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Originally Posted by morningbell  Not a pro Hillary thread or anything....
Two instances today are the need for this post. This occured at the pool today. My child was playing with a small group of kids. One of the mommies was sitting and monitoring her little angel and I was swimming close by. My child swam to me and told me theat the boy he was playing with said he was going to punch my son. So I swam over and asked why he thinks punching is ok. Apperently my son was jumoing (along with 2 other children) off the side and had no idea that he was spashing this kid (same age as my son mind you). The kid started splashing my son so my son splashed back thinking this is now a game. Then came the threat of this kid punching my son. I was talking to him by his mother, asking them both gently what would be a better way to handle this. Still mom didn't budge, didn't care that her son was a bully.
Second issue is with my neighbor's child. He is the oldest in his family of 3 and one on the way, happens to be the same age as my son. He was telling me that my son (in front of my son) that he was throwing a toad up in the air and hitting it with a stick, then pulled out the tongue of the toad and squeezed the little limp thing until guts came out. My son adimently telling me "no, he is wrong" the whole time "Damien" was telling these lies, it was Damien that was doing these things and he thought it was funny putting the blame on my son like that.
My son happens to be all about nature and animals, he would never hurt a fly. He finds bugs, reptiles, fish, crabs... etc, identifies them and lets them go. He would rather watch Animal Planet and Nat. Geo. over Disney or Cartoon Network. At my neighbor's house boyfriend of the mom has been arrested at least 3 times in the past 6 months, some sort of drug activity has been occuring, they have dogs that run away on a daily basis, mone being an unaltered Pit, they are too lazy to exercise them, the dogs get beat and I have whitnessed "Damien" beating the dogs. I have turned a blind eye to it all long enough and I'm at the boiling point. I asked my son if he really wanted to play with "Damien" any more and if he thinks this kid is worth his time, my son says no.
Am I doing the right thing or is it medeling to step in by telling these people what "Damien" has been saying/doing? Do I stand idly by letting these creatons dig their own ditch when there are children and animals involved?
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Here is my view/opinion on this. Depending on how old your child is as to whether or not you step in. I don't completely agree that you sit back on sidelines
while things are happening. That isn't parenting. By you stepping in is teaching your son what to do in matters of this nature. If you do nothing, he is likely to do nothing in the future. Then you have WIMPY PARENTS!!! You step in when it's necessary. Your child is coming to you for help because obviously he doesn't know what to do. Secondly, the other child (1st scenario) was ticked because your child was splashing him and instead of saying "Your splashing me", he didn't express himself and therefore your child didn't know the problem. Yeah, perhaps the child is a bully because it was just as easy for him to move. It's a pool and that what kids do. His mother should have stepped in and corrected her son.
As for the other scenario, if you have witnessed serious abuse and neglect to the neighbors pets, it is your duty to step in and call the Humane Society of your area. They will investigate to see if there is actual animal abuse. As for their child, your son shouldn't associate with him. The kid will eventually become a menace to society. He obviously has parent issues and probably suffers from neglect himself. The kid needs to understand that what he is doing is wrong and hurtful. He probably needs child counseling. While it's okay to feel empathy for this other kid, it is your duty to protect your child.
My advice, don't sit back on the sidelines. Your making your child WIMPY just by doing nothing. Too many parents out there not being parents and then people wonder why their kids become a menace to society. It's unfortunate but we can't save all of the kids. There are going to be more and you can't run away from them. If it gets out of hand, then pehaps more drastic measures need to happen but until then, just get a handle on it and do what you feel is necessary. Teach your child how to handle situations so he will know what to do when he becomes a Father one day.
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