Neighbor's kid....

[MMDad]

Originally Posted by bresamil

I'm thinking the poster may not realize CPS does not always tear families apart. Many times it helps educate them and the families benefit as a result.

They can also determine if it really was an isolated incident. Most of the people who work for CPS are trained, competent, and care about doing what's right for the kids. And that almost always means NOT taking kids away.

[Baja28]

Originally Posted by bresamil

The kitties do seem taken with you.

Yep, they have everything they need, not want.

[Vince]

Originally Posted by poster

(7yr) came over yesterday with his 3yr old autistic(sp?) brother.
I only know this because he announced it when they showed up. No call from the parent's, they crossed a 50mph road alone to get there and he's in diapers. I've never had contact with this child and have no idea how to handle him IF something came up. I had to follow after him and keep him directed at safe play the whole time he was there. Thankfully he didn't seem to mind. I let him stay about 45min before I made up my mind and marched him home by the hand. I told his father he was too young to come over and play at our house.

The father had NO idea he was at my house and he wasn't even looking for him, said thank you and please send home the older one. Totally blows me away. I don't understand parents today.

Maybe the father expected them to be in the house. And at 3 years old, the parents are probably just finding out the child is autistic. They have no clue what they are in for and how to handle the child. They expect the kid to act the same as the 7 year old. Not a prayer. Before you folks start spouting off about calling CPS, give the parents a chance to handle the situation. It's not easy and they are in for a long hard road. Believe me.

[mAlice (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Vince

Maybe the father expected them to be in the house. And at 3 years old, the parents are probably just finding out the child is autistic. They have no clue what they are in for and how to handle the child. They expect the kid to act the same as the 7 year old. Not a prayer. Before you folks start spouting off about calling CPS, give the parents a chance to handle the situation. It's not easy and they are in for a long hard road. Believe me.

Autism aside, a 7 year old should not be responsible for a 3 year old, and if you haven't heard your children for 45 mintues, you should find out why.

[bresamil (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Vince

Maybe the father expected them to be in the house. And at 3 years old, the parents are probably just finding out the child is autistic. They have no clue what they are in for and how to handle the child. They expect the kid to act the same as the 7 year old. Not a prayer. Before you folks start spouting off about calling CPS, give the parents a chance to handle the situation. It's not easy and they are in for a long hard road. Believe me.

I know you have personal experience to draw from, but I'm sure you knew where both your kids were at age 3. No way they would have been unaccounted for 45 minutes. My kids are all considered normal (unless you talk to me 30 minutes into a fight with the oldest over homework), but at age 3 I knew where they were ALL the time.

[kwillia (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Vince

Before you folks start spouting off about calling CPS, give the parents a chance to handle the situation.

See... based on the info provided, I am inclined to agree with you because my immediate thought would be that the parent(s) don't wish harm on their child and they should be given the opportunity to deal with this on their own. I don't understand what the masses expect CPS to do other than snatch up the kid(s) and place them in foster care.

[poster]

Originally Posted by Vince

Maybe the father expected them to be in the house. And at 3 years old, the parents are probably just finding out the child is autistic. They have no clue what they are in for and how to handle the child. They expect the kid to act the same as the 7 year old. Not a prayer. Before you folks start spouting off about calling CPS, give the parents a chance to handle the situation. It's not easy and they are in for a long hard road. Believe me.

Thank you.

[Vince]

Originally Posted by bresamil

I know you have personal experience to draw from, but I'm sure you knew where both your kids were at age 3. No way they would have been unaccounted for 45 minutes. My kids are all considered normal (unless you talk to me 30 minutes into a fight with the oldest over homework), but at age 3 I knew where they were ALL the time.

Only lost track of Jay once and believe me that kid could disappear quick. I searched the yard, which is fenced in, searched the house and was out in the neighborhood looking. He was in the house in a closet. Why he crawled into a closet I'll never know. Couldn't leave him alone long either. Found him in his bedroom one day with the fireplace poker, poking holes in the wall. I can laugh about it now, but then......

[bresamil (Premo)]

Originally Posted by Vince

Only lost track of Jay once and believe me that kid could disappear quick. I searched the yard, which is fenced in, searched the house and was out in the neighborhood looking. He was in the house in a closet. Why he crawled into a closet I'll never know. Couldn't leave him alone long either. Found him in his bedroom one day with the fireplace poker, poking holes in the wall. I can laugh about it now, but then......

Ah, see, you WERE aware he was missing.

Kids love closets. Mine hid in the pantry and waited for me to open the door. Thank goodnes I could hear the giggling in anticipation or else he'd have given me a heart attack.

[mAlice (Premo)]

Originally Posted by bresamil

Ah, see, you WERE aware he was missing.

Kids love closets. Mine hid in the pantry and waited for me to open the door. Thank goodnes I could hear the giggling in anticipation or else he'd have given me a heart attack.

Kids who don't have autism hide in closets. Concerned parents go and look for them. Mine couldn't be quiet for more than 5 minutes before I'd investigate, and I would NEVER have handed my 3 year old over to a 7 year old.