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    Off of vrai's-HELP my 3 year isn't listening!

    My 3 year old son, will be 4 in Nov. will not listen to me, unless I scream at the top of my lungs or I spank him! I'm sick of doing both!! I have tried to sit him down and talk, I even went out and bought books and nothing is working. Any sugg!!!!

    My 2nd son will be 2 in july, and he is the same way!!!


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    Have you considered the possibility of a learning disorder? I'm not a big fan of most psychobabble, but I think that something like an auditory processing problem could be a possibility.

    Unless, of course, they're just ignoring you on purpose because they know it riles you up.

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    I really do think he has a touch of autizim(?)not sure how to spell it! Sorry! Everything has to be in place or he has a cow. Some rules he will take to heart to much and some he doesn't do at all. He was supposed to be sleeping on my bed, and I'm in the computer room(that's off of my bathroom). I went to check on him, and he has loation all over my stand up mirror and my bed. Now that's not the first time he has done that, it's like every day!!! He does stuff that he know's he's not supposed to do. At first I thought it was attention, but he goes everywhere with me. To do shopping, to the gym everyday. He is a momma's boy. As a matter of fact I spend to much time with him and not enough with my other son, who is a daddy's boy. Go figure!

    When I do talk to him, I try to figure out why he did it and what he is feeling. That's what this one book said that came highly recommended. I tell him that I still love him, even though he did something bad. It doesn't work, he does it the next day! I get sooo mad at him sometimes!!!
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    Your comment about not having everything in place sounds like obsessive-compulsive behavior. Might be something to check out. But then it may be nothing. Kids at this age are creatures of habit and need a somewhat regimented schedule. So it may just be him testing his boundries ~ although it drives you nuts!

    My daughter will be 3 next month and has done the lotion thing too. If she is to quiet for a period of time, I call to her and ask her what she's doing and I get the standard "nothing...." answer, I know its time to go check on her, because she is into something.

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    I did put the loation up! I house is baby proof but not matthew proof! He gets in everything. He is very smart. He can figure anything out. Those looks on the cabnets, forget it!!! And the naps, he has too or he is a total ass!!! He'll cry and really not listen. He's tried, because he doesn't sleep very good at night! That's another issue! It's sad! He can find something to do wrong with a belt! It's almost like, he likes doing bad things! I will sit him down with crayons and paper, but next thing I no, he's coloring on the walls. And he know's not to do that! People say that he's a typical 3 year old, but man I'm pulling my hair out!!

    Matthew likes to go in the car, my other son(mikey) doesn't. So when I take him places it a treat for him!! He loves shopping and going to the gym to play with the other kids. My husbend says I spoil him too much and that's the reason he's acting like this. So I don't do the things and it gets even worse. I'm damned if I do, and I'm damned if I don't!!!

    He could be bored, but I joined the MOMS club and were always going places and doing things now!

    I don't know! It's hard to explain. I just know that my husbend and I are going crazy!!
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    missi, welcome to the wonderful world of boys! :D I don't think your boys are any different than any other normal boy. They are into anything and everything. It's in their nature. I wouldn't get to worked up about your oldest having a learning disorder just yet.
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    I don't think he has a learning dis order, because he's advanced for his age! He know his colors, even the old colors. His shapes even like hexagon and stuff. His numbers to 20 and his ABC'S. He know's how to spell certin small words like cat or dog. But he's anal about stuff! I was tying to teach him how to hold his pen right, because he wants to learn how to write, and he had a #### fit!!! He wants to learn how to read, but he won't listen! It's werid!
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    Ohhh guys, after the loation thing, I put him in his room to sleep. I just went to check on him and he was half asleep and looked up at me and said "I'm sorry mommy" I said " I no baby, I love you, I always will even when your bad" He told me that he loved me too and he wanted me to snuggle with him. How can you love a person sooo much, but get soo mad at him?
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    How can you love a person sooo much, but get soo mad at him?
    Because they're frustrating, that's why. Your son sounds pretty normal to me - 3 year olds I can do, it's the teens that I have limited experience with.

    He sounds like a normal, curious, active kid. He gets into things because he's curious and it seems like a good idea at the time. At that age, they don't understand the concept of consequences so he's not really thinking how Mommy's going to spank him, just how much fun it would be to squirt lotion all over. Yes, it makes you crazy but it's just one of those things. You have to keep an eye on them constantly and it's draining.

    Now that I think about it, kids don't really change until they hit adulthood - mine were hardheads ("I can do it MYSELF!") as toddlers and they're still that way as teens.
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    Hang in there!

    I remember those days. I have twins, so if you think one child can get into trouble, two can do things that one couldn't get into by himself. They really didn't do bad stuff, they were just mischievous, curious, and fast. Whenever they got into "no-no's" they'd look at me with a devilish smile and a set of matching dimples. I would go into their room at night after they were asleep and just look at them...all quiet and peaceful, snuggled into their beds.

    There are times when they weren't so peaceful during the day and it was always one of two things--tired or hungry. That was the fussiest time, so sticking to a schedule was necessary but not always possible.

    It may be troublesome, the things your son gets into, but I don't he is being bad. He sounds pretty smart for his age, maybe he is bored. Yelling won't do any good and neither will pulling your hair out. Find something he likes and keep him busy, but in 15 minutes he'll want to do something else so have something ready. Some kids can entertain themselves for a short time and others need you to be right there with them.

    My neighbors two little ones come over all the time when I'm out watering my flowers. They can talk an ear off and I don't mind one bit. My neighbor thinks they are bothering me but I tell him/her it's fine 'cause I don't see them all day. Maybe you need a break. Luckily they don't stay three forever.

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