Great letter in the Enterprise yesterday. They need to do a story on how our seniors are treated in this county/country.
Sounds as though she needs to be medicated. Nursing homes aren't obligated to accept people who are disruptive.
Sounds as though she needs to be medicated. Nursing homes aren't obligated to accept people who are disruptive.
Maybe she should take better care of her mother?
I feel for Diane's situation - she may not be in a position to care for her mother for whatever reason, but it used to be the family's responsibility to care for their elderly, not the government's.
HOWEVER:
If we can funnel x-billion$$ to terrorists, and pay for some bebe mamas clean needles so she doesn't get the HIV when she shoots up her drugs, and give welfare benefits to illegal immigrants, we can certainly do something for our seniors.
What used to happen is a couple of things:
People were allowed to die with dignity instead of living well past their expiration date because of medication and body replacements.
Elderly folks either lived with a relative or had a relative live with them.
I feel for Diane's situation - she may not be in a position to care for her mother for whatever reason, but it used to be the family's responsibility to care for their elderly, not the government's.
HOWEVER:
If we can funnel x-billion$$ to terrorists, and pay for some bebe mamas clean needles so she doesn't get the HIV when she shoots up her drugs, and give welfare benefits to illegal immigrants, we can certainly do something for our seniors.
The potshots from the cheap seats are pretty disgusting.
The article doesn't give enough information on what disruptive really means. Diane is saying disruptive while the nursing home would probably say combative or aggressive and the truth is probably some ware in the middle. I have seen a few relatives and friends relatives go through Alzheimer’s or dementia and they can be any ware from calm to super aggressive and dangerous. While I sympathize with her situation I can also sympathize with the employees at the nursing home. No one should have to go to work and fear for their safety. A friend of mines father beat the hell out of his private nurse, broken nose, black eye, and other bruises. His mind might be going but he was still physically strong at that time. It does suck to see your loved one in such a state of confusion that they are scared, angry, and sad all the time. It would be much easier if Alzheimer’s would put everyone in a happy world and a state of euphoria. Getting old can really suck sometimes.Great letter in the Enterprise yesterday. They need to do a story on how our seniors are treated in this county/country.
It does suck to see your loved one in such a state of confusion that they are scared, angry, and sad all the time. It would be much easier if Alzheimer’s would put everyone in a happy world and a state of euphoria. Getting old can really suck sometimes.
Between five kids, all of us have plenty of spare bedrooms when then needed down the road.
It would be more humane to allow seniors to die with dignity rather than be kept alive through medical intervention so that it gets to this point. I live in horror of being in a position where someone else has to wipe my butt and feed me. My kids have strict instructions to let me go when I can no longer care for myself.
Perhaps Diane is an only child. Perhaps she has medical problems of her own and isn't able to care for anyone else. Perhaps she lives in a small home and has very limited funds.
There are a number of reasons why someone can't care for an invalid parent, and not all of them involve selfishness and lack of caring.
What used to happen is a couple of things:
People were allowed to die with dignity instead of living well past their expiration date because of medication and body replacements.
Elderly folks either lived with a relative or had a relative live with them.
I feel for Diane's situation - she may not be in a position to care for her mother for whatever reason, but it used to be the family's responsibility to care for their elderly, not the government's.
HOWEVER:
If we can funnel x-billion$$ to terrorists, and pay for some bebe mamas clean needles so she doesn't get the HIV when she shoots up her drugs, and give welfare benefits to illegal immigrants, we can certainly do something for our seniors.
My ex is taking care of his elderly mother at home. He was taking care of both parents, but his Dad passed away last year. His Mother used to be such an independent, intelligent, working woman. She unfortunately is succumbing to early stages of dementia. My ex thinks he is doing the right thing, but honestly, in my opinion, he is not. She sits in front of a tv all day, she has very little communication with others and doesn't get out except for doctors appointments. Our daughters have tried to convince their father that putting her in a nursing home, she would at least have people to talk too, a nutritionist who could insure she is eating properly, professional nurses, doctors, etc who could possibly work with her to exercise her mind as well as her body. I know we all want to do the best thing for our parents as they age, but, sometimes they best thing is to let the professionals handle it. Doesn't mean you shouldn't visit and stay active in their life, but your qualifications may be limited as to what they need.
I see it differently. So what if her life is shortened because your husband is not an expert at proper nutrition, therapy and mind exercises. He's more than willing to allow her to die with dignity if possible... in her home rather than a clinical setting, with her son caring for her rather than over-extended staff with budgetary marching orders. I find it commendable.