To do or Not to do...

*kris31280* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:41 AM

My son's daycare created cards and gifts for the fathers for father's day.

That's well and good... but my son doesn't really have a father... not one worth mentioning anyway.

He has a man who was engaged to his mother at the time of his conception, but the engagement didn't last and the man has seen him for about 10 minutes total in his entire almost 3 years.

So what do I do with the card/gift?

Do I:

Try to change the "daddy" on them to "Grandpa" and give them to grandpa?
Throw them away?
Put them with the rest of his kiddie art projects to look at someday down the road?
Send them to the address I believe his father lives at?

jetmonkey · 06-13-2008, 10:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kris31280

My son's daycare created cards and gifts for the fathers for father's day.

That's well and good... but my son doesn't really have a father... not one worth mentioning anyway.

He has a man who was engaged to his mother at the time of his conception, but the engagement didn't last and the man has seen him for about 10 minutes total in his entire almost 3 years.

So what do I do with the card/gift?

Do I:

Try to change the "daddy" on them to "Grandpa" and give them to grandpa?
Throw them away?
Put them with the rest of his kiddie art projects to look at someday down the road?
Send them to the address I believe his father lives at?

Was this your soul mate?

nomoney · 06-13-2008, 10:46 AM

make your own decision

ocean733 · 06-13-2008, 10:46 AM

I think #4 is a definite NO.

*pixiegirl* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:47 AM

Option 2.

*kris31280* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by jetmonkey

Was this your soul mate?

... no. He was just this guy I fell in love with and ignored all the red flags as to why he shouldn't have been the guy I fell in love with.

Can't regret him, though... I got the best part of that relationship giving me hugs and kisses every night.

vraiblonde · 06-13-2008, 10:48 AM

Option 1

*kwillia* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:49 AM

No need to make a huge deal out of it, Kris. Hang the thing on the fridge like you would any other piece of art work and be done with it. The little dude has to learn that day to day life goes on even if his father isn't in the pic.

*Radiant1* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:52 AM

I realize your son is young yet but has he ever asked about his dad, and if so, what have you told him? If not, you're going to have to face that sooner or later anyway.

I would go with option #3, or as Kwillia said, hang it on the fridge like any other piece of artwork.

*pixiegirl* ^(Premo) · 06-13-2008, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by vraiblonde

Option 1

You don't think grandpa would be kinda butt hurt over that. I'd get/make grandpa one of his own opposed to changing something made for the daddy.

06-13-2008, 10:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
kris31280 ^(Premo) Life's a Vacation... Member Since: Jul 2007 Location: Hollywood, MD Posts: 4,712	To do or Not to do... My son's daycare created cards and gifts for the fathers for father's day. That's well and good... but my son doesn't really have a father... not one worth mentioning anyway. He has a man who was engaged to his mother at the time of his conception, but the engagement didn't last and the man has seen him for about 10 minutes total in his entire almost 3 years. So what do I do with the card/gift? Do I: Try to change the "daddy" on them to "Grandpa" and give them to grandpa? Throw them away? Put them with the rest of his kiddie art projects to look at someday down the road? Send them to the address I believe his father lives at? __________________ remembering you standing quiet in the rain as i ran to your heart to be near and we kissed as the sky fell in holding you close how i always held close in your fear remembering you running soft through the night you were bigger and brighter than the snow and screamed at the make-believe screamed at the sky and you finally found all your courage to let it all go
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06-13-2008, 10:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
nomoney .... Member Since: Sep 2003 Location: Lend me some sugar, cuz I am your neighbor Posts: 18,699	make your own decision
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06-13-2008, 10:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
pixiegirl ^(Premo) kitty lover Member Since: May 2002 Location: perfect in every way.... Posts: 19,751	Option 2. __________________ "... See there's this place in me where your fingerprints still rest, your kisses still linger, and your whispers softly echo. It's the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me." --Gretchen Kemp
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06-13-2008, 10:48 AM	#7 (permalink)
vraiblonde Boring by Design Member Since: Mar 2001 Location: "Cynical" is my middle name Posts: 52,754	Option 1 __________________ Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money.
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06-13-2008, 10:49 AM	#8 (permalink)
kwillia ^(Premo) * * * * * Member Since: Sep 2002 Posts: 30,948	No need to make a huge deal out of it, Kris. Hang the thing on the fridge like you would any other piece of art work and be done with it. The little dude has to learn that day to day life goes on even if his father isn't in the pic.
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06-13-2008, 10:52 AM	#9 (permalink)
Radiant1 ^(Premo) virtus invicta gloriosa Member Since: Apr 2007 Location: at the mountaintop Posts: 2,358	I realize your son is young yet but has he ever asked about his dad, and if so, what have you told him? If not, you're going to have to face that sooner or later anyway. I would go with option #3, or as Kwillia said, hang it on the fridge like any other piece of artwork. __________________ Power is never having to say that you are sorry; strength is to do so anyway. ~R1 "Wisdom is knowing what to do next; virtue is doing it." ~David Starr Jordan "Character is doing what's right when nobody is looking." ~J. C. Watts, Jr.
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