Four kids, two parents...

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

My sibs and I are two pairs; the older two and the younger two.

To this day, us older two still expect our parents to, suddenly, and for the first time in their lives, be our parents, or, our idea of parents anyway. We still get disappointed. We still get our feelings hurt. We still want what we long know just isn't there.

The younger two don't expect a damn thing from them, never get hurt or even annoyed with them and accept them 100% for who they are. No problem whatsoever.

I asked my brother why this is and he said because we're losers.



It CAN'T be THAT simple!?

[Beelzebaby666]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

My sibs and I are two pairs; the older two and the younger two.

To this day, us older two still expect our parents to, suddenly, and for the first time in their lives, be our parents, or, our idea of parents anyway. We still get disappointed. We still get our feelings hurt. We still want what we long know just isn't there.

The younger two don't expect a damn thing from them, never get hurt or even annoyed with them and accept them 100% for who they are. No problem whatsoever.

I asked my brother why this is and he said because we're losers.



It CAN'T be THAT simple!?

Sounds to me like your parents are the losers



My "father" tried the "daddy says so" shiat on me once, I told him he needed to rethink how he had lived his life before giving me tips on how to live mine. :whatever:

[vraiblonde]

I haven't thought about needing a Mom in a long time. I AM the Mom.

[Beelzebaby666]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

I haven't thought about needing a Mom in a long time. I AM the Mom.

Everyone needs a Mom sometimes.

Do you need a hug?

[BadGirl (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

Everyone needs a Mom sometimes.

Do you need a hug?

I could use a "Mom" hug, seeing as I haven't had one in a really, really long time.

[BadGirl (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Larry Gude

My sibs and I are two pairs; the older two and the younger two.

In our house, we had the:

1) the "older two"
2) the three "little ones"; and
3) the "baby"

[Beelzebaby666]

Originally Posted by BadGirl

I could use a "Mom" hug, seeing as I haven't had one in a really, really long time.

You got it!

[BadGirl (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

You got it!

Thanks, chicka!

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Beelzebaby666

Sounds to me like your parents are the losers

...gosh, I'm sure there are far, far worse parents in this world than mine. The thing that just got so damn interesting, out of the blue, was the clear delineation between the younger two of us and us older two. Certainly it's been there for ages, but it just came up recently. It's neat that they are so unburdened by this, so emotionally healthy about it.

My sister is dealing with cancer and she knows her mom is not going to be the one that will be strong for her; little sister will be. She knows dad will be oblivious to much of this and me and bro will be the ones who will be the eternal sunshine, that it will all be fine and joke about it.

For whatever reasons, which I want to learn, the younger two long ago gave up and are realistic and accepting. Us older two are resentful sometimes. It's
an interesting dynamic.

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

I haven't thought about needing a Mom in a long time. I AM the Mom.

...you get 'needing a mom' out of wanting parents to be parents?