Crying it out

[cattitude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

He's getting a Fisher Price Jumperoo for Christmas. I got him an exersaucer, but he's still too small for it.

Nah..this is a thing they can sit down in and hang from a doorway. It's a miracle toy.

He'll fit in the exersaucer...just put some blankets or towels around him to prop him up..get creative girl!!

[thenewgirl]

I have three kids, ages 5 and under, and this is what I think:

First off, we do not CIO with our kids. I definately do not think that you HAVE to let them scream. I also really really disagree with the opinion that your baby is trying to manipulate you. It's a baby, not an evil genius. Their little minds are just not capable for manipulation yet, IMO. The only tool they have is crying when it comes to having needs met, kwim? I personally don't feel as though there needs to be an "us against them" mentality. Now, with my first kid, I thought CIO was cruel and awful. I have mellowed a ton since then and fallen off many a high horse. Never say you'll never do anything once you have kids. I just didn't put "sleeping through the night" at the top of my priority list for my kids. They are all different, too. My youngest is almost 6 months old and practically there. My middle was closer to 2. My first was somewhere between that. So my worst case scenerio was 2 years. And you know what? 2 years just isn't that long in the grand scheme of things. This is what I truly believe: Some kids are bottle fed, some are breast fed. Some CIO, some cosleep, some fall somewhere between the two. Some kids have moms that work, some have working moms. Whatever. When they are 6 years old they'll all just be a bunch of 1st graders. No one will be able to tell who slept through the night first or who was breastfed or blahblahblah. So, if sleeping through the night is your top priority and if you feel comfortable doing CIO, go for it. The kid will be fine and there's nothing in the world for you to feel guilty about. If you aren't comfortable with it, then don't do it. Period. Because whoever said it is right, mom knows best. And that's you.

[Chasey_Lane]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Nah..this is a thing they can sit down in and hang from a doorway. It's a miracle toy.

Girl had one, but she didn't like it too much. After a few minutes she'd be bored with it. Now she loved her swing!! I had the ghetto crank version; not even the battery one.

[wombat]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

He's getting a Fisher Price Jumperoo for Christmas. I got him an exersaucer, but he's still too small for it.

I have both an exersaucer and the Jump A Roo for my 7 mnth old son. He likes the exersaucer and LOVES the Jump A Roo !!! The Johnny Jump Up isn't as sturdy as the Jump A Roo. He goes crazy in it and will bounce for 1.5 hours. He wears himslef out in it and naps like a rock. It's also easy to transport if you go away for a few days too. When I decided not to swaddlemy son any more I just made the swaddle looser and looser until all I had to do was put a light blanket over him. He fussed for about a week, then it was over it. CIO didn't work for us at all. My son screamed and became so upset he vomited multiple times. After the second night of it we stopped. We also tried PU/PD, that didn't work either. I had the same reaction as you did with your son. What I started doing was patting/rubbing his back and shushing him. It worked. Now I can put him in his crib drowsy, or even awake, and he'll babble or chew on his pacifier til he falls asleep. We a have a routine. He has a bath the same time every night. With in a week or two we had the rest of our day on a routine as well, give or take an hour or so. Like everyone has said, you know your baby best. If you think CIO is what will work, then go for it. If not, go to plan B.

[Nickel]

Originally Posted by Chasey_Lane

I had the ghetto crank version; not even the battery one.

J was a swing kid too, he loooooved that thing.

[nicole_M]

Originally Posted by Nickel

J was a swing kid too, he loooooved that thing.

My twins were, too....Those swings were a lifesaver

Speedy, I agree with the majority about letting him cry a little bit...They have to learn how to self soothe. Does he have a favorite blankie or something he is really attached to that can comfort him?

I learned alot from my first son...and used it for the 2nd/3rd time around to make life a little easier with our twins. It's all a learning experience and we can give all the advice in the world, but you know him best and you both will figure it out.

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by OldHillcrestGuy

Speedy has the babys Daddy left work yet, it's smowing like crazy here everything is covered.

He left around 6:30, I think. He was supposed to leave at 5.

[Speedy70]

Originally Posted by cattitude

Nah..this is a thing they can sit down in and hang from a doorway. It's a miracle toy.

He'll fit in the exersaucer...just put some blankets or towels around him to prop him up..get creative girl!!

He can jump in the jumperoo too.

I have a pillow at the bottom of the exersaucer so his feet can touch bottom, but he hasn't quite figured out how to coordinate his hands to play with the toys yet. I'm working with him though.

[Bann (Premo)]

Originally Posted by thenewgirl

I have three kids, ages 5 and under, and this is what I think:

First off, we do not CIO with our kids. I definately do not think that you HAVE to let them scream. I also really really disagree with the opinion that your baby is trying to manipulate you. It's a baby, not an evil genius. Their little minds are just not capable for manipulation yet, IMO. The only tool they have is crying when it comes to having needs met, kwim? I personally don't feel as though there needs to be an "us against them" mentality. .

Yes of course, a baby can only cry to indicate it's wants & needs. But if baby's crying changes suddenly & dramatically and you know baby is not wet, soiled, hungry, or has any other problem besides being put down in the crib & being left alone, and baby gets picked up & cuddled & cooed every time it cries like this -baby will be conditioned into realizing that if baby cries dramatically someone will pick baby back up. (and cuddle & coo with baby) This can quickly turn into "working it" or manipulation and is not indicative of evil...genius or othewise. It's human nature.

And yes - all babies are different, so of course, your mileage may vary.

[Cowgirl]

Originally Posted by Speedy70

He can jump in the jumperoo too.

I have a pillow at the bottom of the exersaucer so his feet can touch bottom, but he hasn't quite figured out how to coordinate his hands to play with the toys yet. I'm working with him though.

My nephew just learned how to grab his junk during diaper change time. I'm such a proud aunt.