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    Why Millennials Canít Get Over Being Ghosted After Sex

    Writing in the New York Times, Courtney Sender describes wrestling with feelings of abandonment after such an encounter when her partner ghosted her and vanished without explanation. In her raw, human account, Sender struggles to find an answer to a riddle many in my generation face: If I consented to casual sex, why do I feel abandoned when my partner leaves?

    The problems with casual sex arenít new, and they arenít unique to my much-maligned generation. But where there used to be a shared cultural understanding of romance and heartache, the march of progressive sexual ethics has been so complete that we no longer have the vocabulary to explain what weíre feeling.

    When I left the heartland to join a private medical practice outside Washington DC, I began to see just how thorough this transformation has become. In many ways, DC represents the best and worst of my generation. Idealistic, ambitious young men and women from around the country come to work in politics, government, or the ever-nebulous ďconsultingĒ industry. They hope to make their mark before they settle down somewhere more humane for the rest of their lives. While theyíre here, they do what human beings have always done: reach out to others for intimacy.


    http://thefederalist.com/2018/09/19/...t-ghosted-sex/




    because no matter how impersonal you try to make it, sex is personal
    Weíre tempted to suggest a conspiracy here ó but itís just liberals agreeing yet again that conservatives have hidden, evil motives, because modern liberals simply canít conceive of any other reason to disagree with the liberal consensus.

    ďMoral precepts are constant through the ages and not obedient to circumstances.Ē

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    Because previous generations called them one-night stands.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SamSpade View Post
    Because previous generations called them one-night stands.


    Yeah True ... but it took more time and effort face to face ... now you just swipe left / right match and hookup after a text or two
    Weíre tempted to suggest a conspiracy here ó but itís just liberals agreeing yet again that conservatives have hidden, evil motives, because modern liberals simply canít conceive of any other reason to disagree with the liberal consensus.

    ďMoral precepts are constant through the ages and not obedient to circumstances.Ē

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    Here's how a male friend of mine put it:

    Me: So how come it didn't work out?
    Him: It worked out just fine. She came to me offering sex, and I said yes. Had she come to me offering love, I'd have said no thank you. I can't help that she wasn't honest in her intentions or expectations.

    So there it is: if you offer sex, you will get sex. The reason you feel abandoned afterward is because you weren't honest in your intention and thought that by offering sex you would get love in return.
    "Too much agreement kills a chat."
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    Quote Originally Posted by vraiblonde View Post
    ...... and thought that by offering sex you would get love in return.


    #### been that way since I was dating ....

    Guys 'give' love to get sex - oh baby of course I love you
    Girls 'give' sex to get love - well if I give him sex, eh will love me




    Last edited by GURPS; 09-20-2018 at 08:53 PM.
    Weíre tempted to suggest a conspiracy here ó but itís just liberals agreeing yet again that conservatives have hidden, evil motives, because modern liberals simply canít conceive of any other reason to disagree with the liberal consensus.

    ďMoral precepts are constant through the ages and not obedient to circumstances.Ē

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