“Did Sex and the City create a generation who are DTF .....

GURPS

GURPS

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“Did Sex and the City create a generation of women who are DTF?”


It seems clear to me now that Carrie Bradshaw is the last person who could ever be qualified to write a column about sex and relationships. She has toxic taste in men and an almost crippling sense of selfishness, but what’s really shocking is how uncomfortable she is with sex. In the first season, she’s embarrassed by the sight of condoms, she gets distraught when she catches Big with another woman (even though they aren’t officially monogamous), and there’s an entire episode where she thinks a man won’t sleep with her because she accidentally farts in front of him. In later seasons, she makes an almost embarrassingly big deal out of kissing a woman, and gets ludicrously upset when she catches Samantha giving a man a blow job. In 2015, all this is small potatoes. After all, one of the most popular films of the year, Fifty Shades of Grey, is about BDSM.

What was going on? When did everyone I knew suddenly get racier than the women on Sex and the City? Furthermore, were my peers and I more open to sex because we had seen the show at an impressionable age? When I imagined my “cool life in the big city” as a teen, it looked a lot like Carrie’s. Was my thirst for the dream one-bedroom apartment tied to my willingness to try things in that bedroom? In true Carrie-manner, I couldn’t help but wonder, “Did Sex and the City create a generation of women who are DTF?”
Everything in Sex and the City is aspirational to a woman of a certain modest, middle-class background. The idea that you can be a single woman, living alone in New York City, and living “fabulously” was kind of a new one in the late ‘90s. Yes, the characters were constantly in pursuit of companionship, but that romance was always the cherry on top of a life that most people — male or female — couldn’t help to attain. And so, all of the hook ups, break ups, and embarrassing sex the characters became part of the “glamorous single life.” To be sexually adventurous was to be “mature.” If even the demure Charlotte York was open to sexual exploration, then shouldn’t I be, too?
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spiraling decline in Morality ... in the 90's SITC, now 50 Shades and BSDM
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Psh. SITC got popular *because* their audience was DTF. To paraphrase Obama, they didn't create that; they just gave women "permission".

And anyone who thinks they can have the same life as some TV character is mental. IRL women like Carrie don't attract men like Big.
 
Monello

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I never watched the show so I don't know the context of the characters mentioned. Life isn't like SITC just like it isn't Cheers, Friends, Seinfeld, South Park or Leave it to Beaver.
 
Tilted

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“Did Sex and the City create a generation of women who are DTF?"
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No. A large portion of females have long been DTF. Though there are big differences between the individual people within any generation, I'd say my generation is one in which the women - many of them - were and are DTF. And that generation reached adulthood before Sex and the City came around.

Perhaps things were different 50 years ago or 100 years ago, but I'd say based on my observations that as far back as 25 years ago younger (but adult) women have been as often interested in casual sex as men have. Not all of them have been of course, but I think it has for a while been remarkably easy for guys to find girls that were DTF, so to speak. I actually suspect that women have always been as interested in sex - at least within relationships, but perhaps even casually - as men are, it's just that the stigma (for women) of being overtly so has only recently worn off to a large degree. At this point there's not nearly as much a double standard when it comes to judging men and women poorly because they each, you know, like to and are willing to have sex.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Tilted said:
Unnecessary social interaction.

Have you not read the TOS? These forums are not here to facilitate unnecessary social interaction.
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Exactly. Google was invented so we didn't have to interact with others unnecessarily.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

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I had to look it up. Down To FXXX. :shrug: Must be a sexting thing.
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Yeah, I couldn't get any help in the thread so, I looked it up, too. I was like "OK, this needed it's own acronym?" Normally, stuff like that is about current events, hip, the latest. I felt like I was reading my parents era slang left over from a bad 70's porn vid. Wonder if the 'researcher' has ever heard of NOW? :lol:
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

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vraiblonde said:
Exactly. Google was invented so we didn't have to interact with others unnecessarily.
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No, it wasn't. Google was invented to take over the world and throw us all into the same search results so that when we search 'get away from it all' we ALL show up at camp Google at the same time, trapped, captured for all time along with our passwords and cc info.
 
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