Motor mouth

[Moved_south]

The boy is 8. Academically, I have no complaints about his performance at school. However, the boy CANNOT keep his mouth shut. He comes home with "yellow" stamps (green= good, Yellow=not good, Orange= even more not good, Red= demon child) and notes that he is running his mouth when he should be paying attention. When he comes home on yellow- he is not allowed TV nor is he allowed to play his DS. I have started giving him an additional assignment to complete as well.

We recently tried changing our approach a bit and trying to reward the green days- "you earned DS time today!! good job!" kind of thing. To no (well little) avail. I am of the opinion that you do not "reward" behavior that is expected from you. You go to school. You do what you are told. You shut your mouth. Period. end of story. BUT, I am will to try whatever it takes to get him to stop getting in trouble at school.

Hubby thinks the teacher is picking on him. I want to hold him accountable. We have a meeting scheduled Feb. 12th. Am I making too big a deal out of yellow days? Anyone have any experience dealing with a strong willed, talkative boy-child? He is really not a bad kid and his grades are good. Any advice would be appreciated. TYIA.

[czygvtwkr]

If he is fine academically it is most likey because he is bored, the class moves slower than him. I had this problem, teachers were always calling my parents because I wasnt paying attention. I wasn't paying attention because what they spent an hour going over I could learn in five minutes.

[struggler44]

Originally Posted by czygvtwkr

If he is fine academically it is most likey because he is bored, the class moves slower than him. I had this problem, teachers were always calling my parents because I wasnt paying attention. I wasn't paying attention because what they spent an hour going over I could learn in five minutes.

Sounds like he's not challenged enough....

[Crewdawg141]

Originally Posted by struggler44

Sounds like he's not challenged enough....

Exactly! I was the same way, try to use your motivation with something that lights his internal fire/passion. For me it was museums and anything mechanical, I would grab anything about either - show, books, magazines, etc. Use what interests him other than a DS or video game that will spur his mind into doing more. See if that works for you, let us know if it helped or what worked for you and your son.

[Bay_Kat (Premo)]

Originally Posted by struggler44

Sounds like he's not challenged enough....

Exactly, my 14 year old daughter was the exact same way, she still loves to talk, but the conversations are very intelligent, like talking to an adult. Sounds like the little guy is bored and needs something more challenging.

[pelers]

Agreed with the others. If his grades are good, but he's not paying attention it's most likely because he is totally bored.

When I was a young 'un and had that problem I had one particularly awesome teacher that let me go off and do my own thing. When the class was working on math, I also worked on math, but I skipped ahead in the book and worked at my own pace. I was still accountable for turning in the homework in the back of whatever chapter I did. During reading time, once I completed whatever book the class was working on I'd turn in a book report on it and then work on another book of my own choosing, followed up by a book report.

Maybe see if his teacher is amenable to something along those lines to the subjects he excels the most/is the most bored in.

[Roman]

I am no Child Professional, but I think the reward system is good. He is just a young little guy, and simply teaching him cause, and effect is a great start. I agree with Struggler44, that he just might be not intelligently challenged enough, and may be bored. He's just a little guy that has a lot to say. I'm glad that you have an appointment with his Teacher, and I think your Husband might be right too. No matter how dedicated a teacher is, he/she can't not like every Child. Good luck, and keep up the good work.

[GURPS (Premo)]

Originally Posted by czygvtwkr

I wasn't paying attention because what they spent an hour going over I could learn in five minutes.

School was BORING .........

[GURPS (Premo)]

to keep my 2nd grader out of trouble - the teacher recognized she was ahead of the class and easily bored - when the assignment is complete, she is allowed to;


1) get a book from the back and quietly read
2) read a book from home ...... something of substance NOT Pokemon

[SoMDGirl42]

I agree, I think he's bored.