Is there any help??????

[TurboK9]

Originally Posted by Godblesdon1218

thats none of your buisness.

First of all, I'm sorry for your situation with your little one. I've family members that have gone through similar, so have an idea how hard it can be. That said, when you post a part of your life on a public forum, you make it everyone's business. You really should not expect only positive responses, if people have never met you and your kids, for all they know you post on forums across the web like this trying to scam people out of money (not saying that is what you are doing, only that some may think you are, etc). Don't expect tolerance particularly when you won't give any.

Other than that, good luck, and best thoughts to your baby.

[Godblesdon1218]

Originally Posted by TurboK9

First of all, I'm sorry for your situation with your little one. I've family members that have gone through similar, so have an idea how hard it can be. That said, when you post a part of your life on a public forum, you make it everyone's business. You really should not expect only positive responses, if people have never met you and your kids, for all they know you post on forums across the web like this trying to scam people out of money (not saying that is what you are doing, only that some may think you are, etc). Don't expect tolerance particularly when you won't give any.

Other than that, good luck, and best thoughts to your baby.

Yes, you are absolutely right. I really hesitatd before I ever wrote anything about my situation. When people thought I was scamming, I took proof to two churches. I think that mabye I should have never posted this, but there were people that helped us get through one of the roughest times I have been through. I know its not over, but I think we are in a better situation than we were. I just hope that my son gets better. Than I can depend on me. Thank you and God Bless

[HeavyChevy75]

I talked to my friend who works for CPS but has dealt with SS. She told me that you really need to explain to them what exactly you need. You need to tell them honestly what is going on. Also have you filed for you fiance's Social secruity benefits for your little one?

[Godblesdon1218]

I just wated to first say thank you to everyone that donated anything from a piece of clothing to help with my rent. I never wanted to sound like I was begging but I just kept getting turned away from help and didnt know what to do. When my son was in the hospital, I really needed to stay with him so that he would know me and also so that I could learn his care plan. He was in the hospital for over two months. I am sorry if I sounded like I was begging. I was afraid of losing my home and of not being able to take him to his appointments. I think that sometimes it just helps me to write and talk to other people so that I dont feel depressed. But i think I will get a journal instead. So, I am sorry if I offended anyone and I know that one day my son will get better. Thank you to all that helped me and to those I offended, Im very sorry. I will post Lil DD's new pictures as soon as i can.

[Godblesdon1218]

Originally Posted by HeavyChevy75

I talked to my friend who works for CPS but has dealt with SS. She told me that you really need to explain to them what exactly you need. You need to tell them honestly what is going on. Also have you filed for you fiance's Social secruity benefits for your little one?

Yes, but they had to summons for his tissue from his autopsy to prove that he is the father. So, since I didnt get the DNA results back, they denied me, but I could appeal after the DNA results. I know that Social Sec gives a lump sum for the deathitself, but I think that should go to his mother because she paid for the funeral. I also applied for disability for my son and havent heard about that. I plan on going back to nursing as soon as he gets better. Thank you for responding (nicely)Have a good 4th

[HeavyChevy75]

I understand his mom paid for the funeral but there will be a montly check that will come for his care from the SSI. I would talk to his mom and work on pursueing it after the DNA test. This is something that Donnie would want for his son escpecially since he does have medical issues.

[Im_Me]

Ann, call me around 9 am if you want to go to church.

p.s. there are several discussion/ prayer groups sponsored by the church for you to join. Some are between sessions right now, but we can get you in something soon.

[Godblesdon1218]

Originally Posted by Im_Me

Ann, call me around 9 am if you want to go to church.

p.s. there are several discussion/ prayer groups sponsored by the church for you to join. Some are between sessions right now, but we can get you in something soon.

My two sons and I rode with my sister to my brothers for family get together and spent the night Saturday and came home Sunday around 5p. I really want to join a discussion/prayer group. I have my clinicals for nursing school on sundays a.m., so I am wondering if there is a mass on Sat night or Sun night. ( I just tube fed Donny and when I burped him, threw up all over me, him, bed etc.) So, Im up bathing him , me, and washing everything. His weight check is tomorrow. I think he has gained. I think they are pushing too much formula on him and his little stomach is still recovering from the operation. I will discuss this with the doctor tomorrow. Call me on my home number in the morning or cell in the afternoon. I will have it on when I take him to the Dr. Thanks, Im really trying to get together soon. Even if they are between sessions at the discussion group, would they still let me sit in? Also, do you think I could bring Donny if he is quiet. I will make sure he is fed and not cranky. Talk to ya tomorrow----ANN

[Godblesdon1218]

Originally Posted by HeavyChevy75

I understand his mom paid for the funeral but there will be a montly check that will come for his care from the SSI. I would talk to his mom and work on pursueing it after the DNA test. This is something that Donnie would want for his son escpecially since he does have medical issues.

Yes, Donnie will be getting checks from his father monthly as soon as the DNA returns. But I have to re-apply. I have to call to find out if the DNA test came back yet. I am going to make sure that the little guy gets through all of this. He is such a good baby.No matter what we have been through, he and my other son definately keep me going. I will definately make sure that he gets monthly social security. I think they do the death benefit(lump sum). and the SS checks seperately.

[Godblesdon1218]

Originally Posted by mingiz

Very well said Kudo's to you and your kids... I donated to this lady through friends. I also have been reading the post. Your right, asking for help when needed is fine and most people will jump in there and help a stranger. But this lady is begging now and expecting it. Her other son is old enough to get a job and help his mother. I think people are tired of it....This lady is old enough to take care of herself and kids. Seems she doesn't want to.

That is completely untrue but that is your opinion and I respect it.