Four kids, two parents...

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

I think people who have a strong network of close friends don't feel the need for a parent as much. Or maybe they develop good friends because they need that support. Chicken and egg, but that seems to be a common theme with those who lament their lack of parenting and those who don't.

...point because they, and you, have lots of good friends. I just have my guitars, guns and beer. And big screen.

Hmmm...gonna have to reflect on that one...hmmm....

[camily (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

...has a mom. Her mom isn't perfect either, but is a positive part of her life. What she is saying is adults don't look to to their parents anymore because they are now adults themselves.

I was being facetious.

[camily (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

...point because they, and you, have lots of good friends. I just have my guitars, guns and beer. And big screen.

Hmmm...gonna have to reflect on that one...hmmm....

Isn't that a Dwight Yoakam song?

[toppick08 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by camily

Isn't that a Dwight Yoakam song?

[camily (Premo)]

Originally Posted by toppick08

That's the one!

[Chain729 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

My sibs and I are two pairs; the older two and the younger two.

To this day, us older two still expect our parents to, suddenly, and for the first time in their lives, be our parents, or, our idea of parents anyway. We still get disappointed. We still get our feelings hurt. We still want what we long know just isn't there.

The younger two don't expect a damn thing from them, never get hurt or even annoyed with them and accept them 100% for who they are. No problem whatsoever.

I asked my brother why this is and he said because we're losers.



It CAN'T be THAT simple!?

IMO, not saying I'm right though, but it appears kinda obvious: The older WERE the parents. Let me guess, your parents in your eyes weren't there for you growing up and the older two ended up taking care of the younger two? So, the older two had nothing but themselves, whereas the younger two had the older two to depend on. The younger ones never missed "having parents" because their older sibling were always right there for them.

[camily (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Chain729

IMO, not saying I'm right though, but it appears kinda obvious: The older WERE the parents. Let me guess, your parents in your eyes weren't there for you growing up and the older two ended up taking care of the younger two? So, the older two had nothing but themselves, whereas the younger two had the older two to depend on. The younger ones never missed "having parents" because their older sibling were always right there for them.

The doctor is in.

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Chain729

IMO, not saying I'm right though, but it appears kinda obvious: The older WERE the parents. Let me guess, your parents in your eyes weren't there for you growing up and the older two ended up taking care of the younger two? So, the older two had nothing but themselves, whereas the younger two had the older two to depend on. The younger ones never missed "having parents" because their older sibling were always right there for them.

...the folks split, I was 12. For a time, the older sister tried to be the mom and that went out by 13 or when dad moved on with his life and got a girlfriend and rushed her in. At that point it became everyone for their self.

No noble story of courage and resolve here.

[Chain729 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

...the folks split, I was 12. For a time, the older sister tried to be the mom and that went out by 13 or when dad moved on with his life and got a girlfriend and rushed her in. At that point it became everyone for their self.

No noble story of courage and resolve here.

Guess I was wrong on that one. I figured it might've been a similar environment to what my father and his siblings went through.

Could it be that the younger one's were just young to adapt quicker and to them that's just the way it always was?

[Chain729 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by camily

The doctor is in.

I'm just adding food for thought. I'm not one of those idgits that's going to pretend I know his life better than he does.