Thoughts on giving yourself a baby shower?

CRHS89

CRHS89

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I have a relative that is pregnant with her second child. The first child is 3 or 4. She is giving herself a baby shower. She has contacted people on facebook for their addresses and now has set up the invite on facebook as well. She advertised a "raffle" for those bringing diapers. Maybe I am old fashioned, but I think this is tacky. It is one thing for a friend to give someone a shower and invite people to give their friend a gift. It seems another to ask for the gifts yourself. "Hey I am having a baby, give me something". Now don't get me wrong...I am very happy for her having another child. I just think it is in poor taste to throw yourself a shower. But I guess it falls in line with how things are now in our "me" society.
 
thurley42

thurley42

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I think you are putting way too much thought and time into something that has nothing to do with you....JMO
 
black dog

black dog

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I'd have to agree with thurley, she has asked if you want to for boxes of diapers not silver from Tiffany's.
 
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DQ2B

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Just plain bad etiquette to throw a shower for yourself but I've seen plenty of bad etiquette in general so maybe people have simply not learned otherwise?
 
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CRHS89 said:
I have a relative that is pregnant with her second child. The first child is 3 or 4. She is giving herself a baby shower. She has contacted people on facebook for their addresses and now has set up the invite on facebook as well. She advertised a "raffle" for those bringing diapers. Maybe I am old fashioned, but I think this is tacky. It is one thing for a friend to give someone a shower and invite people to give their friend a gift. It seems another to ask for the gifts yourself. "Hey I am having a baby, give me something". Now don't get me wrong...I am very happy for her having another child. I just think it is in poor taste to throw yourself a shower. But I guess it falls in line with how things are now in our "me" society.
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Can't you just not go? I doubt she wants someone with your attitude there anyway but felt obligated to invite you because you're family. Can't you just be happy for them without the smugness? God forbid someone is excited to be having a child, AND having a party to celebrate! The humanity!
 
black dog

black dog

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They call this type of party a Diaper Bowl, it's done for the second child by people that don't need all that other kid stuff that is normally brought to baby showers.
A box of diapers is the cost of a ticket to enter the drawing for the prize. Normally a prepaid card. It seems pretty simple, if you don't want to give a measly 10 dollar gift, then don't.

How come you didn't plan and host the party?
 
CRHS89

CRHS89

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black dog said:
They call this type of party a Diaper Bowl, it's done for the second child by people that don't need all that other kid stuff that is normally brought to baby showers.
A box of diapers is the cost of a ticket to enter the drawing for the prize. Normally a prepaid card. It seems pretty simple, if you don't want to give a measly 10 dollar gift, then don't.

How come you didn't plan and host the party?
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1. This is a fairly distant relative who I am not close to 2. I live out of state
And just to clarify, I have no problem buying a gift for her. I am just not a fan of people throwing themselves showers. I guess I am old fashioned. When I was married many many years ago, I refused to have a "Dollar Dance" because I felt it was tacky to ask people to give me money to dance with me or my husband.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Yes, throwing yourself a baby shower is tacky - UNLESS you specify no gifts. I like BD's description of the Diaper Bowl, though.
 
lovinmaryland

lovinmaryland

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black dog said:
They call this type of party a Diaper Bowl, it's done for the second child by people that don't need all that other kid stuff that is normally brought to baby showers.
A box of diapers is the cost of a ticket to enter the drawing for the prize. Normally a prepaid card. It seems pretty simple, if you don't want to give a measly 10 dollar gift, then don't.

How come you didn't plan and host the party?
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:yeahthat:

If its that big a deal offer to host the party for her :shrug:
 
black dog

black dog

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Being it's for a second child I look at her planning her own party with a fun drawing the same as having a BBQ with bringing a silly gift for a chance in a drawing to win a rack of ribs to bring home.
It's not like she's asking for all dad's,uncle's cousins to tuck Ben Franklins during the last dance.
 
frequentflier

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CRHS89 said:
I have a relative that is pregnant with her second child. The first child is 3 or 4. She is giving herself a baby shower. She has contacted people on facebook for their addresses and now has set up the invite on facebook as well. She advertised a "raffle" for those bringing diapers. Maybe I am old fashioned, but I think this is tacky. It is one thing for a friend to give someone a shower and invite people to give their friend a gift. It seems another to ask for the gifts yourself. "Hey I am having a baby, give me something". Now don't get me wrong...I am very happy for her having another child. I just think it is in poor taste to throw yourself a shower. But I guess it falls in line with how things are now in our "me" society.
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I agree with tacky.
 
Chris0nllyn

Chris0nllyn

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Throw a party - Cool
Throw a party and ask for people to bring diapers - Not Cool (I guess)

I'm always looking for a reason to throw a party, entertain, spend time with family. If it happens to be a baby shower I throw, so be it.
 
mAlice

mAlice

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black dog said:
They call this type of party a Diaper Bowl, it's done for the second child by people that don't need all that other kid stuff that is normally brought to baby showers.
A box of diapers is the cost of a ticket to enter the drawing for the prize. Normally a prepaid card. It seems pretty simple, if you don't want to give a measly 10 dollar gift, then don't.

How come you didn't plan and host the party?
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I've never heard of this, but what a cool idea! Now, people just need to remember to give it the proper label so it's not confused with a shower, which is in poor taste. I have been to many baby showers that were given for 2nd or 3rd children. I never had a problem with it because they either needed the help, or it was a reason for friends to get together. We're all tacky like that.
 
RoseRed

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mAlice said:
I've never heard of this, but what a cool idea! Now, people just need to remember to give it the proper label so it's not confused with a shower, which is in poor taste. I have been to many baby showers that were given for 2nd or 3rd children. I never had a problem with it because they either needed the help, or it was a reason for friends to get together. We're all tacky like that.
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We had a wake for my Jack. :smile:
 
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