What disapline tactic's work for your 2 year old?

[Larry Gude (Premo)]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

I If you see some 2 year old kid who is always quiet and respectful, who never has a fit about anything, and doesn't drive you to distraction on occasion, call CPS because that is a scary child.

...an abused or drugged child.

[libby]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

I would love to see someone who can make their child behave at all times, no screwing around, without beating the #### out of them.

Kids are loud, rowdy, they forget, they get carried away, they have very little self-control - it's just the way it is. Yes, you try and curb that sort of thing and teach them to act right, but they're still going to slip up and be knuckleheads. Especially toddlers (which is what we're talking about here).

If you see some 2 year old kid who is always quiet and respectful, who never has a fit about anything, and doesn't drive you to distraction on occasion, call CPS because that is a scary child.

At 2 years old? No, but the point I am making is many parents use the "strong-willed" label as an excuse for why they cannot ever get compliance. If mom and dad cannot control a 2y/o, then God help us all when that child grows to 6ft. tall, and parents are still the same size. By age 5 a child (and yes, I have children) should have darn good behavior out-and-about (barring factors like illness), but the training is now, while OP's child is 2.

[Pete (Premo)]

Rip the head off her stuffed animal and give her the crazy Bruce Dern look and say "Keep it up and you're next!"

[Kain99]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

(Sum, some of these Mommies on here try to pretend that their little angel responded to a certain tactic. Don't you believe that because they are lying to you. Kids are boneheads and that's just the way it is.)

Oh Holy God! That's right Sum, Just give up and let your child make your life a living Hell! "That's just the way it is."

[Chasey_Lane (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Pete

Rip the head off her stuffed animal and give her the crazy Bruce Dern look and say "Keep it up and you're next!"

[SamSpade]

Well I'm just as new at this as you are, but everything everyone tells me is to do most of what you're doing already. Just keep doing it and don't quit or let up. It's frustrating, because it seems like you're not getting results, but you are, it just takes a while.

So far with our guy, about the only punishment that has any effect is timeout - *usually*. I'm amazed this works at all - the only thing keeping him in one place is his desire for my approval and recognition of my authority. And it only works at all so long as I make sure there's no way he can enjoy being there and that he absolutely does not move, not even his hands.

Unfortunately, it doesn't mean he won't do what he did to get there again in about five minutes. I sometimes sigh loudly to myself and mutter to myself "the DOGS aren't this hard to train, and presumably you're smarter than them". (Sometimes this is true - it took the dogs exactly ONE try with the invisible fence. After a year, I still have to make him sit down in the bathtub repeatedly).

But what I read and hear is that kids absolutely do remember and learn from this, and it's amazing how much of this they'll keep later in life.

[SamSpade]

Originally Posted by vraiblonde

If you see some 2 year old kid who is always quiet and respectful, who never has a fit about anything, and doesn't drive you to distraction on occasion, call CPS because that is a scary child.

Especially if their eyes glow.

[vraiblonde]

Originally Posted by SamSpade

It's frustrating, because it seems like you're not getting results, but you are, it just takes a while.

That's exactly right

[vraiblonde]

Originally Posted by libby

If mom and dad cannot control a 2y/o, then God help us all when that child grows to 6ft. tall, and parents are still the same size.

You're full of it.

Originally Posted by Kain99

Oh Holy God! That's right Sum, Just give up and let your child make your life a living Hell! "That's just the way it is."

And so are you.

They're kids, not adults. They do not have the powers of reasoning or actions/consequences that an adult, or even an older child, has.

Sum, if worse comes to worse, you can just drug them up with Ritalin. I hear that's all the rage for creating docile, compliant children.

[BadGirl (Premo)]

Last night Bubba had his first real experience with punishment - he had his much-loved Matchbox cars taken away from him for the night. He was miserable without them....I was miserable listening to him whine. But I wasn't about to let a two year old get away with trying to hit me because he didn't want to take his bath.

We actually had a nice evening snuggling in bed watching "Finding Nemo" since he was so exhausted from crying so hard.