To do or Not to do...

[poster]

Really now that I've thought about this, why not just give it to Grandpa as it is?
He's you're dad right, just let him have it along with whatever you give him.
He obviously knows the situation, he'd be pleased to get it and you're little one will get to give it and be happy. He's probably not old enough to worry about it yet.

[vraiblonde]

Originally Posted by poster

Really now that I've thought about this, why not just give it to Grandpa as it is?
He's you're dad right, just let him have it along with whatever you give him.
He obviously knows the situation, he'd be pleased to get it and you're little one will get to give it and be happy. He's probably not old enough to worry about it yet.

I think that's the best idea yet!

[Mojo]

Kris,

You should just make some Stuffed Zucchini Flowers and call it a day

[united]

or you could let him give it to you, because are not the mommy and the daddy?

[RareBreed]

Why not ask your son what he wants you to do with it? He knows that a "Daddy" is not around so he just might give you a answer you hadn't thought of.

[Poohhunny1605]

Originally Posted by kris31280

My son's daycare created cards and gifts for the fathers for father's day.

That's well and good... but my son doesn't really have a father... not one worth mentioning anyway.

He has a man who was engaged to his mother at the time of his conception, but the engagement didn't last and the man has seen him for about 10 minutes total in his entire almost 3 years.

So what do I do with the card/gift?

Do I:

1. Try to change the "daddy" on them to "Grandpa" and give them to grandpa?
2. Throw them away?
3. Put them with the rest of his kiddie art projects to look at someday down the road?
4. Send them to the address I believe his father lives at?

I wouldn't try to change "daddy" to "grandpa" I would have Rowan give Grandpa his own special gift. I do agree though that Grandpa does know the situation and you can ask Rowan his opinion of whom he wants to give it to. Just a thought.

I wouldn't throw it away, if anything, I agree with putting it with the rest of his projects or hang it on the fridge. You are in fact (me being a single mom myself) are "mommy" and daddy". So, I would let him be proud of his art work and put it on the fridge or hang it in his room.

I don't think trying to send it to "daddy" is a good idea, chances are, if he doesn't care, he may throw that precisious card away and not think twice. Atleast if you keep it, it will mean something to you. I think all moms have that soft spot for our childrens art projects, eventhough it says daddy on it.

JMO

[SoMDGirl42 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by united

or you could let him give it to you, because are not the mommy and the daddy?

I was going to suggest this earlier, but after everything that has been said this morning I decided not to rock the boat any further, but what the hell, I'm going for it.

When my two older children were younger (even though their father was somewhat in their lives) they gave me a few father's day cards.

[pcjohnnyb (Premo)]

Originally Posted by SoMDGirl42

I was going to suggest this earlier, but after everything that has been said this morning I decided not to rock the boat any further, but what the hell, I'm going for it.

When my two older children were younger (even though their father was somewhat in their lives) they gave me a few father's day cards.

Aww.

I'm pretty sure GF says "happy mother's day" to her dad or something like that. I find it really sweet because it is like, double appreciation for the parent that actually stuck with you through it all and didn't up and leave, or whatever.

[ocean733 (Premo)]

Originally Posted by poster

At 3yrs old, I'm guessing, the child won't remember.
Keep it out of sight/out of mind for a little while then throw it away.

I'm surprised your daycare didn't catch this?
I'm assuming they know there's no father, so why not have him make a card with an alternate title?

Sometimes a daycare provider knows. Sometimes they don't. Usually children want to participate in art no matter what it is.

[kris31280 (Premo)]

My daycare provider solved the problem for me. She felt bad for forgetting, so today she had Rowan make a card for Grandpa and made a new frame that said "Grandpa's Helper" instead of "Daddy's Helper".

Needless to say, I'll be sending a thank you note on Monday.