What disapline tactic's work for your 2 year old?

[watercolor]

besides a spank on the butt (and I reserve those when needed...) and or yelling?

My daughter has definatly reached the terrible two's stage, but is finding her defiance in the mix too. I am trying to find different tactics that have worked to disapline.

I have no problem swatting her butt if she gets out of line, or a tap on the mouth if she gets sassy. Or telling her to knock it off, and threatening a spanking.. but it almost seems that she is just not caring anymore.

For instance, tonight we were out, had errands to run, and she promptly decided she didnt want to listen, and then when we told her otherwise, she went into a fit. So, I looked her straight in the face and told her to stop, and that it wasnt ok and to stand here with daddy. Trust me, this wasnt in a mamsy pamsy voice. She then decided to revert to saying "no daddy" and yelling it in a manner that made people think that he was hurting her (which he wasnt). So.. I said for him to take her out of the store- I would try the shoes on quickly and be out. I get out, and she appologized "I very sorry mommy". I told her that it is not ok to act this way. Well, we stop at walmart- for me to pick up some things- and I had to go to the bathroom, and hubby stays with the cart and her. She is SCREAMING bloody murder "no daddy.. mommy!" because I went and didnt take her. I could hear her all the way in the bathroom.

I dont want my kid to be a brat. And it is embarassing amongst other things, because I dont want her to be the type of kid that no one wants to be around, and or the one that disturbs people.

I understand also that kids do this, and see what they can get away with, and I am not one to let her do as she pleases. She knows her boundries (or so I thought before), and I use to be able to just give her a look. Now, its "NO" or "NO I WONT" or complete lack of control. Dont get me wrong- I know a 2 year old can only have so much control, but I need to find some other ways to disapline I think, because I dont want to be constantly yelling or screaming, and I dont want to constantly spank her. I have also used the tactic of taking things away- but I dont think she fully gets that concept.

Help?

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Originally Posted by watercolor

besides a spank on the butt (and I reserve those when needed...) and or yelling?

My daughter has definatly reached the terrible two's stage, but is finding her defiance in the mix too. I am trying to find different tactics that have worked to disapline.

I have no problem swatting her butt if she gets out of line, or a tap on the mouth if she gets sassy. Or telling her to knock it off, and threatening a spanking.. but it almost seems that she is just not caring anymore.

For instance, tonight we were out, had errands to run, and she promptly decided she didnt want to listen, and then when we told her otherwise, she went into a fit. So, I looked her straight in the face and told her to stop, and that it wasnt ok and to stand here with daddy. Trust me, this wasnt in a mamsy pamsy voice. She then decided to revert to saying "no daddy" and yelling it in a manner that made people think that he was hurting her (which he wasnt). So.. I said for him to take her out of the store- I would try the shoes on quickly and be out. I get out, and she appologized "I very sorry mommy". I told her that it is not ok to act this way. Well, we stop at walmart- for me to pick up some things- and I had to go to the bathroom, and hubby stays with the cart and her. She is SCREAMING bloody murder "no daddy.. mommy!" because I went and didnt take her. I could hear her all the way in the bathroom.

I dont want my kid to be a brat. And it is embarassing amongst other things, because I dont want her to be the type of kid that no one wants to be around, and or the one that disturbs people.

I understand also that kids do this, and see what they can get away with, and I am not one to let her do as she pleases. She knows her boundries (or so I thought before), and I use to be able to just give her a look. Now, its "NO" or "NO I WONT" or complete lack of control. Dont get me wrong- I know a 2 year old can only have so much control, but I need to find some other ways to disapline I think, because I dont want to be constantly yelling or screaming, and I dont want to constantly spank her. I have also used the tactic of taking things away- but I dont think she fully gets that concept.

Help?

grab her ear, my parents always did that to us and it seemed to work. The only thing that you can really do is be stern, which it sounds like your doing, it will take time but shell come around.

[libby]

It sounds to me like you're doing just fine. As you said, she's not going to (at two years old) sit down and say, "Oh Mom, I've been so blind! Of course, you're the mom and I'm the child and that's why I'll sit right here, right now, because you told me to."
You may have to do this same thing 10 times, or maybe 10,000, but one day she will know that you mean what you say.
Just be sure that you don't allow her to run the asylum at home, but then expect compliance while you're out (y'know, just because people are looking). THAT is confusing for a kid! Okay one minute, and a punishable offense the next.

[libby]

Oh, and I'm all for spanking, but I do try to reserve that for serious mortal danger kind of things. Going in the street, etc.
Otherwise, you might find that you're spanking a two-year-old all over the place.

[RoseRed (Premo)]

Velcro & duct tape.






Seriously, you sounds like you are doing all the right things. She is testing her boundaries. Over and over again. Be consistent and follow through.

[StrawberryGal]

Originally Posted by watercolor

besides a spank on the butt (and I reserve those when needed...) and or yelling?

My daughter has definatly reached the terrible two's stage, but is finding her defiance in the mix too. I am trying to find different tactics that have worked to disapline.

I have no problem swatting her butt if she gets out of line, or a tap on the mouth if she gets sassy. Or telling her to knock it off, and threatening a spanking.. but it almost seems that she is just not caring anymore.

For instance, tonight we were out, had errands to run, and she promptly decided she didnt want to listen, and then when we told her otherwise, she went into a fit. So, I looked her straight in the face and told her to stop, and that it wasnt ok and to stand here with daddy. Trust me, this wasnt in a mamsy pamsy voice. She then decided to revert to saying "no daddy" and yelling it in a manner that made people think that he was hurting her (which he wasnt). So.. I said for him to take her out of the store- I would try the shoes on quickly and be out. I get out, and she appologized "I very sorry mommy". I told her that it is not ok to act this way. Well, we stop at walmart- for me to pick up some things- and I had to go to the bathroom, and hubby stays with the cart and her. She is SCREAMING bloody murder "no daddy.. mommy!" because I went and didnt take her. I could hear her all the way in the bathroom.

I dont want my kid to be a brat. And it is embarassing amongst other things, because I dont want her to be the type of kid that no one wants to be around, and or the one that disturbs people.

I understand also that kids do this, and see what they can get away with, and I am not one to let her do as she pleases. She knows her boundries (or so I thought before), and I use to be able to just give her a look. Now, its "NO" or "NO I WONT" or complete lack of control. Dont get me wrong- I know a 2 year old can only have so much control, but I need to find some other ways to disapline I think, because I dont want to be constantly yelling or screaming, and I dont want to constantly spank her. I have also used the tactic of taking things away- but I dont think she fully gets that concept.

Help?

I always use the counting "1.... 2.... 3...." method to get my son stopped that bad and negative behaviors. It always works for me. People are actually surprised and shocked that I was able to use the counting tactic method. My son always say "No, Mommy, don't count, please!" and ran to sit down. He always "obey" when I use the counting tactic method.

Also, as the Super Nanny 911 said, put your child in time out by using per a minute of her age. For example, she is two years old, put her in a time out for 2 minutes.

Hang in there... I know terrible two isn't fun. My son didn't start his terrible two stage until he was a little over 3 years old and now, he is 4 years old.

[jwwb2000]

Both of mine, ages 7 and 4, have to stand in the corner with their noses firmly planted on the wall until the timer goes off. They both know when I say corner, they messed up big time.

[sockgirl77 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by StrawberryGal

I always use the counting "1.... 2.... 3...." method to get my son stopped that bad and negative behaviors. It always works for me. People are actually surprised and shocked that I was able to use the counting tactic method. My son always say "No, Mommy, don't count, please!" and ran to sit down. He always "obey" when I use the counting tactic method.

Also, as the Super Nanny 911 said, put your child in time out by using per a minute of her age. For example, she is two years old, put her in a time out for 2 minutes.

Hang in there... I know terrible two isn't fun. My son didn't start his terrible two stage until he was a little over 3 years old and now, he is 4 years old.

It worked until my son learned to count. Then he just laughed and followed with 4...

[watercolor]

Originally Posted by sockgirl77

It worked until my son learned to count. Then he just laughed and followed with 4...

YES! that is what she is doing and will count her little self up to 12

[sockgirl77 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by watercolor

YES! that is what she is doing and will count her little self up to 12

And it's so freaking hard not to laugh at them, isn't it?