Listen to me now, and believe me later: it doesn't matter how much you pump up those muscles, as long as you reach the full pumptential.
It's not 'roids but thanks for noticing...
Actually, irl, you are very polite, and you are far from stupid. I also know you do a lot of volunteer stuff and other things you don't have to, so that makes you a nice guy. However, I have the caveat that I have never dated you nor have I ever wanted to. So I observe you differently. It does appear other women do think you are a douche. So perhaps you are bad at the relationship thing, whether it's dating or friendships with single females. That's okay. Nobody's perfect.
*Disclaimer: My online conversation and comments to you in no way imply that I am actually interested in you.*
Protect the hive from enemies.