I don't want an ass for a son.

[Tootaloo]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

It was horrible for both of us.

He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.

I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.

We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.

I have four kids...their reaction to bedtime was different with each of them. We established a routine. I would read two or three books, even as little guys, put on lullabyes and nurse them. Generally they were asleep when I laid them down until they were at least 10 months...and then I'd lay them down and leave. If they cried, I'd let them cry for 5 to 10 minutes and go in and turn the tape over. Lay them back down and leave. If I was certain they were tired and not sick, I'd just keep going in, reassuring them and leave. It did not take long for the routine to establish itself.

But, babies don't mature on a time line. Their idea of permanence isn't all that put together at 4 months. If your baby isn't catching on, he may not yet understand that when he can't see you, that you are still there. Maybe you should give a bit longer and try again to let him cry it out. I'd rather error on the side of caution, if it were me.